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| Author: | David Gold [ Sun Dec 28, 2014 8:16 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Help, F close fail |
So i've been dating this girl for around 6 weeks |
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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Sun Dec 28, 2014 8:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Help, F close fail |
Hey David, it happens to the best of us. However, you'd done few things wrong. The problem here is that you had voluntarily put yourself into the provide/boyfriend frame. There surely isn't a thing wrong with being a boyfriend [I'm 1 also], but you can't make that your primary frame/mindset. By asking this girl to be your GF (as you did), you automatically and inadvertent put the brakes on sex...which isn't what you wanted to happen. Why would you ask a girl to be your GF? She should be the one to ask. With such a move, you essentially lost power while the girl has then become empowered in calling the shots. She's making you wait because of this. She recognizes that she has the power (because you gave it to her) and she is punishing you for making that mistake. She's punishing you by making you wait for sex. You'd made the mistake and put your own self into the provider/boyfriend frame, and she's rewarding you for such a bad move. What you should've done, was to present her with a "Hookup" frame from the get-go. Hence, she wouldn't have had a reason to let you wait for sex because she would've known that "hooking up" was your sole and primary motive. After you would've slept with her, then she would automatically chase you for a relationship. So you played it wrong and now she's making you wait. The lesson here is: always go for sex first and LTR (relationship) last! Not the other way around as is commonly taught by the media and mainstream-dating outfits. |
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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Sun Dec 28, 2014 8:35 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Help, F close fail |
And please quite the "Asking" that you do a lot in your thread. You don't "ask" a girl if she wants to stay over. You suggest or tell her directly to stay! If she objects, then you let her leave. But never ask! Asking put you in a position of weakness. Women don't like men who asks. |
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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Sun Dec 28, 2014 8:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Help, F close fail |
@David You may also want to read this post of mines just to see how you should've played things out to get the girl chasing you. http://kennyspuathoughts.com/2014/11/28 ... ooking-up/ |
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