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Author:  joker31 [ Fri Oct 03, 2014 6:50 am ]
Post subject:  She needs her space
Just so you understand the situation we are not "dating", however we are seeing each other a little bit. She was dating someone and she cheated on him with me.

We've been hanging out, banging, chilling and literally just started "seeing" each other. This entire time her ex has been messaging/calling saying he misses/loves her. The other night he sent flowers, when she told me I said "well that's sweet of him, you should give him a chance :P"

Now about me, I'm a busy person and she constantly texts, calls, sends dirty pics, etc to me. I do not initiate much of this, it's all her. Now she seems to do this at bad times where I do not respond very quickly.

Today, she messaged me that she needs space to think about her ex and what's going on with him. I felt it was about my lack of communication with her, she was adamant it was nothing about that. Rather, she felt she jumped into me and her too quickly (literally, as she cheated on him) while not giving herself time between her old relationship and this potential one.

After she explained it was about that and not about me (she claims I have never done anything wrong and is very happy with me), I insisted she take her time to figure things out.

Any advice on the situation and whether I should ever contact her or let her? I'm leaning towards not doing so
Author:  Mastermind9000 [ Fri Oct 03, 2014 7:05 am ]
Post subject:  Re: She needs her space
Frankly, I think you got it just right. Tell her you want to talk to her any time, but she can take all the time and have all the space she needs. Up to her.
Author:  murovsky [ Fri Oct 03, 2014 8:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: She needs her space
You seem to be in control, I would risk saying she did this to see how you react, because she might be unsure about your feelings (since you say she's more needy than you in the relation).
Author:  n2thevoid [ Sat Oct 04, 2014 7:24 am ]
Post subject:  Re: She needs her space
You're doing an A-1 job of handling the situation. There's nothing more to be said. Good work.
Author:  chantos [ Sat Oct 04, 2014 4:11 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: She needs her space
don't contact her, let her contact you.

i wouldn't have directly tried to ascertain whether it was my lack of communication that was causing the issue. why plant that seed?

also, i'd have stuck with "well that's sweet of him" and cut the "why don't you give him a chance?" bit. again, why plant the seed? do you really want that to happen? sometimes the reverse psychology backfires. that being said, much better than showing anger or jealousy. alpha move.

my guess is she's hanging with the ex a bit now, still has feelings for him, perhaps hooked up with him again (though who knows). no such thing as "i need time and space to figure things out." that's chick-speak for "i want to hook up with my ex." i think overall you're playing it well and should just wait until she contacts you. if she doesn't, then obviously she had her little fling and now wants comfort and will go back with the ex until she gets bored again. keep her on the side for sex but never date her exclusively.

i repeat: you do not enter a serious relationship with a woman who has cheated with you. she'll do it to you.
Author:  neo87 [ Sat Oct 04, 2014 7:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: She needs her space
Quote:
i repeat: you do not enter a serious relationship with a woman who has cheated with you. she'll do it to you.

This. Keep her for sex
Author:  joker31 [ Sun Oct 05, 2014 8:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: She needs her space
Thanks for the help. When she does contact me again, should I tell her something along the lines of "I think you're contacting me too early, you need a bit more time?"
Author:  joker31 [ Tue Oct 07, 2014 8:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: She needs her space
Update: She just asked me "How are your games going?", since she knows I coach.

I'm gonna respond like normal, but if she says "I miss you" or something, I'm gonna say "How could that be? It's only been a couple days..."

Should I make it playful or how should I go about it?
Author:  TedH [ Thu Oct 16, 2014 7:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: She needs her space
You coach? and you ask this question?

If you coach then you know the answer. APPROACH. Get abundance. Fuk a chick in a bathroom stall.

Do not let her be a anchor for your emotions.

Cheers,
Ted H.
Author:  oceanx [ Fri Oct 17, 2014 8:04 am ]
Post subject:  Re: She needs her space
Meet other girls. She will sense this and chase even harder.
Author:  Gunfighter28 [ Sat Oct 25, 2014 7:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: She needs her space
Here's what I gather you've handled this on point her ex is being a weak ass beta. With all the weak ass beta chasing he's doing he's driving her away from him and closer to you. However something he did or said made her think, and want space you did the proper thing by not chasing guaranteed he fucked up again, and acted weak you didn't so now she's pursuing you.

As for what to do when she contacts you again that depends on what you want from this girl if you want her make definite plans to have her come to your place at such and such time on whatever day then get off the phone. The phone,texting,emailing etc should be used to set up dates only.
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