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Author:  Blackshades [ Wed Jul 15, 2015 10:05 pm ]
Post subject:  How to handle guys that try to game my girl?
Hey guys, first thread.

I've been in a relationship for about year now with my dream girl.
She gets hit on by lots of guys all the time - social media, hookah bar (where she practically lives) and at work. When she tells me about the pick up attempt stories of the day I laugh with her because these chumps want what I have and cant get it :)

My question:
I'm with my girlfriend at a venue. Guys walk up and try to game her. She responds to them. How should I handle the situation?

Similar to the situation a thread on this board. Quoted text from the example used:
viewtopic.php?f=2&t=34530
Quote:
This past Halloween, I dressed up as a five-popped-collar douchebag. I had on five shirts with five popped collars. At one point during the night, a girl managed to steal one of my shirts. Don't ask.

As I was on my way out of the venue, I saw a girl that I thought, in my drunken haze, was someone else. So I went up, gave her a huge hug, and asked her how she'd been. Then I realized that the girl wasn't who I thought she was.

And she had four dudes with her, including her boyfriend.

Oh well, fuck it. I'm already in set.

She took the opportunity to congruence-test me on the most obvious thing she could spot: my clothing.

Girl, in bitchy, accusatory tone: "I just have one question for you. Why are you wearing four shirts?"

By the way, if there's value to peacocking, it's this: congruence tests become extremely predictable.

What did I do? Did I try to logically explain my clothing and qualify myself to this girl? Did I try to bow out gracefully and say something to apologize for what I was wearing? FUCK NO. I maintained my happy fun vibe by giving her a response that, while totally logical, completely failed to answer the gist of her question.

Me: "Well, I WAS wearing FIVE shirts earlier, but she" *pointing to girl that stole my shirt earlier* "stole one of them. Hence, four shirts."

Girl laughs, test passed. I start vibing with her, and the guys, including her boyfriend, don't say a WORD. They couldn't. The girl was having fun. They didn't want to end up being the guy that fucked that up.

An example from my personal experience:

Guy One
Her and I were at a rave. Two guys in particular were relentless with trying to get with her. On the dance floor one guy tried grabbing onto her to grind with her. I grabbed her away from him and we began grinding and dancing. Each time he got near I would block off his path and hold her from behind to dance with her. She thought it was amusing, but was creeped out by him.

Guy two
Outside the rave where you could actually hear a conversation - A guy got up in her face, loudly complimenting her and saying all the things he wanted to do to her such as taking her home. Like an idiot, I stood there listening to him, by her side. He then asked if I was her boyfriend so I said yes. Then he starts only talking to me and saying im lucky, because shes so hot and (insert a million compliments here) and how I better treat her right. The problem here was that she was actually listening to him and responding.

In order for me to improve my game - How would you personally handle a guy trying to game your girl?
Author:  JackZero [ Wed Jul 15, 2015 10:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to handle guys that try to game my girl?
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Author:  n2thevoid [ Wed Jul 15, 2015 11:29 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to handle guys that try to game my girl?
Go up to him confidant, casually and assertively..."Bark up another tree guy, this one's spoken for"
Author:  neo87 [ Thu Jul 16, 2015 4:38 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to handle guys that try to game my girl?
Quote:
Hey guys, first thread.

I've been in a relationship for about year now with my dream girl.
She gets hit on by lots of guys all the time - social media, hookah bar (where she practically lives) and at work. When she tells me about the pick up attempt stories of the day I laugh with her because these chumps want what I have and cant get it :)

My question:
I'm with my girlfriend at a venue. Guys walk up and try to game her. She responds to them. How should I handle the situation?

Similar to the situation a thread on this board. Quoted text from the example used:
viewtopic.php?f=2&t=34530
Quote:
This past Halloween, I dressed up as a five-popped-collar douchebag. I had on five shirts with five popped collars. At one point during the night, a girl managed to steal one of my shirts. Don't ask.

As I was on my way out of the venue, I saw a girl that I thought, in my drunken haze, was someone else. So I went up, gave her a huge hug, and asked her how she'd been. Then I realized that the girl wasn't who I thought she was.

And she had four dudes with her, including her boyfriend.

Oh well, fuck it. I'm already in set.

She took the opportunity to congruence-test me on the most obvious thing she could spot: my clothing.

Girl, in bitchy, accusatory tone: "I just have one question for you. Why are you wearing four shirts?"

By the way, if there's value to peacocking, it's this: congruence tests become extremely predictable.

What did I do? Did I try to logically explain my clothing and qualify myself to this girl? Did I try to bow out gracefully and say something to apologize for what I was wearing? FUCK NO. I maintained my happy fun vibe by giving her a response that, while totally logical, completely failed to answer the gist of her question.

Me: "Well, I WAS wearing FIVE shirts earlier, but she" *pointing to girl that stole my shirt earlier* "stole one of them. Hence, four shirts."

Girl laughs, test passed. I start vibing with her, and the guys, including her boyfriend, don't say a WORD. They couldn't. The girl was having fun. They didn't want to end up being the guy that fucked that up.

An example from my personal experience:

Guy One
Her and I were at a rave. Two guys in particular were relentless with trying to get with her. On the dance floor one guy tried grabbing onto her to grind with her. I grabbed her away from him and we began grinding and dancing. Each time he got near I would block off his path and hold her from behind to dance with her. She thought it was amusing, but was creeped out by him.

Guy two
Outside the rave where you could actually hear a conversation - A guy got up in her face, loudly complimenting her and saying all the things he wanted to do to her such as taking her home. Like an idiot, I stood there listening to him, by her side. He then asked if I was her boyfriend so I said yes. Then he starts only talking to me and saying im lucky, because shes so hot and (insert a million compliments here) and how I better treat her right. The problem here was that she was actually listening to him and responding.

In order for me to improve my game - How would you personally handle a guy trying to game your girl?

99% of this can be solved just by how you and your girl interact. Most guys hate the idea of getting rejected and arent confident enough to approach a girl with her bf if she seems into him. So if this is happening alot, it's a matter of your girl and you looking lame/boring together, or she is looking around like she wants something better. If she looks into you, most guys aren't gonna want to risk an obvious rejection.

For the guys who are that confident to still approach, she should be telling them she's with you immediately and cutting the guys off herself. It's disrespectful to you if she's responding to these guys. My point is, the only time when you should even have to talk to a guy or do something is AFTER your gf has told him no thanks, ignored him, and he is STILL persisting. If these things arent happening, the problem is with your girl.
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Thu Jul 16, 2015 12:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to handle guys that try to game my girl?
I generally find that a protective case or a hard-sided holster you can fasten your property to your belt with works best.
Author:  Dragula [ Thu Jul 16, 2015 12:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to handle guys that try to game my girl?
Haven't really read the story

But I usually just smile and stare at the girl and look at her in a "isn't he cute?" type of way.
Author:  R.C [ Mon Jul 20, 2015 1:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to handle guys that try to game my girl?
I'm really reluctant to reply here.

If she's responding in a disrespectful (towards you) way, then that's a problem.

If you're just being insecure and seeing the situation as if she were being disrespectful, when she in fact was not, again it's a problem.

But those are two very different problems that have very different solutions.

Point is I do what Peb does. The wolf doesn't feel threatened when the pup hovers around his prey. At the same time you have to be aware of your boundaries and know whats acceptable and whats not. Sometimes your prey may not be worthy of a hunter such as yourself, in which case you'd be better of looking for something better.

Whatever you do though, don't be confrontational and don't respond in a threatened manner. That's weak and unattractive as fuck.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Mon Jul 20, 2015 2:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to handle guys that try to game my girl?
I don't do a thing unless the guys getting out of control.

I'm usually just watching my girl to see how she handles this type of situation. If she does something I don't like I'll let her know once and once only.

However, I can't say I experienced more than once or twice. A lot of it has to do with how you're behaving with your girl, unless you just happen to be away at the bathroom and return to see some guy talking to your girl. I'm pretty hands on with my girls and most guys aren't going to try and hit on a girl who's clearly with her boyfriend.

I also didn't read the whole story.
Author:  dominantsp3cies [ Tue Aug 04, 2015 7:01 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to handle guys that try to game my girl?
You dont handle shit unless hes harassing her . Its not your job, its her responsibility to shut them down ... what kind of girls are you guys dating ?

Yall need to draw some clear boundaries and stop being insecure about being insecure . If something bothers you ... COMMUNICATE. I dont get this weird shit in the pua community about oh dont tell her not to talk to guys , be alpha , let her have guy friends , or youll look weak. FUCK that , my girls have always been educated and trained on dealing with guys ... there is 0 communication with men but me ... and if you dont accept it then FUCK OUT the way.

Theres no man in history who wanted to be "just friends" so take your head out your ass and if you disagree go fuck yourself while i become best friends with your girlfriend, mother and sisters.
Author:  J.Daniels [ Thu Aug 13, 2015 4:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to handle guys that try to game my girl?
If it becomes a problem, become friends with the guy. Literally become good friends with him. He'll either stop out of guilt, or avoid you both.

Adam Lyons did a great video on this recently..
Author:  ChocolatePUA [ Sun Aug 16, 2015 10:32 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to handle guys that try to game my girl?
Quote:
Hey guys, first thread.

I've been in a relationship for about year now with my dream girl.
She gets hit on by lots of guys all the time - social media, hookah bar (where she practically lives) and at work. When she tells me about the pick up attempt stories of the day I laugh with her because these chumps want what I have and cant get it :)

My question:
I'm with my girlfriend at a venue. Guys walk up and try to game her. She responds to them. How should I handle the situation?

Similar to the situation a thread on this board. Quoted text from the example used:
viewtopic.php?f=2&t=34530
Quote:
This past Halloween, I dressed up as a five-popped-collar douchebag. I had on five shirts with five popped collars. At one point during the night, a girl managed to steal one of my shirts. Don't ask.

As I was on my way out of the venue, I saw a girl that I thought, in my drunken haze, was someone else. So I went up, gave her a huge hug, and asked her how she'd been. Then I realized that the girl wasn't who I thought she was.

And she had four dudes with her, including her boyfriend.

Oh well, fuck it. I'm already in set.

She took the opportunity to congruence-test me on the most obvious thing she could spot: my clothing.

Girl, in bitchy, accusatory tone: "I just have one question for you. Why are you wearing four shirts?"

By the way, if there's value to peacocking, it's this: congruence tests become extremely predictable.

What did I do? Did I try to logically explain my clothing and qualify myself to this girl? Did I try to bow out gracefully and say something to apologize for what I was wearing? FUCK NO. I maintained my happy fun vibe by giving her a response that, while totally logical, completely failed to answer the gist of her question.

Me: "Well, I WAS wearing FIVE shirts earlier, but she" *pointing to girl that stole my shirt earlier* "stole one of them. Hence, four shirts."

Girl laughs, test passed. I start vibing with her, and the guys, including her boyfriend, don't say a WORD. They couldn't. The girl was having fun. They didn't want to end up being the guy that fucked that up.

An example from my personal experience:

Guy One
Her and I were at a rave. Two guys in particular were relentless with trying to get with her. On the dance floor one guy tried grabbing onto her to grind with her. I grabbed her away from him and we began grinding and dancing. Each time he got near I would block off his path and hold her from behind to dance with her. She thought it was amusing, but was creeped out by him.

Guy two
Outside the rave where you could actually hear a conversation - A guy got up in her face, loudly complimenting her and saying all the things he wanted to do to her such as taking her home. Like an idiot, I stood there listening to him, by her side. He then asked if I was her boyfriend so I said yes. Then he starts only talking to me and saying im lucky, because shes so hot and (insert a million compliments here) and how I better treat her right. The problem here was that she was actually listening to him and responding.

In order for me to improve my game - How would you personally handle a guy trying to game your girl?
What's more important is HER reaction to them, physically.

That guy who was grinding on her...did she stand there awkwardly? Move away? Dance?

The guy who was talking to her, you said she was listening and responding.

It sounds to me that she is, at the very least, enjoying the attention. It sounds to me also, that this may be more the issue than the guys gaming your girl.

To be honest, for the vast majority of guys, if a woman shows CLEAR signs of not being interested, then they'll leave her alone. Your girl is obviously not showing this clearly enough.

As Eddie and Dominant said, you may want to talk to your girl.
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