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Author:  shakeelali786 [ Thu Mar 12, 2015 2:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Getting her back/ is she gone
Guys I really really need your help! I have been with my girlfriend for a year now and I love her to bits...
I'm at uni but work as a doorman just now(I'm 21) we met one night last year on the door and everything was amazing! A year later down the line and we were- until the last few days sooo loved up! She would send me stuff that the pua community and my friends would consider psycho- mentioning how she can't wait to get married live with me, how she 'worships the ground I walk on and can't imagine herself without me it make me feel sick' were here exact words in a text two weeks ago

We both work Monday to Friday so we spend the weekends together. When we first met she was the party girl type loved going out drinking etc then when she got with me a few months into the relationship she changed and kept saying how she would love nothing more than to sit in and chill and watch a movie with me at the weekends rather than go out with her friends at weekends etc.

All was well, she took up a online uni course and got a promotion at work where her workload increases significantly but not until the next few months...

Friday 6 march( last week) I had finished work in the morning and had uni etc so came home and went to sleep so we agreed she could just come through on the Saturday! We studied when she came through but she hadn't been eating anything- strange for her she's skinny with such an appetite! Basically the night went well, had sex on Sunday and then in the afternoon she said her friend text her for a catch up so she went to see her! It's her friends bday this coming up soon so their going out on Saturday (fine with me) but I asked her if I was going to see her on the Friday or Sunday and she said we both had studying to do etc! Now this wrang alarm bells because she always made time for me. We then had an argument over it and she said she needs time and space to let her 'hair down' and go out and get drunk with her friends- that's cool with me.

So she basically said I was adding to her list of stresses and I said to her I'll give her space. She ended up changing her SPAM picture yesterday and I lost it... I went out and spoke to her mum.. We get on well! She said she had seen a change in her and said to her and she said she doesn't know if she wants to be in a LTR anymore... I've agreed to give her space till next week, I'll leave it over the week mark and then we can meet up and decide what's happening!

What do I do from here???
I'm madly in love with this girl, she does soo much for me and was madly in love with me (says she still is) ??
I'm going back to my home city for the weekend and she's going out in her home city so we are over 100 miles away from each other... We both said we will know if there's anything there for the future for us if she feels things for me whilst we don't talk for the week or so and she gets her head straight! Were still in a relationship she said and on FB but how do I make sure she longs for me? Photos of the night out I'm going on? Photos of me with other girls? (We've never been like that, more than loyal and we would never like other girls or guys pictures on FB, even if you think their hot which you see soo many guys doing these days)

I need help guys

SALI
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Thu Mar 12, 2015 2:44 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting her back/ is she gone
I'll pre-warn you.... you've asked a PICKUP FORUM questions on how to game your girlfriend... You're going to get PICKUP responses which may or may not be relevant to you... Take them with a grain of salt.

IMO you're kind of jumping the gun here. You've lost her before you've even lost her...

Give her space. Let her miss you. That's all you need to do. Don't be a dick and game your girlfriend... You don't need to pull a jealousy play via some immature FB pics (that's not a bad move... but this is your girlfriend, not someone you're gaming).

Don't contact her for the week, and go live your life. Meet up with some friends and have a good time.
Author:  R.C [ Thu Mar 12, 2015 2:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting her back/ is she gone
I never really understood why guys freak the fuck out when this profile pic change happens. I mean it's the most obvious thing in the world. I passive-aggressive play that's meant to phase you. So why are you letting it do just that?

Give her space. Don't talk to her for 1 week. Or two.

But I'm gonna be honest with you OP. You seem invested as fuck in this girl. It's ok to love and be in love, but something tells me she's your #1 priority and if that's the case, I will guarantee you right now that this shit won't end well for you.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Thu Mar 12, 2015 7:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting her back/ is she gone
Sounds to me like she may of cheated.

Random behavioral switches like that usually signal cheating. And I'm not exactly saying that she has fucked someone, but it seems that she has taking an emotional interest in someone else.

Too often guys get so caught up within the fantasy of being in a relationship that they forget to pay attention to the cues women are giving. We begin getting caught up in the things that they say and lose focus. Never listen to a woman words, more so pay attention to the emotion thats coming behind the words and respond to that.

If I were you I would give her the space you promised and by that I mean really give her a week, even if she hits you up before that. You need time to rebuild and contacting her will stunt that process because you will be over analyzing everything. Give her the week and if she contacts you before then don't respond until the week has be fulfilled.

This post signifies that you grew emotionally weak. Women aren't like guys in that way that we're bound to our words. The shit she said last week or last month doesn't mean a thing. Thats how she felt in the moment. The only thing that matters is the shit she is saying now.

So the backstory isn't as necessary as guys think it is. With guy friendships it is, but women don't exactly see things from the same scope we do.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Thu Mar 12, 2015 10:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting her back/ is she gone
Quote:
Sounds to me like she may of cheated.

Random behavioral switches like that usually signal cheating. And I'm not exactly saying that she has fucked someone, but it seems that she has taking an emotional interest in someone else.

Too often guys get so caught up within the fantasy of being in a relationship that they forget to pay attention to the cues women are giving. We begin getting caught up in the things that they say and lose focus. Never listen to a woman words, more so pay attention to the emotion thats coming behind the words and respond to that.

If I were you I would give her the space you promised and by that I mean really give her a week, even if she hits you up before that. You need time to rebuild and contacting her will stunt that process because you will be over analyzing everything. Give her the week and if she contacts you before then don't respond until the week has be fulfilled.

This post signifies that you grew emotionally weak. Women aren't like guys in that way that we're bound to our words. The shit she said last week or last month doesn't mean a thing. Thats how she felt in the moment. The only thing that matters is the shit she is saying now.

So the backstory isn't as necessary as guys think it is. With guy friendships it is, but women don't exactly see things from the same scope we do.
Good to see you're finally learning man!
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Thu Mar 12, 2015 11:37 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Getting her back/ is she gone
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Sounds to me like she may of cheated.

Random behavioral switches like that usually signal cheating. And I'm not exactly saying that she has fucked someone, but it seems that she has taking an emotional interest in someone else.

Too often guys get so caught up within the fantasy of being in a relationship that they forget to pay attention to the cues women are giving. We begin getting caught up in the things that they say and lose focus. Never listen to a woman words, more so pay attention to the emotion thats coming behind the words and respond to that.

If I were you I would give her the space you promised and by that I mean really give her a week, even if she hits you up before that. You need time to rebuild and contacting her will stunt that process because you will be over analyzing everything. Give her the week and if she contacts you before then don't respond until the week has be fulfilled.

This post signifies that you grew emotionally weak. Women aren't like guys in that way that we're bound to our words. The shit she said last week or last month doesn't mean a thing. Thats how she felt in the moment. The only thing that matters is the shit she is saying now.

So the backstory isn't as necessary as guys think it is. With guy friendships it is, but women don't exactly see things from the same scope we do.
Good to see you're finally learning man!

Lmfao.

All of people.

You missed me huh? :)
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