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| Author: | Themagicalone [ Mon Apr 14, 2014 4:03 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Could use some advice |
Usually I'm on here giving advice but I need someone to tell me like it really is. So I've been with my gf for 2 years, she's a HB6 not that bad looking but I've pulled way hotter girls. She has daddy issues (red flag) and is jealous of any girl I come into contact with (red flag). I live a couple of hours from my family and friends as I accepted a job almost a year ago somewhere else. My gf goes to college 2 hours away from me and comes up every weekend that I'm off. Here's the dilemma I've been asked to go out with my friends back home many times on my weekends off but I didn't because she'll throw a bitch fit. Well last weekend was some bs party thing at her college. I was having a hard time with my job and really needed her here for me last weekend. Well her response was just text her about it and she stayed at her college. Well she made that choice last Thursday and I haven't had any contact with her since then. She texted me a couple of times which I ignored and the last text said that she wouldn't text me until I text her again. The reason that this is such a issue is bc I've compromised for this chick many many times and when it comes to me needing her to do the same she didn't hesitate to look the other way. Personally what I think I should do is break it off with this chick as this isn't the first time a situation has occurred like this within the last 5 months. I'm interested what you guys would do in this situation, thanks for the suggestions. |
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| Author: | GamesSN [ Mon Apr 14, 2014 4:46 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Could use some advice |
OP, who is to blame here? Should you have given into her unreasonable demands in the first place by not going out with your friends? No. You should have just gone out and set her straight on the matter(She can't tell you who you can and can not hang out, not if they're good friends of yours). Personally, I think it's shitty she wouldn't be there for you but at the same time she had something coming up. Unless it was a genuine emergency and you actually needed her to be physically there then she hasn't really done much wrong. If you were just feeling a bit stressed and down from work then why does she or anyone else need to physically drive to you for hours on end just to make you feel better? That shouldn't be a requirement... You're going to have to grow a pair in regards to this. You said your main issue is you gave up going out with your friends because she would get jealous and have a bitch fit. Who allows that behaviour? You do. That's your main issue here. I would let it slide, not make such a massive deal about it(Unless there was grounds for actually needing her to be there for the weekend) and next time just head out with my friends whenever the hell I wanted. If she bitched about it i'd just tell her straight up she has no right to tell me not to hang out with my friends. |
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| Author: | Themagicalone [ Mon Apr 14, 2014 4:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Could use some advice |
Quote: OP, who is to blame here?
Exactly what I needed to hear thanks, I swear its hard to hold on to your dominate self in a long term relationship.
Should you have given into her unreasonable demands in the first place by not going out with your friends? No. You should have just gone out and set her straight on the matter(She can't tell you who you can and can not hang out, not if they're good friends of yours). Personally, I think it's shitty she wouldn't be there for you but at the same time she had something coming up. Unless it was a genuine emergency and you actually needed her to be physically there then she hasn't really done much wrong. If you were just feeling a bit stressed and down from work then why does she or anyone else need to physically drive to you for hours on end just to make you feel better? That shouldn't be a requirement... You're going to have to grow a pair in regards to this. You said your main issue is you gave up going out with your friends because she would get jealous and have a bitch fit. Who allows that behaviour? You do. That's your main issue here. I would let it slide, not make such a massive deal about it(Unless there was grounds for actually needing her to be there for the weekend) and next time just head out with my friends whenever the hell I wanted. If she bitched about it i'd just tell her straight up she has no right to tell me not to hang out with my friends. |
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| Author: | GamesSN [ Mon Apr 14, 2014 5:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Could use some advice |
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Exactly what I needed to hear thanks, I swear its hard to hold on to your dominate self in a long term relationship.
It can be testing but it's all down to your values and your view of what is okay and what is not.I was in a similar situation except my ex was always there for me no matter what and she never exactly asked me to ditch my friends or not go out, instead she made sure to book me in advance and spend pretty much every weekend with me alone. In my case she was vulnerable and I didn't want to put her down or make her feel left alone here(HB9 foreigner). That was my own doing but it wasn't exactly toxic, more caring of my own girlfriend. Still, I wish I thought of myself more and went out with my friends more often when I look back on it. Your situation is very much one of you being needy, at least right now. Where she's just insecure and doesn't trust you out with your friends(Keep an eye on that dude!). That's the nasty side of a relationship. It's not for the best of your intentions, it's for the best of hers. |
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| Author: | AFCToTheMax [ Tue Apr 15, 2014 9:55 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Could use some advice |
Quote: OP, who is to blame here?
I was going to say exactly this. But Games you put it nicely. I wouldn't blame her that she wasn't available when you needed her. Don't expect your girl to be an emotional tampon. Friends are better for that. And that's why you shouldn't neglect them for your girl. Now what you need to do is next time she throws a tantrum because you go and meet your friends you tell them to fuck right off. But breakup here is definitely not a solution. Just grow some balls.
Should you have given into her unreasonable demands in the first place by not going out with your friends? No. You should have just gone out and set her straight on the matter(She can't tell you who you can and can not hang out, not if they're good friends of yours). Personally, I think it's shitty she wouldn't be there for you but at the same time she had something coming up. Unless it was a genuine emergency and you actually needed her to be physically there then she hasn't really done much wrong. If you were just feeling a bit stressed and down from work then why does she or anyone else need to physically drive to you for hours on end just to make you feel better? That shouldn't be a requirement... You're going to have to grow a pair in regards to this. You said your main issue is you gave up going out with your friends because she would get jealous and have a bitch fit. Who allows that behaviour? You do. That's your main issue here. I would let it slide, not make such a massive deal about it(Unless there was grounds for actually needing her to be there for the weekend) and next time just head out with my friends whenever the hell I wanted. If she bitched about it i'd just tell her straight up she has no right to tell me not to hang out with my friends. |
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