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Author:  Lostinthecrowd [ Sun Apr 26, 2015 10:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Learning to let go
Folks, any advice on learning to let go of a girl when you know you want to move on but she is attached to you?

I've been seeing this girl for about a month and a half. I haven't seen any future from the beginning - it's been mostly a casual fling for me and possibly a rebound from my last serious relationship. I've stated that I'm not ready for a relationship. But she is getting more and more attached to me. I'm struggling with 2 things: 1) Scared of hurting her, 2) being decisive and just cutting it off - kind of difficult when the girl is attractive and is falling head over heels for you

Curious to hear your stories of when you started experiencing this kind of thing as your game improved. 2 years ago I was incredibly lucky to get a date. Now my problem is not having time to date all the girls that want to date me, and breaking it off when they want to keep seeing me but I'm ready to meet more people. I thought things were supposed to get easier as your game improved! :D
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Mon Apr 27, 2015 12:02 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Learning to let go
Bro.

You're looking for a miracle.

When you get a woman emotionally invested and she sleeps with you - especially when you KNOW from the beginning that the relationship isn't going anywhere it comes with a consequence. You got what you wanted, lost interest, and now you want to escape without taking a hit? This is earth bro. It doesn't happen lol.

When I was younger I would just find a reason to get upset with the girl. I would just wait for an argument and then disappear. But the more a girl likes you the least likely she'll argue with you. The only arguments you get is "Why don't you spend more time with me" or " Why don't you like me as much as i like you"

Now, I just tell them the truth. Its pains me to say it and it pains them, but its the mature thing to do. You're hurting by forcing yourself to be around her and/or text her more than you want to.

That or.. you slow but surely start pretending you're needy, start calling all the time, telling them you love them 5 times a day though text and let them break up with you. I've never done it, but my buddy does it like this every time.
Author:  groovy_boy [ Mon Apr 27, 2015 7:14 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Learning to let go
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Bro.

That or.. you slow but surely start pretending you're needy, start calling all the time, telling them you love them 5 times a day though text and let them break up with you. I've never done it, but my buddy does it like this every time.
I was totally thinking of this. It is remarkable how the push / pull attraction dynamic works when one of the two is more needy and not as attracted. I have had it going both ways through an on/off relationship with an ex girlfriend and recently have overinvested to a new girl who was probably not that much into me. She was slowly pulling away and I was moving in, her attraction for me reduced and ended screwing up bit time.

My guess, should you consider going this route in order not to hurt the girl's feeling you will might lose some time out of your life, in order to achieve this by going to the steps of her being exuberant of the newly gained increased attention, then getting bored then starting to resent you.
Author:  Lostinthecrowd [ Tue Apr 28, 2015 5:45 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Learning to let go
Welp I ended it. Feel like an asshole. Should I feel like an asshole right now? She was crying before I got off the phone. Texts afterwards included that she thought I was different and that she could trust me, etc. Ironically she still wants to "try and make it work". The shitty thing is I'm subconsciously tempted because she is hot, but staying with her is more of a headache than it's worth. It's probably good to do this now though. If she's already like this after 6 weeks, I can't imagine the kind of meltdown I would have to deal with after, say, 6 months. Plus I'd be more attached as well, and I'm not ready for that yet. Need to date and explore more before getting into another relationship.

Does this whole breaking it off thing get easier the more you do it? I've only had to do it a handful of times and it just blows balls every time I have to do it
Author:  JackZero [ Tue Apr 28, 2015 6:34 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Learning to let go
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Welp I ended it. Feel like an asshole. Should I feel like an asshole right now? She was crying before I got off the phone. Texts afterwards included that she thought I was different and that she could trust me, etc. Ironically she still wants to "try and make it work". The shitty thing is I'm subconsciously tempted because she is hot, but staying with her is more of a headache than it's worth. It's probably good to do this now though. If she's already like this after 6 weeks, I can't imagine the kind of meltdown I would have to deal with after, say, 6 months. Plus I'd be more attached as well, and I'm not ready for that yet. Need to date and explore more before getting into another relationship.

Does this whole breaking it off thing get easier the more you do it? I've only had to do it a handful of times and it just blows balls every time I have to do it
Sounds like you stayed consistent with her if you told her up front that you didn't want a relationship. The problem is actually that she thought she could change you and because she couldn't, she's trying to make you feel guilty for it.

A real asshole would have been leading her on about a future with you and then dropping her after you fucked her.
Author:  BrownLinda [ Wed Apr 29, 2015 8:39 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Learning to let go
Let her go, you may find better one soon
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