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| Author: | Keep_Living [ Wed Jan 01, 2014 4:37 pm ] |
| Post subject: | How to break up?!?!? |
I haven't been on here in a while but i used to give some damn good advice on here so now i need your help. Guy's I have tried relentlessly to break it off with my girlfriend and she just absolutely refuses to take no for an answer. First off let me give you a little bit of background. I first read the book "The Game" back in college which interested me. I went on to read numerous other books, I did the black ops seminar through the Tao of Badass, which i highly recommend by the way. Needless to say my game got pretty darn good. I met a really cute brunette who appears to be the total package, she is ridiculously smart, very sweet and caring and pretty attractive. This all happened a year and a half ago. I stopped reading on the game, forums, going out gaming etc.. Well now my girlfriend has become a stage 10 clinger as i have lost interest in the past few months. I have told her numerous times that i don't want to be in a relationship with her. That I'm ready to pursue other things in my life. That i want to break contact etc... Guys when i try to break it off with here she wages world war 3 on my ass. I mean calling me every hour throughout the night, if i don't answer my phone she drives over to my house and screams at me for ignoring her calls. She cries to the point that she start shaking and practically passes out. She will get mad storm out and say "ok thats what you want then fine" and i feel like FINALLY its over and then... she starts calling again...i dont answer she comes up to my work or my house crying and screaming and carrying on. She's even drove two hours from where she goes to pharmacy school and waited in the parking lot for me to get out of my math class that I'm doing because i had managed to break contact for three weeks. She just refuses to give up and she will finally wear me down by harassing me so much that i give in and spend time with her because i can't take it any longer. I want to make a clean break and cut communication. She keeps saying we need to tapper off and still stay in contact because its easier to wean herself off she says. Before we know it I'm sliding back into to old ruts and I'm back at square one plus I'm the asshole who was nice to her when she stopped by my house and I'm a jerk for leading her on according to her. I have told her "i want to go my own way, I want space, Im not interested, Im no longer attracted to her, I care for her but I'm not happy and i need a break, Ive told her how creepy she can be, how she breaks me down but i still have no interest in dating her, She absolutely totally refuses to take no for an answer. Her family has told her to give me space. She then tells her family that she going to see "Johnathon" and the secretly goes to my house. We only live three blocks away from each other so its really easy for her drop bye. She'll say i just want o give you your christmas gift then ill leave you alone, ill tell her that i don't want it because it makes me feel obligated to be polite and appreciative, she will start crying. Ill say FINE I'll open your damn gift. Then i feel bad for being an ass because she bought me something really nice which is human nature. She says really scary things. My phone will go dead and i won't have a charger and so my phone will go off for most of the day. She will say " I thought you had blocked my calls but then i googled it and turns out it will still ring if its blocked and yours wouldn't ring so then i knew you hadn't blocked me." She will tell me how her parents had to come up and spend a few days with her because she was on the verge of a mental breakdown, which makes me feel terrible because i really like her parents and i look like the asshole who is causing all this pain to there daughters life. I have hit my breaking point...Ive been mean as hell and she will start balling and crying, telling me that I'm evil and that I'm fucked up in the head. That we have a good thing and i just can't see it. My arms are up in the air at this point. I care for this girl a lot she's a great person, she always helped me out around the house with laundry etc... but now i just feel so damn trapped in i can't even see strait. Its made me depressed because i fell like I'm wrecking someone else's life, that I'm creating devastation in someone else's life, that i make her hurt so bad yet she won't walk away. Ive hit the wall guys please help me i really need some good advice!! Thanks in advance PS i think she has OCD which would explain her need for perfection in school and her refusal to give up on anything she's passionate about. |
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| Author: | neo87 [ Wed Jan 01, 2014 5:40 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to break up?!?!? |
Sorry to say but you gotta be harsh IMO. Block calls, and take a trip if you can. Stay by your parents or a friend for a couple of days. |
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| Author: | MadeInQc [ Fri Jan 03, 2014 7:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to break up?!?!? |
Call the cops the next time she shows up at your doorstep , she can't control your life like that , she's a stalker and there is nothing we or you can do other then to take drastic measures .. warn her once if you want but you might end up with a knife in the back or something , never know with crazy people .. i'd call the cops and spend a few night at one of my friend's house , and close my phone . |
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| Author: | Sly_Wolf [ Fri Jan 03, 2014 10:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to break up?!?!? |
Try nlp. If you can change her values. Convince her that she can be independent and happy by herself. Get her to meditate to clear her mind. People who find balance do not obsess anymore. Maybe theres some self help books she can read. |
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| Author: | GamesSN [ Fri Jan 03, 2014 11:01 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to break up?!?!? |
It's not your problem bro unless you were the one that made her the way she is(Totally dependant on you) in which case shame on you, that's the bad kind of manipulation and conditioning right there. If she's always kinda been like that and you did nothing to draw her so deep into you then it ain't your problem. Just be harsh, call her out on all the crazy shit she's doing and tell her you're just not happy and don't see why you should be harassed into staying in a relationship with her. I had this before myself... Twice actually before pick up. One girl wouldn't let me break up with her and would come down to visit me and she would threaten me by saying she knew people in the police and would get them to "visit" me if I didn't see her. She was a nut job! How I ended up breaking up with her? I didn't... I moved out of the country for a few months(No fucking lie! Told her some shit about being on holiday). Came back, didn't talk to her in all that time and she had thankfully moved on. Other chick would cry and cry, was totally dependant on me and always craved my attention. I lost interest pretty fast to the point of not wanting to fuck her any more. Eventually I wittled down the time I spent with her and gave out that I had too much time with her, she backed down, I stopped fucking her and about a month later it ended. Ended badly but it ended. Ween her off. Be harsh, be truthful and let her know EXACTLY what she's doing. |
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| Author: | Slick_uk [ Sat Jan 04, 2014 12:57 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to break up?!?!? |
It isn't for you to do anything. This is where her friends should take over. Contact one of her good friends and have them deal with it. They're probably more in touch with things than her family and they will be able to help her better. |
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| Author: | CopernicanShift [ Sat Jan 04, 2014 2:12 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to break up?!?!? |
this is totally stalkerish she needs a therapist not a boyfriend |
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| Author: | Xoved [ Sat Jan 04, 2014 11:51 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to break up?!?!? |
Do it the mature way. You have to meet up with her parents and tell them with all honesty what your intentions are. Be honest and sincere and they'll back her off. |
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