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| Author: | Cross De Lena [ Fri Sep 19, 2014 6:34 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Intimacy Problems - Sex - Fear Of Unknown |
Hi. So. I want to keep this post as short as possible. The girl is HB7, going to college, smart, and so on. We are both 19 years old and our relationship is great, I would say like 8/10. And we are currently 4 months into our relationship ... But, yea. There is this huge "BUT" for me. And before you continue, disclaimer: Bad language down bellow. The problem: There is great sexual chemistry and tension between two of us. We both love to talk about sex, games and so on. When we are alone(in her house), I was taking her clothes off, then when I stared to take my clothes off, she said:"One naked person is enough for having fun"(What the *uck guys?), and didn't want me to take my clothes off. So, I said what the fuck, I felt at the time more comfortable wearing clothes and we played games, I had my hand down on her, because I was watching and reading alot about female orgasm I did it right, she reached orgasm withing less then 10 minutes(She climaxed about 5-6 times in our relationship so far, me ZERO). She then put her hand down on me, but her hand was under my underwear, she tried but I couldn't reach climax. That's the first problem, and I think it's because I masturbate quite often, at least once every day. She was very sad and disappointed, she said:"I'm very sad that I can't make you climax as you make me." Later that day, I said to her that maybe her not letting me to take my clothes off probably turned me little down, and I wasn't feeling it then. She explained herself by saying that she is afraid that we both are naked at the same time because she is afraid of getting pregnant, she's afraid that she can get pregnant even if I just climax on her boy for example, without the actual sexual intercourse. But, the thing is, on a daily she says how much she loves me and cares for me, how much she would like to get married, have kids, have a life with me. She often insists on paying when we are in bar, having a drink, or when we go out in patisserie, she even buys gifts and really, and vice-versa but I'm telling you, the girl is all over me. But, when it comes to sex, and games, what am I doing wrong? She didn't even give me a bj yet, I want it, but I don't want to be seen to much as a jerk like:"I want you to suck my dick", but I feel like I'm giving her too much in terms of sex and pleasure, and receiving very little. Any advises? I think that my problem is I'm afraid to take command when we are in bed, or alone, I "feared" to take my clothes of at that instance, like I said earlier, I felt more comfortable that way(Later I found out that was a MISTAKE). I should just say it, what I want, where and how I want it if she really wants to satisfy me. Because that's what she wants also, she always tells me things like:"Please, if I'm doing something wrong, take my hand and show it to me, or say what you like so I can satisfy you". Maybe, me expecting the girl to do all the work by herself is bad. Should I change my methods? Be more direct and really say kinky things like:"On you knees baby." Need some kind of help, because every time I leave her place, I leave it so she is satisfied in Sexual way, I'm not. But she's not happy, actually she almost cries because she thinks she will never satisfy me. What's wrong? Need help. Really, the relationship is good, don't want to ruin it because something is wrong with me, I hope it's me, because then I would fix it more easily. Cheers. Thanks for reading guys. |
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Fri Sep 19, 2014 6:44 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Intimacy Problems - Sex - Fear Of Unknown |
You kids are... What? 17? YOU need to take control. You need to be the boss and you need to drive her so fucking crazy, sexually, that she rips your damn clothes off. You'll need to do better than using your hands. Get her worked up enough and she'll be begging you for it. You're not there yet if it hasn't happened. Also - if she ASKING you what she can do better so that you can get off, tell her to use her mouth. Handjobs are for teenagers. |
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| Author: | Cross De Lena [ Fri Sep 19, 2014 7:08 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Intimacy Problems - Sex - Fear Of Unknown |
Quote: You kids are... What? 17?
I like you for being so forward. No bullshit. Give me some advises to drive her crazy, no full reports, just give me some cliff notes. That would do for me, always open to improvements. Thanks.
YOU need to take control. You need to be the boss and you need to drive her so fucking crazy, sexually, that she rips your damn clothes off. You'll need to do better than using your hands. Get her worked up enough and she'll be begging you for it. You're not there yet if it hasn't happened. Also - if she ASKING you what she can do better so that you can get off, tell her to use her mouth. Handjobs are for teenagers. |
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| Author: | JackZero [ Sat Sep 20, 2014 1:27 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Intimacy Problems - Sex - Fear Of Unknown |
The next time she tells you no. Get up and go home. |
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| Author: | LeVoir [ Sat Sep 20, 2014 6:18 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Intimacy Problems - Sex - Fear Of Unknown |
Push and pull sexually. She is fearful of getting pregnant, talk about birth-control? By push-pull, I mean tease her, get her aroused, but never quite give it to her until you get what you want too. It is about dominance. Get what you want from her before you give her the release she desires. You can get her off, now you need to "teach" her how to get you off. Do you know what turns you on? Tell her to do it before you give her what she wants. If she ups and stops - then don't beg for it. Just freeze out. Usually works. |
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