Hi guys,
As the title says, I'm trying to get over a girl I love
. Before you ask, yes it is love and I have no doubt about it. To put you in context, I met this girl last summer and we were together for a little bit more than 2 months. Although it's not a very long period of time, it definitely felt a lot stronger for both of us than you would expect. After these 2 months, she had to go back to her country (approx. 3800 km from me) despite my efforts to make her stay. We stayed in touch and I visited her a few weeks ago to learn about her country, but more specifically to meet her family. Unconsciously, I think I wanted seduce her family in order to bring her back. They loved me. Fast-forward to now, a few weeks after coming back, it seems obvious to me that she will not come back anytime soon. Although she loves me and I love her back, there are many elements that make it impossible for her to come back (at least not in the next 8 months). Realistically, she could come back in 1 year (maybe?) but I don't think it would be emotionally healthy for me or her to bet everything on this relationship. One last thing, I am certain that we are on the same page (i.e. we love each other and want to be together, but it is not possible for her to come soon, and I don't want to move to her country for good). Therefore, there is no realistic option where we would be physically together.
For those who have been in a similar situation, I would like to know what you did to get over someone you loved but couldn't be with and also what you did to distract yourself in these moments when you really miss her/him? Thanks
Some additional info:
- Obviously, there is also the possibility to force things a little bit and move to her country for an indefinite period of time, but this is far from being the best option for me. Her family asked me few times to come back (and move there)
- Her refusal to come back does not mean that she does not love me, she just can't (for cultural and emotional reasons)