Is this how a man Is suppose to be?
I was always a nice guy, Women would always tell me how sweet I was. Of course they would never date me but I was always the one that they could count on.

Through the years I became obsessed with becoming better, always improving, always learning. I never thought anything was wrong with that. The woman that I have been on and off with for the past 6 years isn't what I consider strong in that sense. She is strong in other areas but wanting to improve and be better isn't that.

I have the habit of becoming to emotionally invested, I talk and share too much of my emotions and my thoughts. Most men do not do this and it is what I hear most women complain about. “ My man doesn't talk to me” “ He doesn't tell me what he's feeling” “Why can't they just talk”. You know the usual bull Shi*! Through these conversations though I have found that women, most not all, don't really want that guy I described. The things that they complain about they don't really care to have. If that were the case they would be fucking the nice guy whose shoulder she has been crying on every time the so called asshole did something insensitive. The bottom line is that through our relationship I would always try to improve be better and try something new, but the problem is that I would push her to do the same.

I would share my emotions, my feelings, things that I want improve on personally and things I want to improve in our relationship. She believes that I’m perfect and that she accepts me for all my faults, that her family has nothing bad to say about me, that really no one does. My answer for her “I try to at least deal with my problems, I try to improve and grow.” Then it hit me. The reason why she always felt bad about herself, had low self esteem, felt degraded wasn't because I neglected her, it was because I shared too much with her. I shared my hopes my wants, my dreams, and my desire to become better. Dealing with this constant attitude of improvement can make someone feel inadequate. Its the difference between being hungry and complacent. If I had walled off that part of me off, if I didn’t share the core of my being would things be different? I was raised to be this nice guy and we all know where that leads us. Digging deeper into that though, is being too talkative, being too emotionally available kill possible relationships? How does one wall that part pf them off, and set limiters without completely cutting them self off socially? Is there a balance between being ambitious and complacent? To continue to improve yourself, keeping that drive while at the same time keeping it isolated from her? Is this how a man is suppose to be​? Do women really want this? We all know that the answer to that last question is yes.

A man is supposed to be a symbol of masculinity that inspires women to be feminine. It's not that complicated.

Shortest version I can give you is this: Women want to be the most important thing in your life, aside from yourself. #2 place is all she or anyone else can ever get, and that's perfectly fine.
99% of fuckups occur when she takes #1.

I was raised to be this nice guy and we all know where that leads us.

Read: viewtopic.php?f=25&t=190620

If the majority of attractive women are complaining that their man doesn't open up and express his feeling enough you have to figure that there is something to it.

The man I've known that has gotten the most women i've ever seen a man get in my entire life is my great uncle. And when I asked him what his secret was he told me this.. " i've been with thousands of women in my lifetime and not once didn't any of them known that I was worried or that I had an issue. A mans problems are his own, not his womans." A woman wants a man she can lean on to tell her problems to. So she naturally "thinks" she wants the same thing she is being offered from her mate. She wants a turn too. But its not your place.

Women are not good at being NEEDED, they like to NEED. You wouldn't jump into your womans arms and force her to carry you, just because she jumped into your arms and forced you to carry her. We have different places and different things are expected of us despite what they may "think" they want.

The vast majority of women (healthy ones) will attest that males who are in touch with their vulnerability are not only attractive, but highly desired.

NO. This is an overly flawed opinion NOT supported by facts and figures.

Women do not want crying, whining and complaining man bitches. Romance novels and literotica sell more than all of the male porn combined for a reason: Women want a temporary escape from the reality that the world they live in is so full of crying, whining, complaining, weak man bitches so they fantasize about that strong, stoic man whose emotions are hard to decipher in +250 pages and in the climax of the plotline, he shows some feminine emotions in 2 or 3 pages.

Women spend money on these types of masculine male characters (strong, stoic men who show very little feminine emotions) from the typical female romance novel plotline. To know if you're this type of man, without asking the woman for money or favors, observe if she wants to spend her money on you and she's more than happy doing the spending. When she does, then you're the typical female fantasy.

You're wrong N2. Eddie is right.

"Women do not want crying, whining and complaining man bitches." has nothing whatsoever to do with being vulnerable. You seem to be quite confused as to what being vulnerable means. The vulnerable man (the man in touch with himself) is the authentic, strong, and confident man.


To elucidate and clear up your confusion I strongly suggest you read the following article
Read this article http://markmanson.net/power-in-vulnerability

An ambivalent author who loves oxymorons is the wrong guy to elucidate on anything. Sure, he can sound profound and guys who represent beliefs covering opposite thought spectrums may think he's smart.

However,

1 - 1 = 0

It doesn't take rocket science to figure that out.