PUA Forum :: Girlfriend always speaks of EXs

I skip over girls when this red flag occurs. It's normally a very bad sign (I'm assuming she is actually talking about exs and not you inferring it).

This is more common than you think. Bring it out in the open, and then correct the behavior. It's always worked for me, because in my experience, no girl can shut the fuck up about their past relationships.

"Oh ya you did that? See where you're sitting? I fucked my ex sideways on that end of the couch"

You can even say it passively for effect, the more calm you are, the better.

Don't freak out guys.

Don't freak out guys.

There is a very simple solution:

Start talking to her about sex with YOUR EX. Praise the ex about bjs, anal, going on top... or WHATEVER you want YOUR girl to compete with the ex. You can be creative and make up stuff too.

She will soon start complaining and saying she doesn't want to talk about sex anymore... and she will also be jealous of the ex... and start competing in sex to prove that she is better.

Most possibly she doesn't know that she is being an idiot. This will bring back her self awareness...

Good luck!

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Don't freak out guys.

Why do chicks say shit like this? Do they think it makes their pointless drivel sound more dramatic?

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This is why relationships go to shit and end horribly: Mind games.

Never turn a relationship into a game of jealousy. If your only weapon to combat something that annoys you is to get under the other persons skin or make them jealous then you're destined to fail and have very poor and unrewarding relationships.

Mind games are what teenagers do and they never end well. It's a poor tactic that has no lasting appeal or long term solution to definitive problems. You should remove any such tactics from your repertoire if you seek to have a fruitful and mature relationship with anyone.

Author:	Ben754 [ Tue May 27, 2014 11:38 pm ]
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We've been together for two weeks, every single day she reminds me of her sexual life and/or hints about it, how should I deal with this? I get mad, I act mad - that's what I do. She always says that she's sorry and that she loves me when I get mad about her reminding it, that doesn't change anything.

Author:	MycoGrown [ Wed May 28, 2014 12:07 am ]
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Every single day she reminds you of her sex life? You mean with her ex? She doesn't sound like girlfriend material to me. How old are the both of you? And talking about loving each other 2 weeks into a relationship is never healthy.

Author:	odyn [ Wed May 28, 2014 12:29 am ]
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You can overcome this if you make yourself the better option. Stay positive, laugh of the ex shit and change the subject. But be prepared to walk away or get you risk feeling like shit when she goes back to her ex. Keep it light, which means stop the I love you shit.

Author:	Nebular [ Tue Jun 03, 2014 3:21 am ]
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This is more common than you think. Bring it out in the open, and then correct the behavior. It's always worked for me, because in my experience, no girl can shut the fuck up about their past relationships. "Oh ya you did that? See where you're sitting? I fucked my ex sideways on that end of the couch" You can even say it passively for effect, the more calm you are, the better.

Author:	neo87 [ Tue Jun 03, 2014 12:37 pm ]
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Agree with Hobbit. She is thinking about her ex too much AND she is too stupid to control what she says as you've already brought it up and it should be easy to stop.

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Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Jun 03, 2014 2:44 pm ]
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Quote: I skip over girls when this red flag occurs. It's normally a very bad sign (I'm assuming she is actually talking about exs and not you inferring it). This!

Author:	GamesSN [ Tue Jun 03, 2014 3:35 pm ]
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Quote: This is more common than you think. Bring it out in the open, and then correct the behavior. It's always worked for me, because in my experience, no girl can shut the fuck up about their past relationships. "Oh ya you did that? See where you're sitting? I fucked my ex sideways on that end of the couch" You can even say it passively for effect, the more calm you are, the better. WHAT?! How is that normal?! I've NEVER had a chick talk to me about their ex or sex with their ex. The only time sex comes up about exes is if she actually asks me how she rates to my ex girlfriends. The only other time I actually bothered to ask about sex with an ex for her was when I was younger and insecure about my performance. Since then there's only been one time I asked a girlfriend about previous relationships and that was because her perception of sex was that "it was something you do because you're in a relationship" as in she never enjoyed it or seen sex as something to enjoy until her first orgasm(With me, obviously. )

Author:	chantos [ Tue Jun 03, 2014 4:47 pm ]
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yeah i've never had a gf talk to me about sex with her ex. maybe she'll mention her ex like once or twice in the entire relationship... i'd agree that's a red flag as most women get that you don't want to hear about other dudes banging them...

Author:	maria_ [ Tue Jun 03, 2014 7:24 pm ]
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Don't freak out guys. There is a very simple solution: Start talking to her about sex with YOUR EX. Praise the ex about bjs, anal, going on top... or WHATEVER you want YOUR girl to compete with the ex. You can be creative and make up stuff too. She will soon start complaining and saying she doesn't want to talk about sex anymore... and she will also be jealous of the ex... and start competing in sex to prove that she is better. Most possibly she doesn't know that she is being an idiot. This will bring back her self awareness... Good luck!

Author:	GamesSN [ Tue Jun 03, 2014 8:26 pm ]
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Quote: Don't freak out guys. There is a very simple solution: Start talking to her about sex with YOUR EX. Praise the ex about bjs, anal, going on top... or WHATEVER you want YOUR girl to compete with the ex. You can be creative and make up stuff too. She will soon start complaining and saying she doesn't want to talk about sex anymore... and she will also be jealous of the ex... and start competing in sex to prove that she is better. Most possibly she doesn't know that she is being an idiot. This will bring back her self awareness... Good luck! This is why relationships go to shit and end horribly: Mind games. Never turn a relationship into a game of jealousy. If your only weapon to combat something that annoys you is to get under the other persons skin or make them jealous then you're destined to fail and have very poor and unrewarding relationships. Mind games are what teenagers do and they never end well. It's a poor tactic that has no lasting appeal or long term solution to definitive problems. You should remove any such tactics from your repertoire if you seek to have a fruitful and mature relationship with anyone.

Author:	maria_ [ Tue Jun 03, 2014 10:48 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: Don't freak out guys. Why do chicks say shit like this? Do they think it makes their pointless drivel sound more dramatic? If the "red flag" is not dramatic enough for you and it is the " don't freak out" I don't know what to say..

Author:	maria_ [ Tue Jun 03, 2014 10:55 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: Don't freak out guys. There is a very simple solution: Start talking to her about sex with YOUR EX. Praise the ex about bjs, anal, going on top... or WHATEVER you want YOUR girl to compete with the ex. You can be creative and make up stuff too. She will soon start complaining and saying she doesn't want to talk about sex anymore... and she will also be jealous of the ex... and start competing in sex to prove that she is better. Most possibly she doesn't know that she is being an idiot. This will bring back her self awareness... Good luck! This is why relationships go to shit and end horribly: Mind games. Never turn a relationship into a game of jealousy. If your only weapon to combat something that annoys you is to get under the other persons skin or make them jealous then you're destined to fail and have very poor and unrewarding relationships. Mind games are what teenagers do and they never end well. It's a poor tactic that has no lasting appeal or long term solution to definitive problems. You should remove any such tactics from your repertoire if you seek to have a fruitful and mature relationship with anyone. Well if you want to be "natural" why are you in this forum anyway? It looks like you have a serious problem in understanding the difference between defending yourself against bad behaviour and building a relationship in wrong foundations.

Author:	The Mellow [ Tue Jun 03, 2014 11:36 pm ]
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You could also confront the issue directly by saying with a non-aggressive, but serious demeanor, "Do not compare me to your exes, I am better than that" or "I don't feel respected when you compare me to exes." That could work depending on how you communicate the message. Nobody wants to be compared to failures. My girl has only talked about an ex once in the very beginning when we met for about 15 seconds. Since then, no issue. She knew quickly I didn't want to hear about that shit and I made that clear. Try that method. Cheers,

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