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Author:  Karas [ Fri Jul 25, 2014 12:26 pm ]
Post subject:  should i give up whats good to go for the dream?
I LOVE WOMAN!!! :mrgreen:
And no offense but, even (MORE) then the next guy.

Even before I found out about pickup I always wanted to be great with woman. Not in a sense of being a player in which, you might have sex with a girl and never see or talk to her again or if your in a relationship and still seeing other woman that your gf doesn't know about.

No. I wanted to have plenty of woman in my life as lovers and good friends. I wanted to be in a situation in which, I would be in several open, casual relationships. This means that they would know I was seeing other woman from the start. This way there would be no lies and nothing to hide and if they so wanted they could see other men. Also as I stated earlier on, also as good friends that I could hang out with, go to parties with, be close to on a companionship level. So as you can see just all around awesome with the ladies.

Found about pickup and struggled with it for about 3 years finally started getting good at it, one thing lead to another and I ended up with a gf. Not that it's anything wrong with that she's awesome. Beautiful girl, treats me good, cooks for me, good in bed etc etc and we have been together for some time.

The thing is, that grand dream of mine still burns strong and I find myself looking at the masses of beautiful woman and thinking, man if only I was single. smh

I never been a cheat and don't want to start. I just feel so guilty because this girl cares a lot about me and If I call things off. It will shatter this loving girls heart :cry:
Author:  maria_ [ Fri Jul 25, 2014 4:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: should i give up whats good to go for the dream?
Quote:
I LOVE WOMAN!!! :mrgreen:
And no offense but, even (MORE) then the next guy.

Even before I found out about pickup I always wanted to be great with woman. Not in a sense of being a player in which, you might have sex with a girl and never see or talk to her again or if your in a relationship and still seeing other woman that your gf doesn't know about.

No. I wanted to have plenty of woman in my life as lovers and good friends. I wanted to be in a situation in which, I would be in several open, casual relationships. This means that they would know I was seeing other woman from the start. This way there would be no lies and nothing to hide and if they so wanted they could see other men. Also as I stated earlier on, also as good friends that I could hang out with, go to parties with, be close to on a companionship level. So as you can see just all around awesome with the ladies.

Found about pickup and struggled with it for about 3 years finally started getting good at it, one thing lead to another and I ended up with a gf. Not that it's anything wrong with that she's awesome. Beautiful girl, treats me good, cooks for me, good in bed etc etc and we have been together for some time.

The thing is, that grand dream of mine still burns strong and I find myself looking at the masses of beautiful woman and thinking, man if only I was single. smh

I never been a cheat and don't want to start. I just feel so guilty because this girl cares a lot about me and If I call things off. It will shatter this loving girls heart :cry:
It depends.... Do you have as a fantasy growing older with a good wife and kids or do you want to be the new Hugh Heffner? Could you guarantee yourself that you can have constant supply of women for the rest of your life?
You don't always get good people that love you in your life who want to stick with you through thick and thin. But if you can be like George Clooney then go ahead and do it.
It's your life and you know better what are your goals.
Just make sure you don't get influenced by hollywood or fancy books and you take in consideration all aspects of reality... You won't be always young and healthy unless you are someone that has money or good genes or good luck to stay that way.
Only YOU know these answers.

Before anyone here suggests "open relationship"... I am telling you that 90% chances her answer will be "no".
Author:  oceanx [ Fri Jul 25, 2014 8:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: should i give up whats good to go for the dream?
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The thing is, that grand dream of mine still burns strong and I find myself looking at the masses of beautiful woman and thinking, man if only I was single. smh
The reply above is good in that it is good to consider that if this is a girl who you truly want to be your partner for life then maybe drop the dream for the greater good.

One thing that helps me in situations like this is to mentally put myself into the future and consider both options:

So imagine that you're 100 years old thinking back on your life. First picture that you had stayed with this girl and had a wonderful life together. Then picture that you had dropped the girl and pursued your playboy lifestyle. Consider both and determine which one feels right all around.

A top thing people think about at the end of their life is the regrets they had. What if I would have done X.
Author:  Anon191919 [ Tue Jul 29, 2014 2:52 am ]
Post subject:  Re: should i give up whats good to go for the dream?
I found myself in this position last year as well.

If you break up with her, things will probably not be the same due to her loss of trust, self esteem from being dumped.

One is not necessarily better than the other, the grass is always greener.

But agreed with the guys before me, nobody can really help you with this call.
Author:  Karas [ Wed Jul 30, 2014 11:25 am ]
Post subject:  Re: should i give up whats good to go for the dream?
[quote="CrazyWhiteboi"]I found myself in this position last year as well.

May I ask what was the result of your situation?
Author:  n2thevoid [ Mon Aug 04, 2014 2:20 am ]
Post subject:  Re: should i give up whats good to go for the dream?
A good woman is hard to find.

What about having experiences with many women is such a dream for you? I'm not being facetious, I'd like to understand YOUR rationale.
Author:  Karas [ Mon Aug 11, 2014 5:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: should i give up whats good to go for the dream?
Quote:
Quote:
I LOVE WOMAN!!! :mrgreen:
And no offense but, even (MORE) then the next guy.

Even before I found out about pickup I always wanted to be great with woman. Not in a sense of being a player in which, you might have sex with a girl and never see or talk to her again or if your in a relationship and still seeing other woman that your gf doesn't know about.

No. I wanted to have plenty of woman in my life as lovers and good friends. I wanted to be in a situation in which, I would be in several open, casual relationships. This means that they would know I was seeing other woman from the start. This way there would be no lies and nothing to hide and if they so wanted they could see other men. Also as I stated earlier on, also as good friends that I could hang out with, go to parties with, be close to on a companionship level. So as you can see just all around awesome with the ladies.

Found about pickup and struggled with it for about 3 years finally started getting good at it, one thing lead to another and I ended up with a gf. Not that it's anything wrong with that she's awesome. Beautiful girl, treats me good, cooks for me, good in bed etc etc and we have been together for some time.

The thing is, that grand dream of mine still burns strong and I find myself looking at the masses of beautiful woman and thinking, man if only I was single. smh

I never been a cheat and don't want to start. I just feel so guilty because this girl cares a lot about me and If I call things off. It will shatter this loving girls heart :cry:
It depends.... Do you have as a fantasy growing older with a good wife and kids or do you want to be the new Hugh Heffner? Could you guarantee yourself that you can have constant supply of women for the rest of your life?
You don't always get good people that love you in your life who want to stick with you through thick and thin. But if you can be like George Clooney then go ahead and do it.
It's your life and you know better what are your goals.
Just make sure you don't get influenced by hollywood or fancy books and you take in consideration all aspects of reality... You won't be always young and healthy unless you are someone that has money or good genes or good luck to stay that way.
Only YOU know these answers.

Before anyone here suggests "open relationship"... I am telling you that 90% chances her answer will be "no".
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I found myself in this position last year as well.

May I ask what was the result of your situation?
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A good woman is hard to find.

What about having experiences with many women is such a dream for you? I'm not being facetious, I'd like to understand YOUR rationale.

Hold on now. I never said I would be doing this for the rest of my life. I'm 26. At the latest I plan on settling down by the time I'm 35. And I know, I know, love and a good woman is not a easy thing to find but at the same time, This site is called mpuaforum, were pua's dammit! We don't sit a around and wait for love to fall on our laps we go out and get it!

If wasn't for pickup I would have never been able to get with her as I was in the first place, let alone have her fall in love with me.

And as for why I want this kind of life style. As far as I can remember I've always felt this way. As stated before I love woman (MORE) then the next guy. I just think woman are straight up awesome and it's a hell of a lot more of that awesomeness that I want in my life. I can't see myself having all these woman in my life and being tied down. Eventually the hormones are going to take over and I would end up doing one of two things.
1cheat
2 be miserable.

Shoot neil strauss did it. At one point in his life he was dating 9 woman at the same damn time! And now he is a married man. So I know it's possible.
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