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| Author: | DMLOVE [ Fri Mar 28, 2014 10:40 am ] |
| Post subject: | I seem to be not able to have a healthy relationship |
Hey PUAs around the world, It's been 2 years since I've been introduced to the community, I'm from Morocco, the field is quiet hard, there are a lot of losers who make girls stands on piedastals, but in a way it makes it way easy for PUAs. Anyway, in these 2 years I had been approaching 5 girls a day, I NUM close lately all the girls I approach, I go out with those girls after, I've been intimate with many of them, had SEX, with many of them. In short, from appraoch to seduction I don't have problems, but over those hundreds of girls I've talked to, there have been some 4 girls that I liked to be with, but at some point it's like they grew bored or the attraction is turned off, I know I have to work on my inner game, but I can say that I'm quiet Fun, Good looking, I lead the people around me, I organize parties, I socialize. But it seems that there is something I do when I feel like Im in a relationship that turns them off. Cordially DMLOVE |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Mar 28, 2014 1:51 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I seem to be not able to have a healthy relationship |
It likely could be interpersonal perception, “perceiver effects” are tendencies of perceivers to see other people in a particular way. As you use "PUA" you could be forming an assumed personality to pick up these women, then once you become comfortable with them, you start dropping the persona. They no longer feel the need to chase you. You become needy and compliant. The shine quickly wears off from there. |
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| Author: | DMLOVE [ Fri Mar 28, 2014 1:56 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I seem to be not able to have a healthy relationship |
and what can I do the keep the persona, to adopt the PUA mindset all the time?? |
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| Author: | Spencers [ Fri Mar 28, 2014 2:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I seem to be not able to have a healthy relationship |
The same thing when you start to game them. If you put your guard down to early, you lose your charm. So just keep your PUA mentality up until further in the relationship. If you want a LTR with a girl and she only wants an LTR with your PUA-side, I doubt you'd want that. |
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| Author: | DMLOVE [ Fri Mar 28, 2014 2:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I seem to be not able to have a healthy relationship |
SO, in a way I have to not only adopt the PUA mindset, I have to be, to breath it, to live with it and sleep with it, if you have any suggestions of what I MIGHT Do or should read about, I would appreciate that !! |
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| Author: | Spencers [ Fri Mar 28, 2014 2:53 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I seem to be not able to have a healthy relationship |
The thing is, you don't want to be fake. I see some people "adopting" PUA to replace their own personality, this isn't what you should be doing. Keep what you like about yourself, don't change that, but just implement certain things you've learned from PUA into your personality. PUA should be something that complements you, not something that overrides you. As for books, I don't really do many of the readings, just little tips here and there that I incorporate into my every day life. |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Mar 28, 2014 3:11 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I seem to be not able to have a healthy relationship |
Start by keeping your neediness in check. Recognize when the symptoms start to reoccur. Signs of Neediness: 1. Buying gifts. 2. Romantic gestures. 3. Expressing your desire. 4. Doing “favors” without reciprocation. 5. Chasing. 6. Over calling/text messaging. (no more than 1 to 1) EVER! Yes, actually calling and texting someone every 3 minutes does make you needy. I'm not needy! It's just that every second that you aren't in my sight I assume that you have had six dicks in you already. Anything sound familiar? If you find yourself doing any of these things, YOU ARE BEING NEEDY! Calling a girl again and again, leaving her messages, sending flowers, telling her that they can’t sleep without seeing her. This is completely insane! But many after 'snagging' a woman, men still do this. Showing neediness only makes women like you less. So if a girl starts losing interest in you, behaving needy is not the solution. Women want a strong man who is confident and independent. Because being needy is emotionally draining and all consuming. Everyone needs alone time. For the same reason why guys don’t like girls that are too needy... why would you want to emotionally take care of a grown person who is completely capable of taking care of them? |
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| Author: | Wideface [ Sun Mar 30, 2014 5:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I seem to be not able to have a healthy relationship |
Quote: Start by keeping your neediness in check.
Dude 2, 4 and 6 that's me man, I keep doing that whenever I fall for a girl, I have been wondering where I'm going wrong! I have been pushing girls away after a few months of dating and I believe its the neediness.Recognize when the symptoms start to reoccur. Signs of Neediness: 1. Buying gifts. 2. Romantic gestures. 3. Expressing your desire. 4. Doing “favors” without reciprocation. 5. Chasing. 6. Over calling/text messaging. (no more than 1 to 1) EVER! thanks for the post! And to the OP you're not the only one man all i can say is that don't let becoming a PUA change your personality. there is personal development and then there is being someone you are not. Just don't change who you truly are. Good topic need more info on this subject. |
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