Hey everyone, I'm looking for advice on how to encourage her to invest more deeply in a LTR.
Long story short, I've been seeing this girl on and off for almost a year. We're at university and are both in our final few weeks of the course. We're both due to start jobs in August and will be living in different cities for at least 12 months (2 hours drive away).
When we're together it's awesome, but the prospect of a long distance relationship is something that scares her (a lot). (4/5 years ago her boyfriend of 6 years cheated on her after going long distance).
After breaking up (because this 'relationship phobia' was causing her a ton of anxiety on top of exams), we're in contact, flirting a lot and would have slept together yesterday if it wasn't for her being late for work and a lack of contraception! Lol.
I've worked out areas where I was being needy / too demanding in the past and have addressed those things - which has helped.
It took a lot to get her interested in the first place, as she'd promised herself she'd avoid relationships until her career was in hand. She's told me she feels far closer to me than any man in years, but I get the vibe it's still not on a level with her 'first love'.
I think I need to:
1) keep contact fun and sexual
2) try to build emotionally closeness and emphasis that we're attracted to each other on more than just a physical level
3) take small steps and get her to invest more gradually.
I'm concerned I might hit another brick wall on the investment front.
Anybody have any suggestions?
Thanks in advance,
Jango
