So I was friend zoned by a co-worker... She knew about my feelings, but didn't wanna get into relationships with me. I did freezing for a month, changed my style and behavior. She started complaining that I'm cold to her and I finally asked her out 15 days ago, took her out to an old abandoned castle in my city, tried to kiss her and she rejected me again... I was all sad, told her to treat me like everyone else at our office 'cause I can't be her friend. She started crying... she was all like "I'm just afraid, don't wanna lose you..." we finally ended up kissing and cuddling... We went out 4-5 times since then... again kissing, cuddling, but she doesn't wanna have sex, she says she's not ready, it's too fast, she needs time... the thing is, she's kind of a party girl, and I don't think sex is a big deal for her... but overall I feel like there's not much attraction to me... She's not very physical.

Do you think this is normal? Do you think she just uses me in any way? Maybe she just doesn't wanna lose the friendship? What would be your guess in this situation?

Thanks for your suggestions guys. I did dry hump, we had a sleepover and she was all wet, but again, no sex. She's still a bit distant... well, she says she wants actual relationships with me.

Yea, I feel like I need to play with her for a bit (closer, farther).