accidentally closed her window, she went into recent searches to open it back up

She's not a snooper

have no idea why I even crossed my mind to pick-up my co-worker

I dont even know how to explain it to her.

Then how do you explain that if you are truly in love with someone you don't want to sleep with anyone else?

Also you are not an animal that needs to procreate. You are a person. What separates you from animals is logic and feelings.

That's a romantic notion and a choice. There are couples that love each other intensely and at the same time are swingers. There are polygamists that love each one of their spouses.

Sex is not just for procreation.

People with healthy sex lives live longer and have less stress or at least cope with stress better. I would be willing to bet if you got every terrorist in the world laid today, there would be peace for at least a week.

Monogamy is an invention. If you tried to sell it in a store, you would lose money.

When you are spreading your love into different people you are lowering the intensity of your feelings. There are very few couples that are swingers and that's because fewer people enjoy sex that is just physical.
I don't know if you have spoken with people that in their society polygamy is accepted but even in countries where it is legal to have more than one spouses people usually go for only one spouse. The idea behind allowing a man having more than one woman was only to protect widows that had lost their husband in war and they couldn't look after themselves financially. There was no "love" idea behind that. It was all about procreation.
And btw you sound to me like you are confusing "loving someone" and "being in love with someone". They are two different things.


Sex in the olden days was just for that. That's why there was more focus on how it would be more efficient to have more children.
If you take away contraception women are less willing to have sex with multiple partners. There would be different dynamics because sex would mean kids.
If you want to talk about sex with contraception women will prefer sex with someone they got feelings for because it is more rewarding. No amount of sex techniques, passion of the moment can be compared with having sex with the love of your life.
You might even want to argue with that but one thing I am going to ask you: what is better? techniques+passion or techniques+passion+feelings?
If terrorism was that easy to solve there wouldn't be wars. We would just give a couple of slags to each terrorist and we would achieve world peace.
And btw the best sex life with the maximum consistency in how often you have sex is when you are in a stable relationship with a woman. How can it be healthy if you have 6 times a week sex and you are over 35?
Most men can't even achieve consistently twice a week sex when they are over 35. Are you in your early 20s? Maybe if you were trying to sell monogamy to men that have been brainwashed by media.. then yeah you might lose money BUT if you were doing that with women and people that are aware of how life works you wouldn't.
Having one person only is less hassle in everything. Can you imagine being married with 3 women?
It can work but it would take more effort. I'll bring you a simple example:
If you go rent a flat with only one housemate ( one woman) you might get to a few arguments about house chores but at the end you are going to work it out. Now go rent a flat with 7 women. You might have more fun on the weekends but there is ALWaYS going to be drama.

I remember once I lived in the same house with 3 other women and we had one bathroom to share. No matter what rules we were using we were still arguing who was going to use it. Can you imagine the bathroom being our only husband?

The fantasy of having lots of women is different than reality. Don't confuse FWB with proper serious relationship with more than one woman. And if you add kids in the equation things are getting even more complicated.
One kid makes things complicated. One kid with each wife makes it two kids if you have two wives. That's even more complicated. Then you have each wife fighting each other over which kid is going to have more attention/money etc. Or wives might argue which one had more sex or more shoes or has to do the house chores etc. And that's on top of having to raise at least one kid with each wife. Can you imagine your life like this? Even one wife with two kids is easier. You wouldn't have the drama of the two wives fighting each other.
Assume also that you might have an open marriage. Would you be happy babysitting the kid while she is out trying to get sex with another man? Would you be ok that if there is an accident and she gets pregnant accidentally from someone else you would be ok to raise that man's child?
You are only thinking in terms of sex with multiple partners as in a FWB settlement.
If you want a serious relationship and a family it is EASIER if you have one partner and be a monogamist. Of course no one is going to tell you if you want to make your life more complicated. Also no one is going to tell you if you should have a family or not. If you do though want to have kids and a family you'll do yourself a favour having only one woman.
Most people want their life easy. That's why monogamy is still attractive to people.
You must be young and by all means go and explore the world. Keep in mind though that things change as you get older.

I was going to give you psychological information and evidence that has existed in the "old days" to break down your arguments. However, I believe your arguments are based in emotion and not logic.

So if I can tell you about couples that I've known personally, you'd shoot those down. I can talk about the gay and lesbian communities where sex happens, love happens, but procreation doesn't happen, you probably have an answer for that.

I can talk about my experiences as a man, in his mid thirties, but you'd say I was never in love before.

Your entire problem is that you are putting the way you think on everyone else despite scientific proof and things that stand right in front of you. Even worse, you as a woman is defining how a man views what being "in love" is and it isn't realistic.

JackZero wrote:
I was going to give you psychological information and evidence that has existed in the "old days" to break down your arguments. However, I believe your arguments are based in emotion and not logic.

No go ahead. Show us the evidence. It will be fun

JackZero wrote:
So if I can tell you about couples that I've known personally, you'd shoot those down. I can talk about the gay and lesbian communities where sex happens, love happens, but procreation doesn't happen, you probably have an answer for that.


Maybe you could explain why gay/lesbian couples are fighting for their right to be able to get married and be in a monogamous relationship? I'd love to see your explanation on that too.

I am not that interested about your sad story but if you have to you can share.
JackZero wrote:
Your entire problem is that you are putting the way you think on everyone else despite scientific proof and things that stand right in front of you. Even worse, you as a woman is defining how a man views what being "in love" is and it isn't realistic.