This question isn't all of that clear.

I think you should provide your entire story first. Tell us about your situation, how it started, what happened and where is it at now.

Because to me it just sounds like you are developing oneitis. You are growing overly attached. And now your looking for things to justify your emotion. But thats just what I can pick up from the information that you have provided here. So if you can agree that you have oneitis you don't even need to provide any additional information; leaving would be your best option.

Guys in an LTR: Say you are in the early phases, like within a year of meeting a girl. She does things that are outside your boundaries, but then you define them and she never does them again.

The problem is, the stuff she said was pretty bad. Things like head games, things about previous boyfriends to get you jealous, things about other guys, ect......things that make you RESENTFUL


Should you just have a strong inner game since this was such a long time ago to get over the resentment? Know that it is in a woman's nature to test your boundaries or get you to put your foot down to lay down the law?

What if those things still haunt you, from years ago? Is the only option to find a new girl?

"Should you just have a strong inner game"?
If you have to ask, then you do not understand inner game.

Two monks were walking down the path back to their monastery after collecting alms that day. They reached a river where a woman was standing, not wanting to get wet. One of the monks picked her up and carried her across, then put her down and kept walking. A few hours later when the monks reached the monastery, the other monk couldn't take it anymore and exclaimed "You really should not have done that. We are forbidden from touching women!" to which the other monk replied "I put her down hours ago... Are YOU still carrying her?"

Finding a new girl won't solve your problem, because your girl isn't the problem - you are.

Let go mate. Should I break out my violin to lament how your delicate ego was bruised? A man has more important things to do than dwell over stupid stuff. Aww, you can't handle your girl's past? You can't stay stoic and courageous in the face of her tests? She'll find a man who can - trust me.

I'm not saying this to get in your face, but you clearly need some tough love.

Gentlemen, this is not a romantic comedy where the lovable loser will get the girl in the end. THIS IS REAL LIFE. She wants a MAN. A man who can handle her, who has values and passions that rule his life. A man who has no time to get overly emotional and butthurt over nonsense. In short, she wants a man who makes her feel like a woman!

Snap out of it mate... Or don't, but you'll never be happy with any girl if you don't.

I wish you success my friend
Mack

Should you just have a strong inner game since this was such a long time ago to get over the resentment? Know that it is in a woman's nature to test your boundaries or get you to put your foot down to lay down the law?

What if those things still haunt you, from years ago? Is the only option to find a new girl?