PUA Forum :: She told me I suck in bed?

Hey, long time no see.

Im M(24) with a GF(23) for 1,5 years. I would say our relationship is going well. Ups and downs like most couples I guess, but mostly it´s good. We have sex 4-5 times a week and it´s always been like this.

We had sex today and when we started to cuddle afterwards she suddenly brought up her bestfriends(Anna) sex life. This is how it went roughly from my memory:

Her: "You know what. Anna had sex 5 times yesterday and her bf can last many hours. Almost everytime they have sex, he goes for 1 hour minimum. Sometimes she has to tell him to stop because she cant handle it anymore."

I was thinking to myself ok...we just had sex and now she brings up this so I had no idea to what to say...so I was like "Really? He came 5 times during a night?"

Her: "Yes!"
Me: "I didnt know that was even possible"
Her: "Well, you know what they say about black people(he is black), they have better stamina and bigger dicks laughs" Me: "Lol that´s a myth. So how long do you think we have sex during a session?"
Her: "30 minutes I guess? Time goes quick"
Me: "Really? I thought it was more like 20 minutes lol. Do you want me to last longer?"
Her: "I like it how it is. I dont want you to hold back and control it."

Her bestfriend(Anna) and her bf have been together for the same amount of time as us.

So how should I feel about this? I feel disrespected. Cant get out of my head what she said about stamina and hours of sex. Feel i should have reacted more alpha about it and not laughed it off. Dont really believe she is ok with our sex life like she said.

I cant get her to come from PIV sex, but 95% of our sex sessions I make her come from oral. I always give foreplay and make sure she´s wet before we have sex and I have 15-20 minutes of penetrative sex before I come. We use different positions too. Wtf can I do more?

I didnt think girls like to be f***** hard for 1 hour? Am I missing something? Do I need to up my game? Did I react wrong to this situation?

Also, I had problems with premature ejaculation before but I am completely healed from it (thank god for fleshlight

), so now I can go as long as I want almost...can go hard for 5-10 minutes before I have to slow down a bit.

Quote:

), so now I can go as long as I want almost...can go hard for 5-10 minutes before I have to slow down a bit.

You need TO fuck up your game!!! To fuck for so many hours you have to get her horny in other ways.... I think your girl wants BDSM, dominance, bondage and all that stuff!!! I am not kidding with you. Then she and you will have long foreplays and you will get so horny in the end by all these role plays that you can fuck for very long! Otherwise you will never manage... In the long run. Her friend´s boyfriend use elements like this I can promise you.

Another thing. When a woman talks passively, she is saying exactly what she wants!!! This is the way women communicate, it´s known everywhere, it´s mainstream popular psychology today, a Given! Brother.

This is the way for her to say: Fuck me like my girlfriend´s boyfriend!!! Period.

It´s the same if a woman says: What a nice restaurant. That means: Let´s go and eat there, take me there, take the initiative, be romantic and surprise me, buy us a dinner time at that restaurant darling!

Now. Follow my advice and keep your mouth and "love brains" and innocent thoughts about your girlfriend´s intentions the hell out of you! And start acting like a Real Alphamale and a male that knows woman psychology.

Your friend.

Sincerely

Swedish banger with love

Quote:

), so now I can go as long as I want almost...can go hard for 5-10 minutes before I have to slow down a bit.

Lol. Your first post and it´s like this? Do you know me haha

), so now I can go as long as I want almost...can go hard for 5-10 minutes before I have to slow down a bit.

It just sounds like pillow talk. You can relax.

Author:	Consistence [ Mon Jan 05, 2015 10:12 pm ]
Post subject:	She told me I suck in bed?
Hey, long time no see. Im M(24) with a GF(23) for 1,5 years. I would say our relationship is going well. Ups and downs like most couples I guess, but mostly it´s good. We have sex 4-5 times a week and it´s always been like this. We had sex today and when we started to cuddle afterwards she suddenly brought up her bestfriends(Anna) sex life. This is how it went roughly from my memory: Her: "You know what. Anna had sex 5 times yesterday and her bf can last many hours. Almost everytime they have sex, he goes for 1 hour minimum. Sometimes she has to tell him to stop because she cant handle it anymore." I was thinking to myself ok...we just had sex and now she brings up this so I had no idea to what to say...so I was like "Really? He came 5 times during a night?" Her: "Yes!" Me: "I didnt know that was even possible" Her: "Well, you know what they say about black people(he is black), they have better stamina and bigger dicks laughs" Me: "Lol that´s a myth. So how long do you think we have sex during a session?" Her: "30 minutes I guess? Time goes quick" Me: "Really? I thought it was more like 20 minutes lol. Do you want me to last longer?" Her: "I like it how it is. I dont want you to hold back and control it." Her bestfriend(Anna) and her bf have been together for the same amount of time as us. So how should I feel about this? I feel disrespected. Cant get out of my head what she said about stamina and hours of sex. Feel i should have reacted more alpha about it and not laughed it off. Dont really believe she is ok with our sex life like she said. I cant get her to come from PIV sex, but 95% of our sex sessions I make her come from oral. I always give foreplay and make sure she´s wet before we have sex and I have 15-20 minutes of penetrative sex before I come. We use different positions too. Wtf can I do more? I didnt think girls like to be f***** hard for 1 hour? Am I missing something? Do I need to up my game? Did I react wrong to this situation? Also, I had problems with premature ejaculation before but I am completely healed from it (thank god for fleshlight ), so now I can go as long as I want almost...can go hard for 5-10 minutes before I have to slow down a bit.

Author:	JackZero [ Mon Jan 05, 2015 10:49 pm ]
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It just sounds like pillow talk. You can relax.

Author:	Dragula [ Mon Jan 05, 2015 10:50 pm ]
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Fuck her. Yes, that is my pun for tonight.

Author:	MrDice Swedish Bang [ Mon Jan 05, 2015 10:53 pm ]
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Quote: Hey, long time no see. Im M(24) with a GF(23) for 1,5 years. I would say our relationship is going well. Ups and downs like most couples I guess, but mostly it´s good. We have sex 4-5 times a week and it´s always been like this. We had sex today and when we started to cuddle afterwards she suddenly brought up her bestfriends(Anna) sex life. This is how it went roughly from my memory: Her: "You know what. Anna had sex 5 times yesterday and her bf can last many hours. Almost everytime they have sex, he goes for 1 hour minimum. Sometimes she has to tell him to stop because she cant handle it anymore." I was thinking to myself ok...we just had sex and now she brings up this so I had no idea to what to say...so I was like "Really? He came 5 times during a night?" Her: "Yes!" Me: "I didnt know that was even possible" Her: "Well, you know what they say about black people(he is black), they have better stamina and bigger dicks laughs" Me: "Lol that´s a myth. So how long do you think we have sex during a session?" Her: "30 minutes I guess? Time goes quick" Me: "Really? I thought it was more like 20 minutes lol. Do you want me to last longer?" Her: "I like it how it is. I dont want you to hold back and control it." Her bestfriend(Anna) and her bf have been together for the same amount of time as us. So how should I feel about this? I feel disrespected. Cant get out of my head what she said about stamina and hours of sex. Feel i should have reacted more alpha about it and not laughed it off. Dont really believe she is ok with our sex life like she said. I cant get her to come from PIV sex, but 95% of our sex sessions I make her come from oral. I always give foreplay and make sure she´s wet before we have sex and I have 15-20 minutes of penetrative sex before I come. We use different positions too. Wtf can I do more? I didnt think girls like to be f***** hard for 1 hour? Am I missing something? Do I need to up my game? Did I react wrong to this situation? Also, I had problems with premature ejaculation before but I am completely healed from it (thank god for fleshlight ), so now I can go as long as I want almost...can go hard for 5-10 minutes before I have to slow down a bit. You need TO fuck up your game!!! To fuck for so many hours you have to get her horny in other ways.... I think your girl wants BDSM, dominance, bondage and all that stuff!!! I am not kidding with you. Then she and you will have long foreplays and you will get so horny in the end by all these role plays that you can fuck for very long! Otherwise you will never manage... In the long run. Her friend´s boyfriend use elements like this I can promise you. Another thing. When a woman talks passively, she is saying exactly what she wants!!! This is the way women communicate, it´s known everywhere, it´s mainstream popular psychology today, a Given! Brother. This is the way for her to say: Fuck me like my girlfriend´s boyfriend!!! Period. It´s the same if a woman says: What a nice restaurant. That means: Let´s go and eat there, take me there, take the initiative, be romantic and surprise me, buy us a dinner time at that restaurant darling! Now. Follow my advice and keep your mouth and "love brains" and innocent thoughts about your girlfriend´s intentions the hell out of you! And start acting like a Real Alphamale and a male that knows woman psychology. Your friend. Sincerely Swedish banger with love

Author:	Monsignor Crisanto [ Mon Jan 05, 2015 10:57 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: She told me I suck in bed?
During foreplay, try to use a feather. If that doesn't work, use a chicken next time; it's more erotic this way.

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Author:	Consistence [ Mon Jan 05, 2015 11:07 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: Hey, long time no see. Im M(24) with a GF(23) for 1,5 years. I would say our relationship is going well. Ups and downs like most couples I guess, but mostly it´s good. We have sex 4-5 times a week and it´s always been like this. We had sex today and when we started to cuddle afterwards she suddenly brought up her bestfriends(Anna) sex life. This is how it went roughly from my memory: Her: "You know what. Anna had sex 5 times yesterday and her bf can last many hours. Almost everytime they have sex, he goes for 1 hour minimum. Sometimes she has to tell him to stop because she cant handle it anymore." I was thinking to myself ok...we just had sex and now she brings up this so I had no idea to what to say...so I was like "Really? He came 5 times during a night?" Her: "Yes!" Me: "I didnt know that was even possible" Her: "Well, you know what they say about black people(he is black), they have better stamina and bigger dicks laughs" Me: "Lol that´s a myth. So how long do you think we have sex during a session?" Her: "30 minutes I guess? Time goes quick" Me: "Really? I thought it was more like 20 minutes lol. Do you want me to last longer?" Her: "I like it how it is. I dont want you to hold back and control it." Her bestfriend(Anna) and her bf have been together for the same amount of time as us. So how should I feel about this? I feel disrespected. Cant get out of my head what she said about stamina and hours of sex. Feel i should have reacted more alpha about it and not laughed it off. Dont really believe she is ok with our sex life like she said. I cant get her to come from PIV sex, but 95% of our sex sessions I make her come from oral. I always give foreplay and make sure she´s wet before we have sex and I have 15-20 minutes of penetrative sex before I come. We use different positions too. Wtf can I do more? I didnt think girls like to be f***** hard for 1 hour? Am I missing something? Do I need to up my game? Did I react wrong to this situation? Also, I had problems with premature ejaculation before but I am completely healed from it (thank god for fleshlight ), so now I can go as long as I want almost...can go hard for 5-10 minutes before I have to slow down a bit. You need TO fuck up your game!!! To fuck for so many hours you have to get her horny in other ways.... I think your girl wants BDSM, dominance, bondage and all that stuff!!! I am not kidding with you. Then she and you will have long foreplays and you will get so horny in the end by all these role plays that you can fuck for very long! Otherwise you will never manage... In the long run. Her friend´s boyfriend use elements like this I can promise you. Another thing. When a woman talks passively, she is saying exactly what she wants!!! This is the way women communicate, it´s known everywhere, it´s mainstream popular psychology today, a Given! Brother. This is the way for her to say: Fuck me like my girlfriend´s boyfriend!!! Period. It´s the same if a woman says: What a nice restaurant. That means: Let´s go and eat there, take me there, take the initiative, be romantic and surprise me, buy us a dinner time at that restaurant darling! Now. Follow my advice and keep your mouth and "love brains" and innocent thoughts about your girlfriend´s intentions the hell out of you! And start acting like a Real Alphamale and a male that knows woman psychology. Your friend. Sincerely Swedish banger with love Lol. Your first post and it´s like this? Do you know me haha

Author:	Miami_J [ Mon Jan 05, 2015 11:39 pm ]
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Sounds like she wants some of what her friend is getting. Your stamina sounds normal and isn't anything you should be ashamed of. Some guys just last a long ass time. Search on here for ways to increase your stamina, theres a bunch of threads on it. When I drink I notice I can last longer since you get a little desensitized. Personally I would pop a cialis or viagra then after some drinking and foreplay pound the living shit out of her all night with a lot of dirty talk. You can buy those pills individually at shady pharmacy stores or at least I can lol. That would fulfill her fanasy of an all night sex marathon. I only use it for new girls to blow their mind but theres no reason it can't work for your case.

Author:	maria_ [ Tue Jan 06, 2015 12:26 pm ]
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Quote: Hey, long time no see. Im M(24) with a GF(23) for 1,5 years. I would say our relationship is going well. Ups and downs like most couples I guess, but mostly it´s good. We have sex 4-5 times a week and it´s always been like this. We had sex today and when we started to cuddle afterwards she suddenly brought up her bestfriends(Anna) sex life. This is how it went roughly from my memory: Her: "You know what. Anna had sex 5 times yesterday and her bf can last many hours. Almost everytime they have sex, he goes for 1 hour minimum. Sometimes she has to tell him to stop because she cant handle it anymore." I was thinking to myself ok...we just had sex and now she brings up this so I had no idea to what to say...so I was like "Really? He came 5 times during a night?" Her: "Yes!" Me: "I didnt know that was even possible" Her: "Well, you know what they say about black people(he is black), they have better stamina and bigger dicks laughs" Me: "Lol that´s a myth. So how long do you think we have sex during a session?" Her: "30 minutes I guess? Time goes quick" Me: "Really? I thought it was more like 20 minutes lol. Do you want me to last longer?" Her: "I like it how it is. I dont want you to hold back and control it." Her bestfriend(Anna) and her bf have been together for the same amount of time as us. So how should I feel about this? I feel disrespected. Cant get out of my head what she said about stamina and hours of sex. Feel i should have reacted more alpha about it and not laughed it off. Dont really believe she is ok with our sex life like she said. I cant get her to come from PIV sex, but 95% of our sex sessions I make her come from oral. I always give foreplay and make sure she´s wet before we have sex and I have 15-20 minutes of penetrative sex before I come. We use different positions too. Wtf can I do more? I didnt think girls like to be f***** hard for 1 hour? Am I missing something? Do I need to up my game? Did I react wrong to this situation? Also, I had problems with premature ejaculation before but I am completely healed from it (thank god for fleshlight ), so now I can go as long as I want almost...can go hard for 5-10 minutes before I have to slow down a bit. Sorry but your post made me laugh... First of all you handled it quite well but you could had handled it better. Most men can't handle round 2. It is very rare for a man to last 5 rounds.. especially if he cums. Usually the guys that go 5 rounds pretend they have cumed or they don't cum fully and usually they do it at the first stages of the relationship to impress a girl. So don't feel less than this black guy. Also .. that's what her friend says. It doesn't mean it is true. Sometimes your female friends lie to you to show off that their boyfriend is better than yours. If she believed her friend's stories she is stupid ( no offence ) If she hasn't believed her friend's stories then she is trying to manipulate you ... and the worse thing is that even if you give what she is asking she won't feel satisfied. What she actually wants is more mind/body connection sex. She wants passion. And somehow you are not in tune with her. Best sex starts from the mind. If she is horny the tiny details don't matter. If she stayed enough with you to reach the point that she feels familiar enough to talk about what she likes and what she doesn't like .. it means that you were doing something good and she stayed. You need to stop focusing on sex and start focusing on building again attraction. Pull back, make her chase you etc That's what you need. You don't need marathon sex. Oh and if she insists that she wants more rounds... agree and put her on top ALL the time. She will give up on the idea

Author:	CharlesFinley [ Tue Jan 06, 2015 1:26 pm ]
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Quote: It just sounds like pillow talk. You can relax. I think it's exactly this... and you're completely overanalyzing it.

Author:	breedlove465 [ Tue Jan 06, 2015 2:48 pm ]
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Overanalyizing. 1. Her friend is probably lying. If not then she found the one in a million guy that can do that. I've been with girls where we just mesh well in bed and I can give her tons of orgasms, way more than 5, but I've never met a girl that has talked about how she had a bf that regularly plows her 5 times back to back for hours. It's just very far outside of normal range. 2. Some girls really love to get it rough, but I've never met a girl that can handle a really good pounding for that long. Lady parts are much more sensitive than ours. Just a fact of life. That much abuse can't feel great for hours on end. 3. This girl has been with you for a year and a half. She obviously likes what she is getting. The most I would do if I were you is I'd catch her with a few unexpected sex sessions and be more kinky in general. Just to see if she wants to try anything new and to see what I can get away with. 4. If a girl tells me about her friends bf that is great in the sack, I'll reply with a story about how my buddies girl apparently can deepthroat like a maniac, or loves it in the ass or whatever. Something your girl can't or won't do. Act interested like your just sharing stories. Flip the script and make her be the one wondering if she is pleasing you, not the other way around.

Author:	luvmiddleage [ Tue Jan 06, 2015 9:05 pm ]
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Some B & D may do the trick. There are some decent podcasts and articles out there that give you little tricks that can work your way into it. It is no big secret that 50 Shades was a huge hit. Many women like the feeling of giving up control and being dominated by a strong (in the PUA sense) man. It may be as simple as telling her, without flinching or backpeddling to get on her knees and service you, perhaps a spnking or tying her up. It has to be done right, so do your research. Obviously I am not advocating forcing her to do anything she doesn't want to, but in many cases if you go about it the right way, a good spanking or well played dominance will have the right woman practically gushing between her legs. It may also just be that she wants you to talk dirty and treat her like a slut. You need to read up and always maintain yourself as a courageous man.

Author:	vhou812 [ Sat Jan 10, 2015 5:32 am ]
Post subject:	Re: She told me I suck in bed?
Breedlove nailed it.

Author:	goodnamesaretaken [ Wed Jan 14, 2015 10:44 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: She told me I suck in bed?
Did you lick her butthole?

Author:	AFCToTheMax [ Thu Jan 15, 2015 2:10 pm ]
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You are fine. The only issue I see is insecurity from your end. If she is happy with the sex which she told you then everything is fine. Very few girls can take 5-6 times a day because they will get sore. Plus they are simply not that fit. Maybe in the first few months it's like that. After 2-3 a day it's just an excercise. If you want to improve in bed then work out. Get fitter, stop stressing about performing in bed.

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