i guys, I know many of you are skeptical about ldr and so is she, however I feel that both of us should give it a try. We got together 3 days before i left for an overseas training for 2 months.

The story is, that next year I will be going overseas for training for 10 months. Perviously, I went overseas for 2 months.

So my girl said that she's skeptical of ldr and that recently she has be quite cold to me is because she doesn't want to be too emotionally attached to me because of the future. Now, we are in no contact for 1-2 weeks as I promised I gave her space to think about it. Before that I told her not to worry about the future but to enjoy each other's presence in the present.

Things are looking dull on my side and I pretty much know what's the eventual outcome. However I still want to hold on to this relationship, it would be nice if you guys can help me out here.

Oh and one more thing, not sure if it is impt. But earlier this year before I left for the two months training, she drop the LJBF text, when I dig up more why, she stated that she doesn't want a ldr, however I eventually was able to convince her otherwise about the ldr. Maybe this shows that she can be persuaded


Latest update: we broke up, and it is the 2nd week of NC. I want her back, I planned on asking her out for some coffee after going through a month of NC. I heard from my friend that the LDR wasn't the sole reason for it, there various reasons about me.

Right now all i want is to enjoy time with her. Lets face it, 10 months isn't long and i get to come back and visit once every 2 months.

Also, recently, a few days ago, she stopped viewing my snapchat. I'm guessing she is trying to move on and do not want to see me, which can be a good thing because it shows that she misses me.

i guys, I know many of you are skeptical about ldr and so is she, however I feel that both of us should give it a try. We got together 3 days before i left for an overseas training for 2 months.

The story is, that next year I will be going overseas for training for 10 months. Perviously, I went overseas for 2 months.

So my girl said that she's skeptical of ldr and that recently she has be quite cold to me is because she doesn't want to be too emotionally attached to me because of the future. Now, we are in no contact for 1-2 weeks as I promised I gave her space to think about it. Before that I told her not to worry about the future but to enjoy each other's presence in the present.

Things are looking dull on my side and I pretty much know what's the eventual outcome. However I still want to hold on to this relationship, it would be nice if you guys can help me out here.

Oh and one more thing, not sure if it is impt. But earlier this year before I left for the two months training, she drop the LJBF text, when I dig up more why, she stated that she doesn't want a ldr, however I eventually was able to convince her otherwise about the ldr. Maybe this shows that she can be persuaded


Latest update: we broke up, and it is the 2nd week of NC. I want her back, I planned on asking her out for some coffee after going through a month of NC. I heard from my friend that the LDR wasn't the sole reason for it, there various reasons about me.

Right now all i want is to enjoy time with her. Lets face it, 10 months isn't long and i get to come back and visit once every 2 months.

Also, recently, a few days ago, she stopped viewing my snapchat. I'm guessing she is trying to move on and do not want to see me, which can be a good thing because it shows that she misses me.

It wasn't the LDR that made her give the LJBF.

It was the desperation that you were giving off, the same desperation that you are showing here today. Why do you want to be with some girl that you aren't going to be for 10 months? And don't say because you love her. Thats like a guy saying her committed murder because he was angry. Emotion isn't a valid enough reason to take action. Have something solid to stand on, to back the reason for your decision.

You're going to have to continue no contact, but not with the intention of getting her to come back. With the intention of genuinely trying to move on and realize that there is probably better opportunity for you where you are.

Guys number one issue is that they don't know how to let go. If you were willing to let this go because of the challenges it could bring you both, she would be the one trying to convince you to make it work. So you don't have to let go per say, but if your heart you have to learn to be willing to let go. And this is good practice for you man.

Its not like anything has been established between you two yet. It was only 2 months. No kids, no family, there is nothing grounding this relationship except emotions. And emotions are fickle, and ten months is a mighty long time.

If you want to try again in a month feel free man. But I would strongly advise you to learn to let go, because if not you're won't have the solution to these kinds of issues with women for the rest of your life.

Where are you going for training? What's the training for?

You only live once and this girl is giving you a present on a platter. If you are going to a different country you should live it up and have fun. You will never have such a good opportunity to meet and pickup girls as you will when you are travelling. Seriously. Get over her and find other girls. When you get back, hit her up and give her one last chance if you want. But for now leave her be.

I'm training to be a pilot. It will be a 4-5 hrs plane ride away from home