So my girlfriend and I have been through a rough patch, but we recently just got through it a few days ago. Through the rough patch, she messaged her ex boyfriend from her hometown. He was her first love. She still has feelings for him or thinks about him from time to time. Apparently the boyfriend wants to get back with her but she is only trying to keep him as a friend or at least in her life (understandable with your first love). As of recent she has cut off all ties with him because it is straining her ego and she doesn't like how he isn't willing to be apart of her life somehow and she is tired of the rejection. She has told him that she has a boyfriend and she is willing to be friends. But guess he doesn't want that.



What should I make of this? I feel like I can trust her, she has been good to me so far. Of course, i can't get too comfortable, always improving myself and whatnot . Should I not give this a second thought? She has only recently told me she loved me after I told her I loved her.

~Assertive

Has she always been truthful with you? I'd monitor the situation closely, but as of right now I'd give her the benefit of the doubt.

Girls always look at past relationships with rose-tinted glasses (even abused women remember "the good times" with their abusers).

You could run Strawman if she brings him up a lot. Next time she mentions him, get her phone out and say "Hey I should give him a call now and tell him how much you keep talking about him". She'll get the message.

Keep her on her toes and don't take shit from her. Palm her off on her girlfriends when you're going through rough patches and you can hang with the boys to get space from her too, to clear your head.

At the moment it seems harmless. She just wants emotional support from an unthreatening needy wet blanket.