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| Author: | goozecruise [ Mon Jun 16, 2014 6:10 pm ] |
| Post subject: | I need some help |
LSS - G/F left me for another guy. After 2 years...I feel like absolute shit. I know this is a familiar scene, and the best advice comes from those living it or experiencing it. I'm 30 years old...dated a 23 year old...and here I am now. Details really mean nothing...I just need to know if I am going to be alright...if she is going to call me...if Im going to find someone else...please guys. |
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Mon Jun 16, 2014 6:50 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I need some help |
You'll probably die from heartbreak, yyyyyyeah. Christ, dude... Sorry for your loss, but this isn't an emotional support forum. It's a place to improve yourself so you can pick up women more successfully. Will she call you? Who fucking cares? She LEFT YOU FOR ANOTHER GUY. Go fuck someone else. Work on you. Join a gym, eat better... Go out, stay busy, stay active and keep your mind off it. Meet new people and get looking for that rebound. You've probably heard the saying "best way to get over someone is to get under someone else" --- completely accurate. |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Mon Jun 16, 2014 6:57 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I need some help |
Quote: LSS - G/F left me for another guy. After 2 years...I feel like absolute shit. I know this is a familiar scene, and the best advice comes from those living it or experiencing it. I'm 30 years old...dated a 23 year old...and here I am now. Details really mean nothing...I just need to know if I am going to be alright...if she is going to call me...if Im going to find someone else...please guys.
1. Yes your going to be just fine, it sucks right now but you are.2. She may call, she may not. - DON'T CALL HER AND CRY AND SHIT. 3. Yes your going to find someone else, likely quicker than you think. 4. Throw away anything that could remind you of her: pictures, gifts, etc.. 5. Delete any photos or videos of the two of you and her off of your phone and computer. Empty the trash and save nothing. 6. Work out. Cut her from every aspect of your life, delete her number, block it if you must, block/delete from all social media. Take this time for yourself, the focus is YOU. Fuck her. Reconnect with your Bros you haven't been hanging with since your LTR. Have sex with another girl as soon as possible. Every time you feel like you can’t breathe and you want to cry, then cry. Let it out. It’s okay, but do it in private. Nobody needs to see that shit. Go get drunk, game girls, have sex, sleep in, eat pizza while your taking a shit, this is your release from the bullshit, all the shit she would never put up with. Get back in touch with the fun shit you used to do before her. |
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| Author: | n2thevoid [ Mon Jun 16, 2014 7:08 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I need some help |
Quote: LSS - G/F left me for another guy. After 2 years...I feel like absolute shit. I know this is a familiar scene, and the best advice comes from those living it or experiencing it. I'm 30 years old...dated a 23 year old...and here I am now. Details really mean nothing...I just need to know if I am going to be alright...if she is going to call me...if Im going to find someone else...please guys.
It's ok man, shit happens in life to us all, its how we deal with it which ultimately defines us.Get re-aquainted with your own needs, and use this time to self-reflect rather than jumping into a new relationship. Gotta be cool with being YOU, regaining your autonomy - it's OK to do things by yourself and learn to enjoy IN YOU again (or perhaps for the first time). Do that thing you've been putting off for a while (e.g., going to the gym, learning that new intrustment, whatever). Do the things that feed your soul. Obviously you'll have your moments, learn to be compassionate towards yourself that means NO JUDGMENT of how you're feeling, just observe the feeling (might wanna look into some Mindfulness meditation too, very easy to do and can be an awesome way to cope). Sure, you can 'game' other girls but I doubt you're in any condition to do so being in protection/self-preservation mode at this moment in time, and that's perfectly ok. Definitely hangout with your buds, even make some new connections. Make sure you're getting out and being sociable in spite of how difficult it may feel. You will find someone else but in the mean time use this as an opportunity to find yourself. |
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| Author: | goozecruise [ Mon Jun 16, 2014 7:28 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I need some help |
Thanks men. I know this isn't the forum for it...but you guys are the only ones I can turn to. I do appreciate all the things you guys are saying. Believe me, I know what I need to do. I truly do...it's just easier said than done...and better to hear it from others than think I am alone. I hate having the mentality of hoping it goes bad for her and new guy...then she comes crawling back...and at that point I know it is only because she thinks I am "safe." But, it's what I want. I'm trying to say fuck it...since I am moving to scottsdale arizona...and since she is only 23...I just hate getting fucking attached and then getting walked all over...especially someone who told me they loved me up until the point of...not answering my phone calls or texts...and flaunting her and her new guy all over fb. Thanks men. |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Mon Jun 16, 2014 7:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I need some help |
Quote: hoping it goes bad for her and new guy...
Being just fine with it, is the best medicine.Take comfort in the fact she'll do the same thing to the new D-Bag. 23 Year old women are barley into the 'slut faze' of their bouncy trouncy little lives. This is not her last Rodeo! |
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| Author: | n2thevoid [ Mon Jun 16, 2014 7:50 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I need some help |
Quote: Thanks men. I know this isn't the forum for it...but you guys are the only ones I can turn to. I do appreciate all the things you guys are saying. Believe me, I know what I need to do. I truly do...it's just easier said than done...and better to hear it from others than think I am alone. I hate having the mentality of hoping it goes bad for her and new guy...then she comes crawling back...and at that point I know it is only because she thinks I am "safe." But, it's what I want. I'm trying to say fuck it...since I am moving to scottsdale arizona...and since she is only 23...I just hate getting fucking attached and then getting walked all over...especially someone who told me they loved me up until the point of...not answering my phone calls or texts...and flaunting her and her new guy all over fb. Thanks men.
Write your goals out, long and short term with daily tasks in between to keep your compass pointed north. Next time you're feeling down in the dumps look at that sheet and do one or more of the tasks no matter how hard it may be to find that motivation.
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| Author: | goozecruise [ Tue Jun 17, 2014 10:27 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I need some help |
Just got done reading how to become an alpha male...opened my fucking eyes men. This isn't a time to grieve...she comes back, she comes back...i feel like a new man after reading that...let me know your thoughts if you guys dove into this... |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Tue Jun 17, 2014 8:31 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I need some help |
hey man, I give this advice to another member recently and judging from what I've skimmed through you maybe able to grab a jewel or two from it. "There is no concrete evidence to back what I am about to say. Its more of a metaphysical thing, but what I've experienced and what many people I've known have experienced is women can always hold out for a moment longer than the point where it seems almost unbearable for men. By unbearable I mean.. At the point where you are feeling like " Fuck this shit.. I'm going to just call/text/ her". When its so strong is the point at which she is thinking about contacting you the most. Energy always follows thought. Now let me say; if you reach out to contact her at this point, you will be putting off an opportunity for you to learn the power of letting the woman go. And this is a lesson all men must learn before they can become truly successful with women. You only learn this lesson by letting go out of choice, not necessity. Men tend to thank they've let women go after they texted her 10 times, called her 3 and she ignore them. Thats not letting the woman go. Thats called picking the only option you have left. You let go out of necessity, not choice. So you don't acquire the stronger sense of presence/aura that attracts women that a man acquires from letting go of women he still has a chance with. You don't grow - you don't learn. You stay on your current level. I could go on and on about this, but the moral of the passage is; if you're interested in growing in the long run, I would leave this one alone. She may reach out - she may not, but what you will acquire will be much more beneficial than any one relationship ever could be. Now if that isn't your interest and you feel both comfortable and content with where you are on your journey. Call her don't text. Call her up and let her know that you'd still like to continue to see her. Be cool and be calm; like you've been busy in life lately, but you've accomplished a few things and you now have time to date again. A woman is always responsive to that kind of energy. With all due love in respect, Peace bro." |
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| Author: | BrandonMarshall [ Wed Jun 18, 2014 2:09 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I need some help |
Forgive & Forget & Move the Fuck On!!! there's not a scarcity of women out there... you don't need to put up with her BS. You can find somebody better. You will survive... but don't torture yourself by being obsessed with this woman. |
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| Author: | BrandonMarshall [ Wed Jun 18, 2014 2:16 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I need some help |
There's not a scarcity of women out there. If she has serious character flaws you don't have to deal with her BS. You can literally find somebody better in 15 minutes of walking outside of your house. |
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| Author: | n2thevoid [ Wed Jun 18, 2014 5:11 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I need some help |
U can throw a dart down the street and hit somebody better for you |
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| Author: | goozecruise [ Wed Jun 18, 2014 12:54 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I need some help |
Men, I appreciate it. I made some cardinal mistakes along the way but, at this point, I am going to accept reality and say this was out of necessity. Here is the reason, I left one weekend to go golfing with family. Didn't hear from her for 2 days (she runs and plays volleyball with all the bros at some bar from which I knew in the back of my head she was fucking around.) She ends up calling me two days later asking how everything was and at that point I was just tired of the bullshit again. I knew there was going to be an elaborate story as to why she couldn't answer and it involved volleyball. We didn't talk for 3 days due to my choosing. I decided to ask her to lunch. She says no. All of a sudden, she starts talking like she has before about needing some space and time to think. She lost her job the following Friday. I know this because I called pissed asking her why she hasn't called me. She starts expelling to me that she doesn't want tot all about "us" and that she needs to just focus on getting a job in Syracuse, NY, rather than talking about moving to Phoenix,AZ with me. I let it go...told her I loved her...and that was the last time I talked to her on the phone. I left for Phoenix (temporarily) and found out she was hanging out with one of the volleyball guys. I emailed her after a few repeated attempts at calling and texting to which she did not respond, and finally got a text from her saying, I just need some space and time like we talked about. She finally tells me she read my email and that it's not easy for me moving away and she's not happy about it. With or without her, I was leaving and that she wishes the best for me in phoenix and that she may work her way down there. I let it go angry...found out she was hanging out with volleyball bro and blasted her a bunch of texts saying fuck you, you've been lying to me, your a horrible person, I hate you...etc... Immediately following all of this, she is posting pictures on fb of her and new guy. I felt defeated and gave up. I don't think she will be calling me as I feel she was flirting with this guy for a long time and now that i'm gone, it was easy for her to just ignore me and move forward with what she really wanted. - Mike |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Jun 18, 2014 1:18 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I need some help |
Quote: 1. Yes your going to be just fine, it sucks right now but you are. 2. She may call, she may not. - DON'T CALL HER AND CRY AND SHIT. 3. Yes your going to find someone else, likely quicker than you think. 4. Throw away anything that could remind you of her: pictures, gifts, etc.. 5. Delete any photos or videos of the two of you and her off of your phone and computer. Empty the trash and save nothing. 6. Work out. Cut her from every aspect of your life, delete her number, block it if you must, block/delete from all social media. Take this time for yourself, the focus is YOU. Fuck her. Reconnect with your Bros you haven't been hanging with since your LTR. Have sex with another girl as soon as possible. Every time you feel like you can’t breathe and you want to cry, then cry. Let it out. It’s okay, but do it in private. Nobody needs to see that shit. Go get drunk, game girls, have sex, sleep in, eat pizza while your taking a shit, this is your release from the bullshit, all the shit she would never put up with. Get back in touch with the fun shit you used to do before her. If it makes you feel better, post her naked pictures @ http://www.nakedexgirlfriendspics.com/ |
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