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| Author: | dorkley [ Wed Oct 08, 2014 6:45 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Girlfriend wants to move in with me... |
GF of 2+ years wants to move in with me because we both work 1.5 hours away in the same city. Plus our relationship is going strong as ever. However I'm concerned. I don't want sex to drop off with her, as it hasn't thus far. Also, I don't want a shitty relationship because of how much we see each other. I mean we currently see each other 3 times a week and sleep over 1-2 times of those 3. But she kinda got the job in the new city because it was a better one than she currently has, but also to be closer to my job. Can I just tell her I don't want to ruin what I have? We'd both have to commute to around the same area, but even then I have my concerns with seeing her too much. |
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| Author: | JackZero [ Thu Oct 09, 2014 2:23 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girlfriend wants to move in with me... |
I've made the mistake of allowing girlfriends to move in with me on two occasions. My advice is do not do it. It is no longer your place after that. It makes a breakup much more difficult if it happens. It may seem like it should, but you really don't end up saving much money. Only move in with someone if you are planning on marrying them. |
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| Author: | reel2real [ Tue Oct 21, 2014 3:27 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girlfriend wants to move in with me... |
Quote: I've made the mistake of allowing girlfriends to move in with me on two occasions. My advice is do not do it. It is no longer your place after that. It makes a breakup much more difficult if it happens. It may seem like it should, but you really don't end up saving much money.
I agree...to an extent.Only move in with someone if you are planning on marrying them. If you were moving into HER place than I would advise against it because it will never feel like it is your place. I made that mistake moving into my gf's apartment. The fact that her brother was also present started the deathroll in my relationship. However, if she's moving in with you, you still have the power. It's YOUR place, you CAN kick her out at anytime if shit goes wrong in your relationship. Best case scenario is to move in to an apartment together, but this is the next best option. Word of caution: Don't ever move in with a girl just because its convenient for the both of you. You or the gf will stop trying in the relationship and see you as someone to help pay the bills instead of moving in together for the right reasons. If you want to put a ring on it, get a place together. |
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| Author: | younglady [ Tue Oct 21, 2014 7:11 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girlfriend wants to move in with me... |
Only time you should move in together is after the wedding. |
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| Author: | Stenic1 [ Wed Oct 22, 2014 2:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girlfriend wants to move in with me... |
Everyones being so negative... also look at the positives - she can cook you food and tidy ? just kidding lol. In all seriousness dude - it might prosper your relationship but if she moves in its a big move but not massive and you have the power as its your house. |
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| Author: | _Lothario_ [ Wed Oct 22, 2014 5:13 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girlfriend wants to move in with me... |
If you are not comfortable with her moving in, then don't do it. If she doesn't respect your position on this then you are not on the same page, and she is expecting more from you than you are offering. If this is at the cost of the relationship, it must be so. You both should be ready to take things to that level if you are to go to that level. Also, what is stopping you from engagement? |
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