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| Author: | Knoxxx [ Thu Sep 10, 2015 5:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Girlfriend problems |
So I got back with my ex-girlfriend who I am in a long distance relationship with. When I was with her over seas things were fine. As of the last 2-3 days shes been seriously moody, certain days we talk she is all lovey dovey etc. but then yesterday she was unresponsive through out the day when I was trying to talk with her. So I called her this morning and first thing she said is why didnt u call me last night, I told her because you didnt reply to my text msg even though you saw it. I feel like she is giving me shit tests because she keeps telling me how shes afraid that I am going to get sick of her. Secondly another problem were facing is we run out of things to talk about when we are talking on the phone. One time she said she feels like shes not talking to a boyfriend but a person she knows, this upset me and I flipped out. Later on she told me don't take what I said to seriously I was just sleepy and was saying things. I am comfused about the relationship because one second i feel she really loves me the next second I feel shes distant from me. My sister told me the biggest issue is me and that I am just being insecure about the whole thing (our conversations on the phone losing there spark) and she sees that, she told me not to let her get to me. Anyways what are your opinions guys. |
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| Author: | R.C [ Thu Sep 10, 2015 5:28 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girlfriend problems |
My opinion is that if there ever was a "worst possible scenario you can find yourself in", this would be it. Long distance is always a recipe for failure. Getting back with exes is also a recipe for a different kind of failure. Mix them together and you got one deadly as fuck cocktail. Look man, human relations don't last without real world physical interaction. I don't care if you SPAM all day, text all night and have phone calls in-between. It may work for a few weeks, maybe couple of months at most. And even then, things will not be as they were when you left. You're in a poisoned relationship and the only antidote is cutting out the long distance factor. And even then your chances are not very encouraging. Her behavior is absolutely normal in these kinds of circumstances. Your lack of communication topics? just as normal. The connection between you two is slowly dying. Her mood swings will get worse and worse, the awkward silences will occur more often and that feeling of "why am I even doing this" will start being the status quo. I know you probably won't listen to this advice, like 99% of everyone else who aren't hearing what they want to hear, but break it off with her as soon as you finish reading my reply and you'll be doing yourself an enormous favor. Or stay together and have the happiness slowly being drained from you, have her tell you how much she loves you today and then dump your ass tomorrow, leaving you confused as to "why the fuck are women so crazy? right?" PS: Don't listen to your sister. I know it seems like it would make sense to take a woman's advice on how a woman acts, but they're creatures of the moment. So unless she's in a LDR herself, she won't be capable of providing any relevant information. |
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| Author: | Knoxxx [ Thu Sep 10, 2015 5:50 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girlfriend problems |
The thing is we are both close with each others families, we also both talked about getting engaged in June and she is down for it. My problem is keep the relationship alive till June, she said to me that she knows what she wants and she wants me and that she will be patient with me. I was just under the impression she was giving me shit tests to see how I react, I get the feeling that she is more worried about me losing interest and going back on my ward. N e ways so far today she seems fine, but like u said I get the feeling this kind of behavior will start up again. When ever we are together or around each other its fine and all lovey dovey, its just the second I leave thats when the problems start happening. |
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| Author: | R.C [ Thu Sep 10, 2015 6:25 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girlfriend problems |
Yeah. My first reply remains just as valid. |
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| Author: | Knoxxx [ Thu Sep 10, 2015 6:33 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girlfriend problems |
Thanks for the advice. |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Sep 10, 2015 6:55 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girlfriend problems |
It sounds like your in the Military? Or studying abroad? You may believe you’ve met “the one” but you may end up being just “one of many” to her. You don't know. You need to consider whether or not the two of you can remain exclusive or if you agree to date other people. A lot of shit can change by June my friend. Maybe you should consider putting the relationship on hold. Maybe make the decision to live individual lives apart from the one another while apart. This gives you the freedom to bang other girls without any remorse or responsibility to her. You may even decide to casually keep in touch and potentially re-evaluate the status of the relationship closer to coming back. Like R.C. says, just because couples on TV have all the SPAM they want doesn’t mean that she be available to your girlfriend. It is important that you realize the information from others here is those who have already learned from their own mistakes. You are hanging on out of fear that some dude is plowing her in your absence. If you let go of the girl, you let go of the fear. |
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