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Author:  Rough Operator [ Sun Feb 16, 2014 10:45 pm ]
Post subject:  Maintaining emotional connection whilst gf temporarily away
Been seeing this girl, she is now away traveling until June. We both agreed we want to see each other when she is back, and before anyone mentions it I am not particularly worried about her straying because:

A) She told me that she wouldn't, not through me asking either, it just came up. However, obviously four months is a long time to keep your word when you're a young hot girl.

B) She is working on farms around France with her best friend who is a virgin, so it's not a raucous party holiday.

C) I was her first time and I fuck her really good, we are very sexually compatible and I regularly make her orgasm.

D) I actively choose not to worry about it, because why worry over what you cannot control?

But basically, I have experienced an LDR once before and I got needy and it was just a negative experience, but it should be noted that was a doomed LDR with no plan to eliminate the distance for the foreseeable future. This girl is coming back in four months, which will fly by.

But we SPAM today and there were connection problems which didn't help, but also I was worried I was being boring. Any tips on being an exciting, positive force in her life? I know that when you're apart, you simply CANNOT afford to be negative when you do communicate and I have been non-needy so far but I don't want to kill the emotional connection.

She has reminders of me; a gemstone ring I bought her, one of my shirts she asked to bring and a hat my Mother knitted for her in case it's cold.

I don't want to be pushing for contact ALL the time, but I don't want to play it too cool if that makes sense.

Not experienced in this situation so any help would be appreciated, thank you.
Author:  Doom-bringer [ Tue Feb 25, 2014 1:12 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Maintaining emotional connection whilst gf temporarily a
If there is one thing I am good at doing, its talking :P. I am a bit of an intense kind of guy, so that helps a lot too. Anyways, here is my advice. When you are skyping with her, dont focus too much on saying things she might find interesting. Rather, start talking about things you are interested in, something you are passionate about, something that happened with you which you find to be super fun/interesting/hilarious. Just say whatever comes to your mind. And by doing so, you will elevate your own state, and just let go and loosen up while talking with her, and hopefully she will latch on to that, and get excited, loosen up, and say whatever comes to her mind. So basically you lead her by leading yourself first. I have to say though, I havent tried doing this a lot on SPAM, but it works pretty well in person.

Sorry for the late reply, but you give great advice to everyone on in this forum, its only fair if we try to help you as well. Good luck mate!
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