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| Author: | The Mellow [ Sun May 25, 2014 8:31 am ] |
| Post subject: | Complex Situation. Shit Test or Legit? |
So I don't call my girl after I said I would, phone dies, no money bla bla bla. And she asks the next day after I don't get in touch with her again "Are you serious?" End up seeing her that night, weird feelings in the air kind of quiet. Then she shows me this text from this guy that says "are you guys serious?", "Is the sex wack?" and her first response is "hahahah" no and the conversation basically ends. That pisses me off so I tell her I want to meet this guy and she says yea he's a cool guy and I said yea introduce me to him with some anger in my voice. Then she sends this message which I don't understand. "I don't want all your attention no worries. I don't mind when youre going out with the boys and dont have the time to call me but a short text that everything is okay shouldn't be too much. I don't expect securities all the time, but litte things that happened or you did make up some insecurities about your feelings, that why im acting weird. I can't control that its a reflex. I don't want any wouldve couldve shoulves and if you wanted to, you wouldve. I don't want to be the one that always bitches about something man I hate that, but youre a closed book and that drives me nuts. Good night." All I got from this was we don't talk enough and she thinks I'm insecure? I don't know if I have the patience to deal with shit like this after 2 months or so of being together. Any advice? |
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| Author: | ConfidenceMatters [ Sun May 25, 2014 5:09 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Complex Situation. Shit Test or Legit? |
Give her a few days to calm down. Call her up, ask her to meet up. Then just tell her something really romantic: First start off with an arbitrary story about how she's helped you open up. Then lay this line on her: "I know I can be a closed book, I'm that way for a lot of reasons. I'm not trying to shut you out. It just takes time for me to open up. But I'm willing to open up. You're special and I mean that." and make sweet love to her. For inspiration watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=THtv5VM5LSY |
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| Author: | maria_ [ Sun May 25, 2014 5:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Complex Situation. Shit Test or Legit? |
Quote: So I don't call my girl after I said I would, phone dies, no money bla bla bla. And she asks the next day after I don't get in touch with her again "Are you serious?"
I am a bit confused from her text message... because I really don't know if you are one of those guys that don't give enough attention to the girl. If you are a distant guy... then all she was trying to do was to work things out...End up seeing her that night, weird feelings in the air kind of quiet. Then she shows me this text from this guy that says "are you guys serious?", "Is the sex wack?" and her first response is "hahahah" no and the conversation basically ends. That pisses me off so I tell her I want to meet this guy and she says yea he's a cool guy and I said yea introduce me to him with some anger in my voice. Then she sends this message which I don't understand. "I don't want all your attention no worries. I don't mind when youre going out with the boys and dont have the time to call me but a short text that everything is okay shouldn't be too much. I don't expect securities all the time, but litte things that happened or you did make up some insecurities about your feelings, that why im acting weird. I can't control that its a reflex. I don't want any wouldve couldve shoulves and if you wanted to, you wouldve. I don't want to be the one that always bitches about something man I hate that, but youre a closed book and that drives me nuts. Good night." All I got from this was we don't talk enough and she thinks I'm insecure? I don't know if I have the patience to deal with shit like this after 2 months or so of being together. Any advice? IF though on the other hand you are not a distant guy ... then it is clearly a power game. You need to figure out what your attitude is before you assess the situation. |
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| Author: | The Mellow [ Mon May 26, 2014 12:56 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Complex Situation. Shit Test or Legit? |
ConfidenceMatters nailed it for a temporary fix. I talked to her and she said she "needs me to show a little more love." Man there are so many red flags with this chick though. She's hot, amateur model, a solid 9 (hate using numbers) in most people's book, but there is some serious manipulation going on that I'm not sure if I can put up with. She brought up an ex that just quit talking to her all the sudden and was afraid that's what was happening with me. So am I supposed to compared to her ex? Or brush this one off? I've been with this girl 2 months and she has mentioned needing more attention twice, once directly. She's VERY good with people, expert interpersonal skills I would say. She can start a conversation with anyone anywhere and is very talkative, while I'm calm and sometimes quiet because I just don't feel like talking. Maybe she's reading me wrong in these situations. I don't know. Maybe a personality mismatch or low emotional compatibility. I don't want to overthink this shit, but I'll see her Tuesday and am looking to tell her to chill out a bit. Thanks for the response you guys. Does anyone wants more info or would you all rather slam their penis in a car door than listen to this? Drama early, red flag. |
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| Author: | ConfidenceMatters [ Mon May 26, 2014 1:40 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Complex Situation. Shit Test or Legit? |
Well, in my experience dating a needy model, she probably has dad issues if she needs that much attention. I would keep slamming though, but definitely start dating other girls. The exbf thing is a shit test. Just shrug it off. She just wants you in her life. |
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