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| Author: | erix5son [ Sat Apr 12, 2014 1:37 pm ] |
| Post subject: | GF suggested taking a break, after a fight |
Hello, this forum often gives honest and reasonable advice, so I'm here asking for your help in certain situation wtih my GF. ME: I am quite arrogant and usually want things to go my way. Had one relationship before, otherwise some FBs. GF: Really nice girl. Good looking. I am her first BF. RELATIONSHIP: Me and my GF are in relationship for 9 months. Relationship is doing well, we see each other often (probably too often, ~4 days in a week), have reasonable sex life (approx. 2-3 times a week). We had few fights so far but nothing major. It usually starts with her complaining about something and with me withdrawing from situation. We are both very successful students, just getting accepted on the same abroad university to do MSc next year. We are currently discussing if we should move in together or not when we move there. SITUATION: We went for a walk in the evening, than went to my place. I was truely exhausted so I felt asleep as soon as we got home. We wake up in the morning and I open computer to play a videogame. She gets really mad, suggesting that we should go for a walk. I reject her. She says that in that case, I should take her to the bus station so she can go home, to which I agree. When we are at bus station she starts complaining about my behaviour and us never taking a walk, which she really enjoys doing. When she starts complaining she usually adds in 1-3 things from the past... which she did. Bla, bla, bla, we fight a bit. She than says that I should either change things or we should take a break. I tell her not to pull these sort of moves on me. She goes home and in an hour I get text: "We should take a break" to which I reply: "I totally agree with you". MY PLAN (?): I believe she is just making a power move on me. I'm going NC and after she contacts me, I'll reduce the time we see each other. I will also take a walk with her sometimes since I honestly don't mind doing it. (?) I need some outsider to comment on this situation and if my plan is ok. Thank you for your help. |
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| Author: | GamesSN [ Sat Apr 12, 2014 1:44 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: GF suggested taking a break, after a fight |
Yeah, she's making a move on you but you handled it wrong. You shouldn't have agreed. You should have told her how immature she was being and that you weren't going to be so immature as to stoop to her level and then go NC. You just brush it off, don't address it and let her have her little huff then punish her with NC so she comes crawling back apologising to you. Instead you agreed which pushed her away further making it harder for her to actually come back and apologise without losing a lot of face in the process. |
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| Author: | erix5son [ Sat Apr 12, 2014 1:50 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: GF suggested taking a break, after a fight |
I see. Agreeing was a strong move IMO - like saying I want a break from your immature actions. So what do I do now? |
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| Author: | jackhammer95 [ Sat Apr 12, 2014 5:41 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: GF suggested taking a break, after a fight |
Since you already agreed all you can do now is give her some time maybe a week if she don't contact you even once, give her a call or text to hangout and start things as new, if she touches the topic of past just ignore and change the topic. |
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