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If my girlfriend is stupid enough to cheat on me, she's just lost the best guy she could have ever had in her life. I won't be angry at her, I will just walk away and find a girl who is more clever. Moreover if I look affected to the slightest by another guy making moves on her, especially when she's not even reciprocating, that would come off as very weak, and only plays into the hands of the dude. Besides that, when my girl gives attention to other guys, I don't really care. I won't stop my girlfriend from talking to guys. I'm talking to lots of girls, relationships are supposed to be partnerships. She can do whatever the hell she wants, as long as she doesn't cross the line. When she does cross the line, it's simply over. Whether she cheated or not, if she crosses the line where I can't trust her anymore there is no point in dwelling on it, or telling her it's disrespectful, or whatever else. I set very clear borders from the very start of the relationship. They are more "liberal" than what is common, but they are very clear.

To give you examples on how these borders work with me:

She can have a sleepover with her guyfriends. I could care less. I know I fuck better than most of those dudes combined so she has no reason to cheat. If I later find out she indeed cheated then simply off she goes.
She can not however place any other guy's needs in front of mine. If that happens, someone better be dying or else she will lose my trust immediately.

She can talk to and meet with anyone(including exes), she can even let innocent flirts to happen as long as the vibe is fun and not sexual.
She can not talk to me disrespectfully/offensively, and I will call her out if she does it to one of my friends or family members too.

etc. etc.

Here's a tip:
If you don't set clear boundaries then you can not be offended when your girl crosses them.
And also, if you allow her to cross a single one of your clearly defined rules, then she will break all of them one by one.

Author:	CESARE [ Thu Mar 20, 2014 10:16 am ]
Post subject:	How to behave when a guy wants your gf
Ok guys, what strategies can we use (apart AMOGing) to avoid that our gf ends up kissing (or more) another guy? I'm now with this HB9 and there is no night where guys don't come at her. She has been really loyal to me for all this time and always said "I have a bf and I'm not interested in you", but the thing is that all of these guys were AFCs and it wasn't hard to be more interesting than them. What can I do when someone more experienced in the game shows up?

Author:	CharlesFinley [ Thu Mar 20, 2014 2:07 pm ]
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You can't do anything. If you look concerned or bitch about it, it works against you. You say she's loyal and you trust her - so what's the problem? It's not an issue until it's an issue... And if she's being a good girl like you say she is, it'll never be an issue. Confidence.

Author:	CESARE [ Thu Mar 20, 2014 6:47 pm ]
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There is no problem for me. I just want to know what to do in case it happens to me (or a friend) with my gf (or every girl). I think this is a serious problem. On this forum people teach how to get a girl that has a bf and I want to avoid that some of you guys (love u anyway guys!) tries to steal my girl, wheter she is my gf or not. I think we should teach how to attack, but also how to defend. Does this seems logic?

Author:	Dr. Jones [ Fri Mar 21, 2014 7:22 pm ]
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Shift your perspective. If you play the girlfriend game right, you should end up in relationships with women who are more desirable than the last. It's just like cars. You don't go for a junker after owning a Lexus, do you? So naturally, your girlfriends should get more and more beautiful as you work your way through life. If your girlfriend cheats on you, she isn't doing you wrong. She is just sparing you waste of time, emotions, and money of staying with her and fast-tracking the arrival of the more beautiful girl meant to be with you. Shift your perspective.

Author:	Hunter_Foxe [ Fri Mar 21, 2014 9:32 pm ]
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Dr. Jones knows what's up. Women are replaceable. Enjoy relationships like flowers; they are beautiful while they blossom and bloom, but don't cling onto them when they turn ugly and die. If my girlfriend is giving another guy attention, I leave her to it. The majority of guys will shoot themselves in the foot or run out of shit to say. Sometimes I go to the bar or dance somewhere else and she begins to worry where I am and comes looking for me. Sure, I can hear some of you guys thinking "Shit, you leave her alone?? What if the dude knows The Cube and starts triangulating with his eyes and shit?". I don't care. If I witness her doing shit, I will deal with it then. The more women you fuck, the less controlling you will become. Give her space, soft next and she will chase you, even in a relationship. Dominating and controlling her will only push her towards other guys. Leave her talking to the dude and she will feel insecure without you there beside her. Fear of abandonment is a powerful emotion.

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Author:	CESARE [ Sat Mar 22, 2014 5:31 pm ]
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I get your point, but I still think there must exist a "killer line" or strategy so that you can counter attack. I don't want to risk that my girl ends up with someone else because i wasn't able to stop that... You really don't know anything for this?

Author:	Hunter_Foxe [ Sat Mar 22, 2014 5:56 pm ]
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No. There is no line you can say to the dude without making him look more powerful. Your best strategy is to say "hi" then ignore him completely if you are incapable of holding your frame. Your insecurity will lose you your girl, mark my words. Who gives a fuck what another guy is doing?

Author:	Dr. Jones [ Sat Mar 22, 2014 11:23 pm ]
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Quote: I get your point, but I still think there must exist a "killer line" or strategy so that you can counter attack. I don't want to risk that my girl ends up with someone else because i wasn't able to stop that... You really don't know anything for this? You don't get the point. What Hunter is saying, and which I concur with, is making her wonder why there is no "killer line". You're supposed to be putting her in her place and you're happier than ever. Why? You either get this or you don't. You can't "kinda" get it. The difference is between having the girl and not. Either way, you'll be fine.

Author:	schoolofromance [ Sun Mar 23, 2014 4:31 am ]
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I enjoy using analogies to paint a better picture. Imagine you are Christiano Ronaldo or Donald Trump or some high value guy who dates only very beautiful women. These beautiful women gets approached non-stop. Donald Trump would be so used to it he doesn't give a garbage, because he knows within him that he is the prize. Would a random guy, or even a guy with decent game affect his frame? No. He is way too high value to give a garbage about all these trivialities in life.

Author:	CESARE [ Sun Mar 23, 2014 7:57 pm ]
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Ok guys, I get it. It makes sense to me now. Thank you!

Author:	Apples185 [ Tue Apr 22, 2014 3:29 pm ]
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Quote: If my girlfriend is giving another guy attention, I leave her to it. That is stupid. A real man would tell her that it is disrespectful and to stop it immediately.

Author:	In$tinct [ Tue Apr 22, 2014 5:22 pm ]
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If my girlfriend is stupid enough to cheat on me, she's just lost the best guy she could have ever had in her life. I won't be angry at her, I will just walk away and find a girl who is more clever. Moreover if I look affected to the slightest by another guy making moves on her, especially when she's not even reciprocating, that would come off as very weak, and only plays into the hands of the dude. Besides that, when my girl gives attention to other guys, I don't really care. I won't stop my girlfriend from talking to guys. I'm talking to lots of girls, relationships are supposed to be partnerships. She can do whatever the hell she wants, as long as she doesn't cross the line. When she does cross the line, it's simply over. Whether she cheated or not, if she crosses the line where I can't trust her anymore there is no point in dwelling on it, or telling her it's disrespectful, or whatever else. I set very clear borders from the very start of the relationship. They are more "liberal" than what is common, but they are very clear. To give you examples on how these borders work with me: She can have a sleepover with her guyfriends. I could care less. I know I fuck better than most of those dudes combined so she has no reason to cheat. If I later find out she indeed cheated then simply off she goes. She can not however place any other guy's needs in front of mine. If that happens, someone better be dying or else she will lose my trust immediately. She can talk to and meet with anyone(including exes), she can even let innocent flirts to happen as long as the vibe is fun and not sexual. She can not talk to me disrespectfully/offensively, and I will call her out if she does it to one of my friends or family members too. etc. etc. Here's a tip: If you don't set clear boundaries then you can not be offended when your girl crosses them. And also, if you allow her to cross a single one of your clearly defined rules, then she will break all of them one by one.

Author:	Hunter_Foxe [ Tue Apr 22, 2014 5:30 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: If my girlfriend is giving another guy attention, I leave her to it. That is stupid. A real man would tell her that it is disrespectful and to stop it immediately. I've been there, done that, 10 years ago bro. It doesn't work. If your girl feels trapped and unable to talk to other guys, she will either leave you or cheat on you. Sure, if she's grinding up against another guy or kissing him, then that is disrespectful, but I'm talking about showing another guy attention, that's different. One time my girlfriend was really openly flirting with a guy, so I told him to take her home. Then I simply said "Have fun" to my girlfriend and left the bar. My phone blew up, she ran after me, begged me for forgiveness etc. Soft next is far more powerful than being heavy-handed / abusive.

Author:	Dexter's Lab [ Tue Apr 22, 2014 6:37 pm ]
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If she starts giving attention to some guy, tell her you'll be back in a bit and leave from there. If she really cares about you and is worthy to be your GF she will follow you or at least feel extremely bad and be worried wtf just happened - as Hunter fox said. And if you try to pull a line on her by saying something stupid like the "killer line" It will automatically give her the power in the relationship and she will test you from time to time and might even cheat on you because she knows you will be there for her no matter what (being a complete AFC)

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Author:	AFCToTheMax [ Wed Apr 23, 2014 9:31 am ]
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Quote: If my girlfriend is stupid enough to cheat on me, she's just lost the best guy she could have ever had in her life. I won't be angry at her, I will just walk away and find a girl who is more clever. Moreover if I look affected to the slightest by another guy making moves on her, especially when she's not even reciprocating, that would come off as very weak, and only plays into the hands of the dude. Besides that, when my girl gives attention to other guys, I don't really care. I won't stop my girlfriend from talking to guys. I'm talking to lots of girls, relationships are supposed to be partnerships. She can do whatever the hell she wants, as long as she doesn't cross the line. When she does cross the line, it's simply over. Whether she cheated or not, if she crosses the line where I can't trust her anymore there is no point in dwelling on it, or telling her it's disrespectful, or whatever else. I set very clear borders from the very start of the relationship. They are more "liberal" than what is common, but they are very clear. To give you examples on how these borders work with me: She can have a sleepover with her guyfriends. I could care less. I know I fuck better than most of those dudes combined so she has no reason to cheat. If I later find out she indeed cheated then simply off she goes. She can not however place any other guy's needs in front of mine. If that happens, someone better be dying or else she will lose my trust immediately. She can talk to and meet with anyone(including exes), she can even let innocent flirts to happen as long as the vibe is fun and not sexual. She can not talk to me disrespectfully/offensively, and I will call her out if she does it to one of my friends or family members too. etc. etc. Here's a tip: If you don't set clear boundaries then you can not be offended when your girl crosses them. And also, if you allow her to cross a single one of your clearly defined rules, then she will break all of them one by one. This. Also to the OP. What you wrote I'm assuming you go out together during the night to places like clubs where the scenario you mentioned WILL happen. What I recommend is not going together. Let her go with her friends alone.