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Author:  emeraldgrasshopper [ Fri Jan 16, 2015 6:28 am ]
Post subject:  GF cheated on me and want get together again
Hey guys!

I had a GF who cheated on me by kissing an other guy from school, with whom she spent a lot of time!
She told me the next day, I thought about it and the next day I dumped her!(5 days ago) Now she wants to get together again! I don't really know what to do , because I really loved this girl, but she hurt my feelings!

Thank,
EG
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Fri Jan 16, 2015 1:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: GF cheated on me and want get together again
Do you want her as your girlfriend or not? We can't tell you what to do...

I can tell you this, though...

If all she's gotta do is say "I'm sorry" after kissing another guy, and you take her back, expect a lot more of that to happen.
Author:  rayfinkle [ Fri Jan 16, 2015 2:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: GF cheated on me and want get together again
Quote:
Hey guys!

I had a GF who cheated on me by kissing an other guy from school, with whom she spent a lot of time!
She told me the next day, I thought about it and the next day I dumped her!(5 days ago) Now she wants to get together again! I don't really know what to do , because I really loved this girl, but she hurt my feelings!

Thank,
EG
Talk to her tell her that it's unacceptable what she did. If she wants to be with you she has to prove that she's going to be faithful.

Do you really love her is the question? If she thought the same she shouldn't go around kissing other guys. So if you can get past that I'd say stay with her.

I'd break up but remain friends ask her to lunch tell her you've got some great things going on in your life. See her like two times then get her alone and go in for the kill once. After you hook up you can ask her back out but be leary no guarantee she won't do it again.
Author:  chantos [ Fri Jan 16, 2015 5:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: GF cheated on me and want get together again
how long ya been dating her? 5 years? 6 months? the earlier in a relationship the more forgiving i'd be. what you gotta do is set clear boundaries in the beginning of a relationship so that the girl knows that if she messes around you're gone.

i'd personally break up with a girl if we'd been dating over a year and she kissed another dude. but that's me. if you want to stay with her definitely follow charlesfinley's advice and don't make it too easy for her to get back with you. i wouldn't talk to her for at least a solid week or so. make her go crazy wondering what you're doing and how you're feeling. she's gotta learn there are serious repercussions for infidelity of any sort.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Jan 16, 2015 5:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: GF cheated on me and want get together again
How old are you two? This sounds like High-school bullshit.
Author:  thecrook [ Tue Jan 27, 2015 3:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: GF cheated on me and want get together again
The biggest question is, can you trust her after that? If not, it's going to be in the back of your head the whole time you date. If she wasn't genuinely apologetic about it, and is just shrugging it off. Get rid of her, because this is only the beginning. The next time it won't be just a kiss.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Wed Jan 28, 2015 7:17 am ]
Post subject:  Re: GF cheated on me and want get together again
Think of it this way.

The trust and security are completely absent now.

So, if you do decide to give her another shot (which only YOU can decide if this is right for you), then it is you who has to put the effort in LEARNING to trust her again. You're the one sticking your head out again, so getting a clearer conceptualization of what trusting her again looks like, while being honest with yourself.

Maybe it can work, maybe not. Who's to say.
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