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| Author: | BlueFret [ Fri Apr 25, 2014 7:35 am ] |
| Post subject: | My first relationship since i started learning all of this. |
I decided to visit forums like this to help me with women. I started dating this girl, my first since diving into all this. I watched seminar videos, read up on some books. However all that was on how to approach, date and so forth. Nothing on how to keep a healthy relationship, keep her interested, etc. Any advise? |
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| Author: | prince_prince [ Sun Apr 27, 2014 5:15 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My first relationship since i started learning all of th |
Thats one downside of the game...it teaches you how to pick up women and get laid...but it doesnt really go into depth on how to maintain A healthy relationship. In my opinion only you can decide how to maintain A healthy relationship since only you and the girl will be the only ones in it.. |
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| Author: | Karas [ Mon Jun 23, 2014 1:24 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My first relationship since i started learning all of th |
Here' the deal my friend, I'm actually in a relationship with my first GF since learning the game also, and we have been together since 2012. I used to be in the same boat, when I was I first learning game I was actually afraid to have a GF because, most of the stuff I was learning was canned material, saying to myself what would I do when all the canned things run out and the real me would be exposed. And that right there was my problem I relied so much on the material that I failed to focus on the principal's. Such as, confidence in your self and your interest, accepting who you are as a man and the thing's you like and, keeping your independence. For instance, I'm a nerd at the age of 26 I, like pokemon, dragonballz, starwars, ect ect, And I said to myself that I would have a GF that either liked what I liked or excepted that I liked what I like.(my GF is the later) I achieved this by letting her know who and what kind of person I was (nerd) from the start. Now you don't do this in any old way, you do it with confidence, you do it with FLARE. I knew my GF for about a month before we got together. When we first meet I conveyed what kind of person I truly was to her so there was no surprises later on. As for a the relationship goes, I'm no expert but, from my experience it comes down to the investment of three things. 1 time 2 money 3 thought For instance, do things together go rock climbing, nice romantic dinners, swimming, travel together there are plenty of things to do in this world with her, you might have to read up on some thing's but it will be worth it because through this the two of you will build experience and trust with each other and it will keep things interesting. As for her in general, cater to her ask her about how her day is going, what's on her mind and (REALLY LISTEN AND CARE) also talk to her about what's going on in your life let her in on your world. As for her, consistently make her feel attractive (don't over do it) but, let her know you think she's the cherry to your sunday, And that you do not just need her but, want her as well. Shoot grave her ass from time to time (gently of course) but let her know that she's hot. As far as the bedroom goes, spice thing's up from time to time. Go to some sex stores together find out the kind of nasty stuff she likes and don't judge her if she's a freak. Dress her up in some thing's shit, play doctor I could go on and on but, what I'm trying to say is sex is not everything in a relationship but, it is important. Anyway sorry I went on a rant there. At the end off the day it all starts with you trusting and accepting yourself (with confidence) and her as well. PS: Not to advertise anything but this helped me a hell of a lot. youtube: simple pickup. |
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Mon Jun 23, 2014 3:24 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My first relationship since i started learning all of th |
It's an interesting dynamic... You learn all these techniques to pick up women ---- many of them by effectively ignoring them or treating them the exact opposite way you'd treat a girlfriend. Now you advance to a relationship - and you truly do have to forget a lot of this stuff. I'm in that boat right now. It's a tough adjustment sometimes and took me several months this time around (it's a pattern: pick up, get a girlfriend, forget all about pickup.... then dump her and re-pickup pickup)... You can't freeze out someone you care about or love (well, you could... it's just not constructive), or move onto another girl if she yells at you... You can't go texting the 20 random girls in your phone to fill a void and get your mind off the one you're with -- because you're with her. |
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| Author: | n2thevoid [ Mon Jun 23, 2014 6:18 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: My first relationship since i started learning all of th |
This is exactly why most pickup is garbage. There's no transition from pickup to relationships. Actually pickup most of it is fear based (exploiting another's insecurities) which is counter to having healthy relationships. That's why I dumped pickup long ago I just found use in some of the frames and the inner game stuff which is basically about becoming a better man. I strongly recommend Marshal Rosenbergs Non Violent Comminication. You can find the 3 hour workshops on youtube it's a life changer |
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