Whatever happens u were always my true first love. You wanted me to never let go and I wouldn't have, but our communication just wasn't where it should have been. Unfortunately part of loving u is knowing when/if to let go. I wanted all of u and I feel I only got half. Whoever the next lucky guy is that captures ur heart, be open and honest with him if he's worth it. My plans haven't changed, I'm moving out of Cali. Take care of yourself.

I broke off because she lied, she wasn't being honest, and I wasn't going to see her for months. If we didn't have strong communication and trust now, then the Ltr would be hell.

Just broke up with my gf because I felt she wasn't giving the level of attraction I wanted.

She actually broke up with me early last week. At this time I didn't know she had planned on moving. She did it via fb messenger. I let her know we needed to talk face to face and asked her what time she got off work. She said 9pm and I said I'd be there. She told me not to come, but I told her I'd be there anyway. I went. Long story short, she was never at work and had quit the job the day before. I only found out when I finally was able to get her to see me after she was drinking with a co-worker and her co-workers bf. We made up because she says she still loved me but she was afraid to tell me she was moving and she had depression. I didn't mind the depression thing happening we could work through that, but the lie was the first strike.

The lack of communication is the second strike. I know she likes to drink and I think she may be ashamed that she drinks, so she doesn't tell me. She is super affectionate when drunk, doesn't know her limit, and blanks out at times. It worries me and I told her before. She's gone out before and never texted a word to me about it till maybe after the fact. I went out w/ some friends to go get hammered and she saw what I was doing on fb and was damn near ready to cut my ballz off if I hadn't contacted her and let her know I was going out.... Or so she said. Funny thing is some times she'd be just about off work and contact me, we'd text or talk for a few mins, then she'd just dissappear. I would try to contact her back once or twice then just say to myself, fuck it. I wouldn't hear from her till late the next day saying she got drunk somewhere w/ someone(usually family or coworkers). Cutting ur bf off midtalk is disrespectful, but I overlooked it for a while. Thinking it was just something that women do. My sister does it so I figured whatever.

Also on communication, it felt like having to move a mountain to get her to open up and communicate with me sometimes. Usually when we were together we just enjoyed each others presence and probably fucked once a week. We only saw each other twice a week, but the last 2 weeks, everything was going downhill. No sex, lying, lack of communication, all of which I tried talking to her about at one time or another... Except the sex, didn't mention that.

Third strike was trust. I mean hell, she just moved out, didn't want her bf to help her move(I was at work during the day, but was free that evening), got help from some guy coworkers, didn't call/text to let me know if everything was moved ok till later the next day (even though I called/texted to see how things went), never invited me over.... I had absolutely no clue where she lived, yet some random coworker she knows, knows where she lives. If I couldn't trust her enough to open up to me, or let me know what happened during her day... good or bad(not everyday, but sometimes), or trust her drinking habits, or know even a little how her depression was affecting her(though things are tricky with this one), how could I trust her being miles away.


And now that I re-read all this, I'm starting to think I made a decent decision. I still care for and love her, but I think my eyes r a bit more open.

Well this is a very different angle than your first post.

The OP made it sound like she just stopped communicating that she loved you so you broke it off... you should have mentioned the other issues. Much easier to help you.

She's got some issues all right - and you've got some valid concerns. The lying... OK, I can sorta see why she would be afraid to tell you, but dumping you over FB messenger is pretty lame.

The transition for you may be tough initially, but I really think you'll be better off without this level of drama in your life... If you find yourself getting really hung up on her - cut her out... unfriend her, block her, throw everything away and 'fresh start' your dating life...

Best way to get over her - get your ass on Tinder, and start going out with friends. Date other girls. Hotter girls...

Whatever happens u were always my true first love. You wanted me to never let go and I wouldn't have, but our communication just wasn't where it should have been. Unfortunately part of loving u is knowing when/if to let go. I wanted all of u and I feel I only got half. Whoever the next lucky guy is that captures ur heart, be open and honest with him if he's worth it. My plans haven't changed, I'm moving out of Cali. Take care of yourself.