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Author:  excalibur32 [ Thu Jul 24, 2014 5:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Re-establish myself in relationship
Hey fellas,

So my gf of 1.5 yrs recently (3 weeks ago) told me she no longer wanted to maintain the relationship as such and tried to just be friends. I initially was caught off guard and hurt so I decided to take a weekend trip to Vegas to get back into the game and basically move on since I know she has started rekindling with her ex. However if Im being honest with myself im still holding on to some strong feelings. Now here's where I need help. Ive accepted that part of our lives is done. But I really am curious about how best to re-establish myself and not falling into the friendzone. Is it even possible to get back to alpha male in her eyes again?
Note: she still texts me and wants to hang out but "claims" doesnt want to do anything anymore. (So far I was rebuffed once and haven't tried anything since.)

Thanks in advance,
Excalibur
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Jul 24, 2014 7:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Re-establish myself in relationship
Quote:
Hey fellas,

So my gf of 1.5 yrs recently (3 weeks ago) told me she no longer wanted to maintain the relationship as such and tried to just be friends. I initially was caught off guard and hurt so I decided to take a weekend trip to Vegas to get back into the game and basically move on since I know she has started rekindling with her ex. However if Im being honest with myself im still holding on to some strong feelings. Now here's where I need help. Ive accepted that part of our lives is done. But I really am curious about how best to re-establish myself and not falling into the friendzone. Is it even possible to get back to alpha male in her eyes again?
Note: she still texts me and wants to hang out but "claims" doesnt want to do anything anymore. (So far I was rebuffed once and haven't tried anything since.)

Thanks in advance,
Excalibur
Just don't fucking do it!

The friend zone is a choice YOU make.
Quote:
Is it even possible to get back to alpha male in her eyes again?
1. Freeze her the fuck out.
2. Don't - cater to - do things for - be nice - express your undying love - show any signs your effected or torn up.
3. Do - See other women - pursue your interests - hang with YOUR friends - Fuck her friends.
4. Express only sexual interest - feel free to be as dirty as you like.
Author:  excalibur32 [ Fri Jul 25, 2014 1:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Re-establish myself in relationship
So I must admit reading the advice given was a dose of reality check I needed to see because I was absolutely committing many of the things I was advised not to do! But its time to man the fuck up so thats what ive decided to do! So instant freeze out began yesterday. My question is once I decide to end the freeze out (im thinking 30 days or so) whats my next move?
Note: Shes already tried frantically to reach out to me but im not relenting until I know this shit takes a real effect of her missing out on being with me. (And being = sex....lol)

Thanks again,
Excalibur
Author:  neo87 [ Fri Jul 25, 2014 1:59 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Re-establish myself in relationship
Delete and block her on your phone, fb, twitter, whatever. Take some time and enjoy life. Move on from this chick. If you see her on the street, pass her like a ghost. Chick dumped you to fuck her ex. Forget sex with her. It will only fuck with you more.
Author:  excalibur32 [ Thu Jul 31, 2014 3:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Re-establish myself in relationship
Update: So I took the advice given. Froze her cold turkey. She proceeded to reach out to me frantically for several straight days. Then finally out of nowhere her mother tries to reach out to me. I felt I couldn't be disrespectful to the mother as since we had a gr8 relationship ourselves. So I just let her know I was ok. Since then ex has gotten angry/upset I wont respond. Ok whatever. At this point I have since gone on a couple dates and im not so stung by this mess. But I cant deny how I feel about her and I know she has been trying to reach out and patch things up. My question is do I really just forget about her altogether knowing she did contact her ex? Or do use this as motivation (which I have in all facets of my game (working out, clothing, self-confidence) and come back around down the road in a month or so)? Keep in mind this is the love of my life but realize that my outlook and hers may be different.

Thanks again,
Excalibur
Author:  oceanx [ Thu Jul 31, 2014 10:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Re-establish myself in relationship
Proceed with the freeze out. She made her bed when she told you she wants to end things and GET BACK WITH HER EX. Get out there and enjoy life bro. Meet women, have fun, forget about her until the 30 day period is up. Just don't think about her. The love of your life wouldn't tell you she wants her ex back. Maybe she'll come around but in the meantime, meet more women.

The moment a new girl is smiling at you with her sexy eyes while you're pulling her panties down, you will laugh to yourself about what a mistake your ex made in ending things the way she did. Her loss.
Author:  neo87 [ Thu Jul 31, 2014 11:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Re-establish myself in relationship
Forget about her FOREVER dude. Not for a period of time. Getting back with her just delays the pain she will cause you. 3 years down the line she will dump you again. And that's 2x as hard as after 1.5years. Move on forever.
Author:  excalibur32 [ Thu Sep 04, 2014 5:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Re-establish myself in relationship
Neo87,

You were right. But I thank you for giving me the headsup on what would happen. Im just glad that I was able to walk away unscathed any further.
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