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Author:  Danish Delight [ Thu Sep 11, 2014 3:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Dumped by text
So I have been dating this girl for a good part of the summer and just today she dropped a bomb.

In the start we were open about that we were allowed to see others, which I have and she kinda figured out through some pictures on facebook. Everything were going good, and I started seeing gf potential. Then she started school and got busy with that and we only saw each other like once a week. Then we didnt see each other for 3 weeks, she canceled our meeting, she rescheduled and canceled again.

Today she wrote this to me on fb, not text as we mostly communicate with:

Hey "Danish delight"
I know that I should have told you this sooner, but I have to tell you that we can't see each other anymore, it have been nice with you but I have alot of other stuff in my life right now, which requires my attention. It have nothing to o with you, I just simply doesn't have time to start anything now.


First, what does this indicate and how should i respond to it? I have noticed we didnt speak asmuch as usual, but i thought it were just couse she started at some new school and i got back to university.

Any thought and adviced would be awesome, right now I have no idea how to respond to this.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Sep 11, 2014 3:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumped by text
Respond "That's cool I was thinking the same thing!"
And THE END

It's her polite way of saying, I'm getting plenty of other cock just now, yours is not needed.

Time to move on Bro.
Author:  satnydj [ Thu Sep 11, 2014 4:01 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumped by text
Pretty sure my relationship is actually headed in this same direction. Same timeframe and she recently pulled back to seeing each other about once a week.

Heywood is right, maybe not saying that you were thinking the same thing, but you gotta let it go, and cut communications. If you want her back, give it at least a month before reaching out again, and she might possibly reach out too, but understand that you can't communicate with her in that time frame.

If you mean anything to her, she will miss you and come back without your constant communication. If not, well then there are plenty others out there for you.

This sounds like it might have been a summer love.
Author:  Danish Delight [ Thu Sep 11, 2014 4:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumped by text
Were thinking the same, guess i just hoped for another answer. So there is no way to reattract? Or should i just remove her from fb, delete the messages and forget all about?
Author:  kealtoast [ Thu Sep 11, 2014 5:56 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumped by text
Hey so there are a few things and probably more than I can write that could be going on.

She could have found someone else

She could be working on getting her life together before committing to a relationship

She could just not be into you anymore

Don’t get hung up on finding out why she is doing this, and how to fix it. Focus on you women hate when the guy comes back trying to get back with them. My advised is to reply “I was thinking the same thing, Glad we are on the same level.” Then leave it at that. Don’t show you are having a hard time just be honest and leave out any lovey dovey stuff. Chances are she will contact you again one day and if she does suggest maybe meeting up. Start from the beggining; one working slowly to bring her comfort level back up with you and building sexual tension. If at that time you are still interested that is.

I know this may be hard to do we have all been there. The thought of not being with her makes you go mad. You try harder and harder to be with her, showing her more and more why you would make a good boyfriend shoving it down her throat. That is the biggest turn of and will hurt any future chance you may have of rebuilding the relationship.
Author:  Danish Delight [ Thu Sep 11, 2014 7:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumped by text
Just texted her that i think we were in too different places in our lifes, but it were nice to had get to know her a bit and that i hope she gets control of her life.

She immediately responded with thanks, and likewise, were really really nice. You are one of the good guys.


This were it, might have been a bit beta but so what. I learned what i could from it, and now i have to study for tomorrow where i have date with another girl. Lifes moves on.

Thanks for the quick responses guys, allways nice to hear some thought when my own view narrows a bit down :)
Author:  Karlb [ Thu Sep 18, 2014 5:25 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumped by text
The fact she dumped you in a message and doesn't have the consideration or guts to do it in a more respectful way shows she's lame. That chick is just plain rude. Work on your inner-game and attract better women. As you grow more confident and enjoy your life women will flock - and there's no doubt rude chick will try to get back in. :lol:
Author:  Dragula [ Thu Sep 18, 2014 5:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumped by text
Doesn't sound like was in a relationship to start with.

Fuck em good and this doesn't happen, then it usually ends because they want something more...

THUG LIFE
Author:  Hunter_Foxe [ Thu Sep 18, 2014 6:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumped by text
Basically you were too nice. She wanted a bad boy who can fuck her good. You were a nice guy who dried up her pussy. Learn from this
Author:  Danish Delight [ Wed Sep 24, 2014 8:31 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumped by text
You guys got a point. I think my problem is, either I don't really give that much about them, fuck them a couple of times before I start to loose interest in the girl, not the sex, thats good. And when I find one who I think could be GF material, I just fuck it up after a while and become Mr. Nice guy.

Any advice how to balance this?
And to be honest, Im not really interestet in more one nights, I can pretty much f-close a good looking girl any friday or saturday night at my campus after 2 years at that university. But I am finding this less and less exciting and would rather have one girl i really liked.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Sat Sep 27, 2014 1:35 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumped by text
Quote:
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Doesn't sound like was in a relationship to start with.

Fuck em good and this doesn't happen, then it usually ends because they want something more...

THUG LIFE
Agreed.
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The fact she dumped you in a message and doesn't have the consideration or guts to do it in a more respectful way shows she's lame. That chick is just plain rude. Work on your inner-game and attract better women. As you grow more confident and enjoy your life women will flock - and there's no doubt rude chick will try to get back in. :lol:
Great advice.
This
Author:  rsfanet [ Sun Sep 28, 2014 11:11 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Dumped by text
Doesn't sound like a relationship at all. She's barely even worth a reply, but it's best if you go with something like "I was thinking the same thing."
Your chances to be with her are zero, so don't think about a reply that would change it.
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