we go out some guy grabs her. I beat the guy up. End up getting arrested. She spends the night at my house we sleep together but no sex

she always ask me if I'm dating anyone when we've hung out?

Been on 11 dates since the break up. I still think about her constantly.....any advice my man?

Kicking her BF's ass will only drive her closer to him, crazy but true.

It all came to a head a day or two after Christmas. I went to a local pub and saw my ex and her boyfriend out and about. Well she comes over says hello and talks to me and my buddy for a bit she then says well I better get back over to her boyfriend before I get into trouble. My buddy goes to the bathroom and her boyfriend comes over and asks if I'll shake his hand I tell him no that he's a pussy and a scumbag and he needs to get away from me and not to talk to me or I'm going to hurt him. As the night goes on she constantly keeps making her way back over to my friend and I. Finally she sits down and we talk a little. I played songs on the jukebox and one of the songs was are song. She looks at me and says that's a low blow I say is it to be honest I just really like this song. She finds her boyfriend they say goodbye and as they're walking out he says merry Christmas. Well I grab him throw against a table then the bar well it gets broken up. I tell her I told her boyfriend not to talk to me but he's to stupid to understand that. So she texts me the next day and says don't ever talk to me again. I respond with k. Haven't seen or heard from her sense I sent her happy new year text which I sent everyone in my phone on new year's. 

Grabbing the guy probably wasn't the best thing but she set him up and for some reason he didn't listen when I told him not to talk to me.

I currently am single but have a girl I hook up with on a regular basis. Been on 11 dates since the break up. I still think about her constantly.....any advice my man?

respectfully disagree with that. at least not subconsciously. although i do agree it's beta to fight over a chick like that, getting your ass kicked is not attractive ever.

I get what you are saying, but have both seen and experienced this ridiculous anomaly too many times to not put stock in it.

Once I was chatting with a hottie, all good right? She went back to where her BF was. He slapped her across the face...HARD! I proceed to invite him outside where I was properly punishing him for his grievous error, SHE jumps on my back in his defense!

Yeah this was the guy she was always around. Like I was super nice I even considered him a friend. I helped him out a ton this guy when he broke up with his girlfriend he spent the night at my house. He got his jeep stuck I had my buddy pull him out. This guy went after him at a party and I stopped the guy from beating him up.

Then we were supposed to be in my buddies wedding together and I tried to talk to him so something like what happened didn't happen at the wedding he blew me off then finally my friend who was getting married made us talk and he denied the whole thing. Then he said I was abusive and all this other shit which just wasn't true. So in my mind kind of had it coming I wouldn't have done anything had he not said anything. Which I asked him not to do.

I agree with you guys I probably shouldn't have grabbed the dude but at some point you have to stop being a push over in my opinion it would be one thing if it was some random dude but after helping him out well I was pissed. Either way its too late now.

I guess I understand the nurturing situation getting your ass kicked creates but subconsciously it can't be good.

I haven't text or called her it's been like 3 weeks so I figure she'll call me within the next two weeks. Then I don't know what I'll do but ball will be in my court?

I don't go out looking for them but where I am it's small town USA and I'm sure I'll see them out and about once again. I will definitely try and react differently.

I'm only trying to do this because the sex is very good. Her and i didn't have the best relationship. I guess right now in a sense I'm playing the "bad boy" role when we hang out we have fun and I don't listen to her when she complains and does nothing about her situation. I don't know if I can parlay that into sex but I'm going to try.

Until then I will take your advice and continue hunting.

Well I don't think I was abusive and talking to anyone close to the situation her friends and mine they'd tell you the same. I appreciate the advice it's obvious that it bothers me. I guess I was brought up different where if someone asks you a question you answer it honestly even if it's not what you want to here just like you did. Thanks again.

But is that the reaction that you really wanted to have? Your strength in that situation is to remain unaffected. Hell, you could have acted happy that the two were together and that would have really fucked with your ex's head. What you did was act overly emotional and that made you weak, even if you did come across physically stronger.

Do like Neo says and delete the phone number. Delete everything connected to her.

I get what you are saying, but have both seen and experienced this ridiculous anomaly too many times to not put stock in it.

Once I was chatting with a hottie, all good right? She went back to where her BF was. He slapped her across the face...HARD! I proceed to invite him outside where I was properly punishing him for his grievous error, SHE jumps on my back in his defense!