Hi guys, thanks in advance for any help on this. Just looking for some second opinions on this situation since it's easy to get blind to things when you're stuck in with 1 girl.
So a little bit of background about the girl and the relationship:
She is a HB8 and Spanish. I met her when she was working behind the bar of an exclusive bar in Spain back in 2012. I am a natural but also been developing myself and my game for a good few years, so I was out on my own that night and got the number close. I headed back to London the next day and kept in touch, 3 weeks later she came to visit me in London and stayed with me for a week. After that we had a long distance relationship for a year, visiting eachother for 2 weeks at a time every other month. After a year this got difficult (I moved to Zurich and she didn't like it) so we broke up. A month later after I worked to get back together, I got back with her and I moved to Spain to be with her. After a year and a half we broke up again.
She is very hot by anyone's standards, so can get any guy she wants. She is extremely stubborn and seems to live inside her head a lot of the time, trying to analyse situations and overthink things. So sometimes a situation can be not that bad but she will think about it so much until she's convinced it's a problem.
Cause of the break-up:
I run my own business and had some money problems for a while which put some pressure on the relationship (no financial stability). She doesn't live with me, she lives with her parents, but this seemed to affect her a lot. I was very loving in the relationship and treated her well (although, she doesn't know, I struggle a lot with monogamy as I always seem to attract situations where girls are laid on a plate for me). She became more and more distant with me and stopped spending so much time with me, always busy wanting to go out with work friends. Then her mum got diagnosed with cancer and BANG our relationship was gone. She told me that she needs to be alone to deal with the situation - didn't want me to support her or anything. So I respected her decision, not wanting to make things worse for her, and I left her alone without any emotional pressure (I did give a passionate monologue before leaving things though
)The situation now:
Since then I have been on a rampage, I've been with quite a lot of girls (it's been 6 months now) and they have all been HB8 or 9s, but I had no connection with them so started wanting to get back together with my ex. I found out that my ex had also been in a relationship with someone else in between but broke up with them since she couldn't connect with them - this completely goes against her reasons for breaking up with me, which pissed me off a bit, but I moved on from those feelings of anger.
So I got back in touch with her and told her I wanted to try again. We met up a few times and she was 'thinking about it'. She keeps telling me I look great these days and that she loves me so much. I invited her to my apartment to "have dinner, watch a film, then go to bed" and she said she needed to think about it as it was an important thing - then told me she thinks it's better we don't do that, as she's not ready yet. So I'm getting mixed signs: on one hand she is still attracted to me, we still have the spark and she says she loves me (I'm an amazing person bla bla same old girl shit), but on the other hand, she says she's not ready and it's impossible when we meet up to gain any sort of affectionate touching going on, she's very distant.
Next steps
She knows that if we don't get back together then I will be leaving Spain and moving back to London. I may have shot my load too early in saying that, since I am still here and haven't left yet, so maybe she is wondering what I'm still doing here. I can probably get her to meet me another time or 2 before I go. So far when we meet, I have given her space, not tried too much kino and tried not to be too full on, since I don't want to put her under pressure. Perhaps this is the wrong thing?
Really I'm looking for some guidance first of all on whether I am right in thinking I should keep trying here, and also about what approach I should take to fixing this situation. For me, from a logical point of view, it has all the signs that she wants to get back together. She admits she is being an idiot by not getting back together and that she will regret it - it makes me think maybe she is with somebody now but not telling me. What do you think I should do? Is this typical female mindfuckery or am I reading the signs right that I should keep trying?
Thanks again