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Author:  3way [ Sun Apr 13, 2014 10:19 am ]
Post subject:  My girl is not making time
My gf is really busy with her final exams, I accept this.

She is not making any time for us.

She could not even take the time to respond to a message on Saturday, despite making a commitment.

I am going to wait until she contacts me, and then arrange to meet up.

I will say this,

"You said you were going to spend the weekend at home and we would meet up on Saturday. You didn't take the time to write me a message saying you wouldn't be there. I am willing to fight for this but you have to make the effort. You continue to hold one indiscretion over my head, where as I have forgiven yours. If it stays like this, there will come a time when I will not be here to wait for you."

We have been together for two years. My one discretion was ignoring her for a week two months ago. Is this correct?
Author:  Vlads [ Sun Apr 13, 2014 11:01 am ]
Post subject:  Re: My girl is not making time
her level of interest towards you greatly decreased.
first, don't ever say what you planned to tell her, its bullshit.
you will just get her more distant, fighting for women it belongs to Hollywood.
at this point i don't think she care, she even can't message you back.
try to ignore her a bit + you need to get her jealous, she need to understand she might lose you, use some other girls get pictures with them, it has to look like you having fun with them.
also make you that she will see that you having fun with other girls.
doesn't matter what you really do, but she has to understand you can replace her any moment.
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Sun Apr 13, 2014 11:06 am ]
Post subject:  Re: My girl is not making time
Quote:
I will say this,

"You said you were going to spend the weekend at home and we would meet up on Saturday. You didn't take the time to write me a message saying you wouldn't be there. I am willing to fight for this but you have to make the effort. You continue to hold one indiscretion over my head, where as I have forgiven yours. If it stays like this, there will come a time when I will not be here to wait for you."
Dude, that's nagging. It isn't manly.

She has a final exam. What do you expect? Get busy. Sarge 100 other women.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sun Apr 13, 2014 5:44 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: My girl is not making time
Keep yourself busy so you don't sit around all day moping around about your girlfriend. Final exams are brutal so usually relationships take a break during that time. During my college years I remember that the girl usually finds time after most of their finals are done so don't be too down. It is usually a stressful time during college.
Author:  TheBlade101 [ Mon Apr 14, 2014 2:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: My girl is not making time
Hey bro, I've been through more or less exactly what u described and i'll try my best to answer. Have u ever considered that she is genuinely busy? because very rarely this may be the case however it seems she might have lost interest a little bit, i know that's not the answer u wanted sorry, there are some things you can do though.

First i want you to understand, in my opinion, the greatest rule of relationships: the one who cares less, controls the relationship. Think of cat string theory, girls get easily bored of things that are always too invested in them, u say you've been with her for 2 years? perhaps she's maybe got a bit complacent, see women want excitement and adventure they want a challenge, of course this usually applies to the courtship phase but i feel it should also apply to the relationship phase. Don't keep making plans or trying to make plans if she keeps flaking as this shows neediness which is the #1 attraction killer. Just let her do her thing and you do yours mate, go out sarging, see friends, play a sport, learn a new skill do something that makes u happy anything to keep your mind off of this situation. Trust me it'll help sort your head out and make things clear. Treat everything she says and does as a Test. Women test men. It's in their nature, they test us both consciously and subconscious. A test is when a women will say or do something to get a specific reaction from a man and then she can judge what kind of man he is. Also never let a temporary emtional state dictate outcomes, e.g sending hurt messages, moaning etc.. A man should be unresponive in the sense that he stands up to her and other people but never whines or moans about things she does becasue it may well be a test in which case.... u fail.

I've been in ur position and it really sucks and that was before i found the community. So my advise for u is: dont be needy, try to care a little less tere are billions of girls on this planet, she may well be testing you to see how you react and dont let a temporary emtional state dictate outcomes. Hope this helps you if you have any questions then message me. :)

P.s. I found this video really helpful (in fact all of the men's room videos are excellent) :
Frank kermit- the emotional needs of women and their tests: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ztcrC5wgUUQ
Author:  Themagicalone [ Mon Apr 14, 2014 4:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: My girl is not making time
Quote:
Hey bro, I've been through more or less exactly what u described and i'll try my best to answer. Have u ever considered that she is genuinely busy? because very rarely this may be the case however it seems she might have lost interest a little bit, i know that's not the answer u wanted sorry, there are some things you can do though.

First i want you to understand, in my opinion, the greatest rule of relationships: the one who cares less, controls the relationship. Think of cat string theory, girls get easily bored of things that are always too invested in them, u say you've been with her for 2 years? perhaps she's maybe got a bit complacent, see women want excitement and adventure they want a challenge, of course this usually applies to the courtship phase but i feel it should also apply to the relationship phase. Don't keep making plans or trying to make plans if she keeps flaking as this shows neediness which is the #1 attraction killer. Just let her do her thing and you do yours mate, go out sarging, see friends, play a sport, learn a new skill do something that makes u happy anything to keep your mind off of this situation. Trust me it'll help sort your head out and make things clear. Treat everything she says and does as a Test. Women test men. It's in their nature, they test us both consciously and subconscious. A test is when a women will say or do something to get a specific reaction from a man and then she can judge what kind of man he is. Also never let a temporary emtional state dictate outcomes, e.g sending hurt messages, moaning etc.. A man should be unresponive in the sense that he stands up to her and other people but never whines or moans about things she does becasue it may well be a test in which case.... u fail.

I've been in ur position and it really sucks and that was before i found the community. So my advise for u is: dont be needy, try to care a little less tere are billions of girls on this planet, she may well be testing you to see how you react and dont let a temporary emtional state dictate outcomes. Hope this helps you if you have any questions then message me. :)

P.s. I found this video really helpful (in fact all of the men's room videos are excellent) :
Frank kermit- the emotional needs of women and their tests: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ztcrC5wgUUQ
Good advice
Author:  GamesSN [ Mon Apr 14, 2014 4:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: My girl is not making time
Holy shit! How warped and self-centred are you?

You said it yourself: She's got final exams which are pretty much her future! You want to make shit more stressful for her because you didn't get a text? Wow.

GTFO, OP.
Author:  maria_ [ Thu Apr 24, 2014 10:24 am ]
Post subject:  Re: My girl is not making time
Quote:
My gf is really busy with her final exams, I accept this.

She is not making any time for us.

She could not even take the time to respond to a message on Saturday, despite making a commitment.

I am going to wait until she contacts me, and then arrange to meet up.

I will say this,

"You said you were going to spend the weekend at home and we would meet up on Saturday. You didn't take the time to write me a message saying you wouldn't be there. I am willing to fight for this but you have to make the effort. You continue to hold one indiscretion over my head, where as I have forgiven yours. If it stays like this, there will come a time when I will not be here to wait for you."

We have been together for two years. My one discretion was ignoring her for a week two months ago. Is this correct?
Best thing you can do is do nothing about it.
She is busy with work. Be busy too with something else... Please don't go sarging other women. That's wrong. Only mirror her behaviour. It will get her interested without causing TOO MUCH drama.
You want her interested not pissed off. If she gets pissed off she will start arguments first, she will lose trust in you and then she will start cheating. Too much of anything is not good...
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