Actually all you did is show how insecure you are. Thats a huge turn off for girls.
You have to understand that women do not rationalize like men.
It may take her time to get closure and she does it in her own way.
So respect her in a way she deserves and if you cant do that then move on.

Man... One word: Baggage.

Chicks that are close with their ex's or keep in touch have shit tonnes of baggage. They are not worthy of being in a relationship if they can't move on from an ex and the same goes for guys. There are very rare scenarios when a girl and an ex are simply just friends and that's generally only when they've both moved on amicably and have been friends for years, are both grown up and both in committed relationships. Even at that it's extremely hard for anyone to know exactly what's going on.

I would honestly say about 10% of the men and women you see out there that are "just friends" with ex's are actually just friends. So as soon as your girlfriend is hitting up ex boyfriends and getting butt hurt over you being bothered by it you need to lay down the law, tell them you don't think it's cool and lay your cards on the table straight up. If any shit starts happening after that dump her ass.

This isn't being "insecure" it's having common sense and realizing male to female dynamics. If you have previous relations with someone and you care about them enough to keep in touch unconsciously you're keeping them on the side for a random romp at least you are at the back of your mind, especially if the sex was good. Take the initiative, state your expectations in relationships before committing.

You just sound insecure, man.

The reason why you should call a chick out isn't because of insecurities it's to have a healthy relationship. Basically telling her you'll talk to your ex's is trying to one up her when you should have a "matter of fact" attitude and be fully willing to drop her ass without trying to get the last word in. Your mentality should be "She's not relationship material. I'll either drop her or downgrade her to FWB." none of this "I want to make her jealous so she'll stop and think of me" stuff.

You just sound insecure, man.

The reason why you should call a chick out isn't because of insecurities it's to have a healthy relationship. Basically telling her you'll talk to your ex's is trying to one up her when you should have a "matter of fact" attitude and be fully willing to drop her ass without trying to get the last word in. Your mentality should be "She's not relationship material. I'll either drop her or downgrade her to FWB." none of this "I want to make her jealous so she'll stop and think of me" stuff.

Its not about I want to make her jealous. Thats stupid.

Its more like fairness question. I don't talk to my ex when we r together, so it will not be fair for her to do so neither.

Her ex is gone and i'm not going to tolerate them maintaining relationship, while we have one.

either I should also keep in touch with my ex gfs...

As a matter of fact I still do

It looks insecure because your reasoning is changing.

People don't go where they aren't wanted bruh. Where there's smoke there's fire etc. I'm sure you understand. Their relationship isn't over but yours is on the brink. She keeps him around not necessarily because she likes him better but because she plans on going back to him in the future. She did what a a previous poster said to do. She staged a break up. Never do this because it's feminine as fuck. But she did it to show her boyfriend what he is missing and he of course followed the beta male script and went with it. Don't drop this bitch but instead start talking to other girls and cold approaching again. It will work wonders. Cold approach cures almost everything.

Dude I can speak from experience that playing it cool is not always the way to go. Ex left me for her ex of around three years prior. When I found out she was speaking to him at a bar before she broke it off I acted like I didn't give a fuck and told her I hope she had fun etc. Month later he was in and I was out....set clear boundries don't be mean or give ultimatums like if you talk to him we are through etc. Just tell her then show her its not alright to be talking to him.