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Author:  waytooizzy [ Sun Jan 18, 2015 8:34 am ]
Post subject:  I was able to get a girlfriend. Now what?

Hey people. After countless dates with different women and endless experimentation(1 year since learning about PUA),I was able to get a girlfriend using methods from PUA. Of course, this isn't my first girlfriend. I've had two girlfriends before I learned about PUA. But it did take me a while to be in a relationship again. Within only 3 weeks of talking to her, we became official. It's pretty fast especially if you live in the Philippines where people take relationships in a... slower pace. I mean, I think three weeks is pretty fast too but I wanted to test my limits and see how far I could go.

Now my question is, what now? even though she's is my girlfriend now, do I keep going with the PUA tactics or do i move on from +PUA -getting to know her to -PUA +getting to know her? Do I still try to talk to different girls and demonstrate high value or will that just ruin the relationship and make her jealous? I'm basically just asking which direction should I take now. Please shed some light

Author:  CharlesFinley [ Sun Jan 18, 2015 1:02 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I was able to get a girlfriend. Now what?

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Now my question is, what now? even though she's is my girlfriend now, do I keep going with the PUA tactics or do i move on from +PUA -getting to know her to -PUA +getting to know her? Do I still try to talk to different girls and demonstrate high value or will that just ruin the relationship and make her jealous? I'm basically just asking which direction should I take now. Please shed some light

I'm curious why you felt the need to put a label on this after 3 weeks? Because yeah, as you say, that is really fast.

Was it you that suggested it or her? Please say it was her...

Normally I'd tell you to drop a lot of the PUA stuff once you're in a relationship, and to continue with inner-game only for the most part (confidence, setting boundaries, self-respect and knowing your self worth) and applying those values to your day-to-day life and your relationship... BUT: 3 weeks? No way this girl is hooked, and no way she knows enough about you to be attached to you enough that she won't stray (unless she's a clinger, or a really, really good girlfriend). She wouldn't know your boundaries and what you're ok with and what you aren't (as far as cheating, dealing with the opposite sex, etc)...

I doubt you'd be able to drop it so quickly. You two barely know each other.

Author:  waytooizzy [ Tue Jan 20, 2015 12:27 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I was able to get a girlfriend. Now what?

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Now my question is, what now? even though she's is my girlfriend now, do I keep going with the PUA tactics or do i move on from +PUA -getting to know her to -PUA +getting to know her? Do I still try to talk to different girls and demonstrate high value or will that just ruin the relationship and make her jealous? I'm basically just asking which direction should I take now. Please shed some light

I'm curious why you felt the need to put a label on this after 3 weeks? Because yeah, as you say, that is really fast.

Was it you that suggested it or her? Please say it was her...

Normally I'd tell you to drop a lot of the PUA stuff once you're in a relationship, and to continue with inner-game only for the most part (confidence, setting boundaries, self-respect and knowing your self worth) and applying those values to your day-to-day life and your relationship... BUT: 3 weeks? No way this girl is hooked, and no way she knows enough about you to be attached to you enough that she won't stray (unless she's a clinger, or a really, really good girlfriend). She wouldn't know your boundaries and what you're ok with and what you aren't (as far as cheating, dealing with the opposite sex, etc)...

I doubt you'd be able to drop it so quickly. You two barely know each other.
Hey man, thanks for replying. She's at least an 8 to a 9 for me because she's everything that I like in a girl. Short, petite, adventurous, thrill-seeker, and spontaneous. Yes, it WAS me who suggested it and I know that it's a sign of neediness. I'm actually her first boyfriend in her 19 years of her life. After using all of the strategies I've learned such as: kino, push-pull, story telling, fractionation, and etc.(because there's a lot more and I don't know the names for them), I can tell that she IS hooked. We tease each other a lot and sometimes I'm sweet to her but of course, we're probably in the "Romantic Stage" of a relationship.

I know giving the information about the first date is a bit too much since you didn't ask for it or mention it, but it adds a little background to the post. I met her on Tinder, and my texting/messaging game is strong which I am confident to say. After the first week of texting her, I invited her to Enchanted Kingdom. It's like the Disneyland of the Philippines. I did all of those aforementioned things that I said above and after 1 year of practicing PUA, I was able to get a kiss on the first date. I don't know if it's slow or whatever to get a kiss on the first date after only a year, but I was happy with the end result. I forgot to mention that I was the shyest and most awkward guy a year ago so I think I've improved a lot.

Anyway, I would love to hear your opinion or anyone else about this, my brother

Author:  CharlesFinley [ Tue Jan 20, 2015 1:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I was able to get a girlfriend. Now what?

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Hey man, thanks for replying. She's at least an 8 to a 9 for me because she's everything that I like in a girl. Short, petite, adventurous, thrill-seeker, and spontaneous. Yes, it WAS me who suggested it and I know that it's a sign of neediness. I'm actually her first boyfriend in her 19 years of her life. After using all of the strategies I've learned such as: kino, push-pull, story telling, fractionation, and etc.(because there's a lot more and I don't know the names for them), I can tell that she IS hooked. We tease each other a lot and sometimes I'm sweet to her but of course, we're probably in the "Romantic Stage" of a relationship.

I know giving the information about the first date is a bit too much since you didn't ask for it or mention it, but it adds a little background to the post. I met her on Tinder, and my texting/messaging game is strong which I am confident to say. After the first week of texting her, I invited her to Enchanted Kingdom. It's like the Disneyland of the Philippines. I did all of those aforementioned things that I said above and after 1 year of practicing PUA, I was able to get a kiss on the first date. I don't know if it's slow or whatever to get a kiss on the first date after only a year, but I was happy with the end result. I forgot to mention that I was the shyest and most awkward guy a year ago so I think I've improved a lot.

Anyway, I would love to hear your opinion or anyone else about this, my brother

Yikes. Good luck with the one-itis, man! I mean that completely unjokingly and not to be a smart ass.

Author:  waytooizzy [ Tue Jan 20, 2015 1:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I was able to get a girlfriend. Now what?

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Yikes. Good luck with the one-itis, man! I mean that completely unjokingly and not to be a smart ass.
Do you mean for me or for her? Because if it's for her, it's not there yet but I can feel it coming. Soon. It's like a tidal wave. You see it coming and when it does, it hits pretty hard.

Author:  CharlesFinley [ Tue Jan 20, 2015 1:48 pm ]
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Yikes. Good luck with the one-itis, man! I mean that completely unjokingly and not to be a smart ass.
Do you mean for me or for her? Because if it's for her, it's not there yet but I can feel it coming. Soon. It's like a tidal wave. You see it coming and when it does, it hits pretty hard.

..... Um, no man. For you.

Read how you speak about her...

It's a girl. A tinder girl. And you barely know her, yet have her on a giant pedestal. She's not royalty. Her shit stinks too, man.

There is no reason - ever - to lock down a girl after 3 weeks. Have you even slept with her? Never do it before sex. What if she sucks in bed or has some weird STD you don't feel like dealing with?

You're being really over eager with this one.

Author:  deactivatedaccount [ Tue Jan 20, 2015 7:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I was able to get a girlfriend. Now what?

Ay man I think you're taking things way too fast here, 3 weeks is an awfully short time to commit to a relationship, like I'd say 1 maybe even 2 months for me is the right time to know if she's cut out to be gf material.

Also how many times have you seen this girl in person? because as you said you met her on tinder so I'm assuming you don't see her on a daily basis like in a work/school environment.

I think 1 date and 3 weeks of texting/talking is way too fast.

Author:  waytooizzy [ Fri Jan 23, 2015 12:32 pm ]
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Ay man I think you're taking things way too fast here, 3 weeks is an awfully short time to commit to a relationship, like I'd say 1 maybe even 2 months for me is the right time to know if she's cut out to be gf material.

Also how many times have you seen this girl in person? because as you said you met her on tinder so I'm assuming you don't see her on a daily basis like in a work/school environment.

I think 1 date and 3 weeks of texting/talking is way too fast.
I've seen her 4 times in the span of 3 weeks. The reason I did what I did is because I wanted to see how far I can go and to see how it will affect me when my friends/classmates find out I have a girlfriend. I'm not very serious about the relationship and I made it clear to her that we keep things light and fun.

Since I'm a nursing student and I go to college in the Philippines, there are tons of women in my course. And I'm talking about 80:20 ratio of girl to guy since Nursing is popular with women in here. Ever since they found out I had a girlfriend, I've been getting positive results from the women inside and outside of my course. I don't even have to do anything and they become really touchy with me.

Author:  Houndish [ Fri Jan 23, 2015 10:11 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I was able to get a girlfriend. Now what?

How would you feel if she walked out of your life forever tomorrow? Or worse?

Start there and work backwards to determine "what you should do"?

The answer should be self evident, let me know if it's not.

Author:  Hiatus [ Mon Feb 09, 2015 8:26 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I was able to get a girlfriend. Now what?

Hey man.Same problem here.
Been in pick up for two months, I get to kiss a girl on the first date but I don't know how to transition from PU to relationship style.
I do like you say you do, pu stuff, and i dont really know when to stop and how to.Sometimes I keep doing the seduction moves even after the kiss.
I feel like someone with experience should give us some piece of advice.

Good luck with your game,
Hiatus

Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Mon Feb 09, 2015 8:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I was able to get a girlfriend. Now what?

Why do Bros come here wanting to have multiple choices, get one fucking kiss from a girl, then feel like a proposal is eminent?

Sure beats the fuck outta me.

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