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Author:  Valdemar1 [ Sat Dec 28, 2013 6:56 pm ]
Post subject:  When to break-up and when not to
HI, I am not sure what the right thing to do here is...

Me and my girlfriend broke up, i didn't feel like she was doing enough for our relationship, and we agreed that if we broke up and would get back together after 2 years or so, at this point we had been together for a year, and was totally in love. So it was a mutual decision.. Three days later, i wanted her back, and she told me it was too soon, i asked if i should move on and she told me to try and forget her.. 2-3 weeks later she writes me, she misses me and so on.. I gave up after a week of constant spamming from her side, and started to meet with her.

We more or less started to see each other, and she really wanted to get back together, but i told her i needed to think about, and we didn't take a decision, but kept seeing each other as if we were still dating (only thing missing was to make it official). But i was in doubt, i didn't know if i wanted to remain single or start dating again... After all i had missed being single, but i kinda know that if i remains single i will miss her after 3 months..

Last night i really didn't want to get to close to her, and she could feel something was wrong, so i told things wasn't working out, and we should stop and see each other again in the future a couple of years from now..

We both got really sad, but i had a feeling it was the right thing, we cried a lot really, and i felt so bad for hurting her, i felt like i was a big asshole, and hurting the one i love feels so bad...

Anyway, today i feel like it was the wrong decision, and i can't stop thinking that the single life will stop making sense in a couple of month...

any advice?
Author:  Stankwagon [ Sat Dec 28, 2013 11:48 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: When to break-up and when not to
If you have to ask the question " should I ....something" you usually should, your just to big of a pussy to do it! And i'm speaking from personal experience here...
Author:  Valdemar1 [ Sun Dec 29, 2013 12:28 am ]
Post subject:  Re: When to break-up and when not to
I get your point, the thing is, that right now it seems like logically it would be most wise to get together with her.. The only thing keeping me from doing it, is that i don't think i can be in a relationship for the rest of my life, since i am only 19 (so is she), and i don't want to be in a relationship that i dont see going ALL THE WAY, therefore i want to wait, 2-3 years, so it can get really good
Author:  Stankwagon [ Sun Dec 29, 2013 12:52 am ]
Post subject:  Re: When to break-up and when not to
Why waste your time with her when you could go out tonight( it is saturday night) and hit on perhaps 20 women right now? There are So many girls with SO many nice asses our there..why this girl? is it because its easier to just except her and be with her then it is to stick your neck out there and chat up some new girls?!
Author:  Valdemar1 [ Sun Dec 29, 2013 1:17 am ]
Post subject:  Re: When to break-up and when not to
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Why waste your time with her when you could go out tonight( it is saturday night) and hit on perhaps 20 women right now? There are So many girls with SO many nice asses our there..why this girl? is it because its easier to just except her and be with her then it is to stick your neck out there and chat up some new girls?!
Well, its more like i love her and would rather fuck her than any other girl i know right now.. and at first i would love to hit 20 hot girls asses, however, after 2 month of random sex, i think that i would really miss some deep relationship like the one i have SPAM...
Author:  Stankwagon [ Sun Dec 29, 2013 2:42 am ]
Post subject:  Re: When to break-up and when not to
then what the fuck are you doing here? this is a forum about getting girls.....not falling in love with one!
Author:  Valdemar1 [ Sun Dec 29, 2013 11:51 am ]
Post subject:  Re: When to break-up and when not to
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then what the fuck are you doing here? this is a forum about getting girls.....not falling in love with one!
This subforum is about relationship you retard? Leave this thread if you don't want to help out
Author:  Stankwagon [ Mon Dec 30, 2013 2:59 am ]
Post subject:  Re: When to break-up and when not to
I didn't insult you, you shouldn't insult me.
Author:  tipicall [ Tue Jan 07, 2014 8:11 am ]
Post subject:  Re: When to break-up and when not to
Bro let her go don't sacrifice a used puss for your happiness
And if your dad should hear about it he would be ashamed of you.
Just do it you know you must leave her right? So leave her
Author:  Anon191919 [ Wed Jan 08, 2014 3:00 am ]
Post subject:  Re: When to break-up and when not to
hahaha im also 19 and went through (still am going through) the exact same scenario. Exactly the same. If you guys do break up, your not going to get back together in two years most likely. You will probably both meet other people, 9 times out of 10 at least one of you will. You will probably meet someone who makes you feel better than your girlfriend does right now. Why is this? because you are young and your game is constantly improving because you obviously are good with women to get yourself in the predicament in the first place. In 2 years you will be much smarter with women, opening doors to even more fulfilling relationships because you will know how to beat the pussy up physically and mentally. Allow yourself to become a pussy jedi.

Just a warning, when girls go through break ups, as do guys, they fuck the first thing that gives them attention (maybe the second or third thing) a lot of the time because their ego is damaged and they want to know that they are attractive and desirable because they don't feel that way if their boyfriend is willing to let them go. So if you aren't "official" right now be ready/expecting her to sleep with somebody else. I was ignorant and thought that my girl would never do that. Ya I was pretty ****ing wrong about that. It will hurt like a mother when it does happen if it hits you blind and you don't see it coming. Just be ready for that, you might not feel like hitting on girls for a while, tricking yourself into thinking that she is the one for you and that's why you feel so shitty. That's not the case. Those are side effects of a damaged ego. So inflate that bitch, and meet some pretty women.

My 2 cents, like to hear yours as well because I'm in the same position.... Exactly the same....
Author:  Valdemar1 [ Wed Jan 08, 2014 8:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: When to break-up and when not to
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hahaha im also 19 and went through (still am going through) the exact same scenario. Exactly the same. If you guys do break up, your not going to get back together in two years most likely. You will probably both meet other people, 9 times out of 10 at least one of you will. You will probably meet someone who makes you feel better than your girlfriend does right now. Why is this? because you are young and your game is constantly improving because you obviously are good with women to get yourself in the predicament in the first place. In 2 years you will be much smarter with women, opening doors to even more fulfilling relationships because you will know how to beat the pussy up physically and mentally. Allow yourself to become a pussy jedi.

Just a warning, when girls go through break ups, as do guys, they fuck the first thing that gives them attention (maybe the second or third thing) a lot of the time because their ego is damaged and they want to know that they are attractive and desirable because they don't feel that way if their boyfriend is willing to let them go. So if you aren't "official" right now be ready/expecting her to sleep with somebody else. I was ignorant and thought that my girl would never do that. Ya I was pretty ****ing wrong about that. It will hurt like a mother when it does happen if it hits you blind and you don't see it coming. Just be ready for that, you might not feel like hitting on girls for a while, tricking yourself into thinking that she is the one for you and that's why you feel so shitty. That's not the case. Those are side effects of a damaged ego. So inflate that bitch, and meet some pretty women.

My 2 cents, like to hear yours as well because I'm in the same position.... Exactly the same....
Thanks for the words man.. I get your point.. and for some weeks ago i led her go, told it would not work out... I felt like shit afterwards and wanted her back, a week later i got her back, and now i have that feeling, that i love her, back. SPAM i am pretty happy, but i also know that if we start wanting different things, then the right thing is to leave it at that, and go apart, i just hope i will have the strength to do it..

When we broke up, i tried to deal with the thought that she would have sex with other men, it was really weird, and some how i felt it affected me as a person, what helped me was, to realize that no matter what she did, it wouldn't affect the person i am. and to realize that she had no power in my happiness anymore, that i would remain the same and i determined the person i am, no matter what, even if she had and orgy with 10 guys... of cause the idea of that would still hurt like fuck.. might sound weird..

Anyway, i know most girls would probably react to a break-up by sleeping with strangers to maintain the ego, but i am sure my girl wouldn't do it... maybe if i cheated on her, or really fucked her up, but not if i only broke up with her. You probably doubt me...

And yes we probably would move on the both of us, but i would have the feeling that it was unfinished business between us, and therefore always remember her.. Besides i can't seem to find problems about her, and i always have found that about my earlier relationships. The only problem is i am having a hard time finding out how to behave in a relationship :)
Author:  Anon191919 [ Thu Jan 09, 2014 3:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: When to break-up and when not to
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hahaha im also 19 and went through (still am going through) the exact same scenario. Exactly the same. If you guys do break up, your not going to get back together in two years most likely. You will probably both meet other people, 9 times out of 10 at least one of you will. You will probably meet someone who makes you feel better than your girlfriend does right now. Why is this? because you are young and your game is constantly improving because you obviously are good with women to get yourself in the predicament in the first place. In 2 years you will be much smarter with women, opening doors to even more fulfilling relationships because you will know how to beat the pussy up physically and mentally. Allow yourself to become a pussy jedi.

Just a warning, when girls go through break ups, as do guys, they fuck the first thing that gives them attention (maybe the second or third thing) a lot of the time because their ego is damaged and they want to know that they are attractive and desirable because they don't feel that way if their boyfriend is willing to let them go. So if you aren't "official" right now be ready/expecting her to sleep with somebody else. I was ignorant and thought that my girl would never do that. Ya I was pretty ****ing wrong about that. It will hurt like a mother when it does happen if it hits you blind and you don't see it coming. Just be ready for that, you might not feel like hitting on girls for a while, tricking yourself into thinking that she is the one for you and that's why you feel so shitty. That's not the case. Those are side effects of a damaged ego. So inflate that bitch, and meet some pretty women.

My 2 cents, like to hear yours as well because I'm in the same position.... Exactly the same....
Thanks for the words man.. I get your point.. and for some weeks ago i led her go, told it would not work out... I felt like shit afterwards and wanted her back, a week later i got her back, and now i have that feeling, that i love her, back. SPAM i am pretty happy, but i also know that if we start wanting different things, then the right thing is to leave it at that, and go apart, i just hope i will have the strength to do it..

When we broke up, i tried to deal with the thought that she would have sex with other men, it was really weird, and some how i felt it affected me as a person, what helped me was, to realize that no matter what she did, it wouldn't affect the person i am. and to realize that she had no power in my happiness anymore, that i would remain the same and i determined the person i am, no matter what, even if she had and orgy with 10 guys... of cause the idea of that would still hurt like fuck.. might sound weird..

Anyway, i know most girls would probably react to a break-up by sleeping with strangers to maintain the ego, but i am sure my girl wouldn't do it... maybe if i cheated on her, or really fucked her up, but not if i only broke up with her. You probably doubt me...

And yes we probably would move on the both of us, but i would have the feeling that it was unfinished business between us, and therefore always remember her.. Besides i can't seem to find problems about her, and i always have found that about my earlier relationships. The only problem is i am having a hard time finding out how to behave in a relationship :)
Yes you have a very good outlook on things. So did I, but when shit hits the fan all the confident shit that we spew today is gone tomorrow and we turn into heartbroken little pussy cats. Thats the way of the mind. I also thought that my girl would never do that. But then she did, and I was torn about it, it even caused me to have some anxiety attacks from all the stress and shit. She probably thought that you would never break up with her, but that happened too.

But where I'm trying to go with this is if there is anything I have learned from this situation it would be this.

If you don't judge what happens to you as good or bad, you realize that good and bad doesn't exist.
If you break up and she sucks off your 10 best friends you can see that as a bad thing, you lost your girl and your 10 closest friends, or you can see it as a good thing that you now weeded 11 shitty people out of your life.
Author:  Valdemar1 [ Thu Jan 09, 2014 9:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: When to break-up and when not to
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Yes you have a very good outlook on things. So did I, but when shit hits the fan all the confident shit that we spew today is gone tomorrow and we turn into heartbroken little pussy cats. Thats the way of the mind. I also thought that my girl would never do that. But then she did, and I was torn about it, it even caused me to have some anxiety attacks from all the stress and shit. She probably thought that you would never break up with her, but that happened too.

But where I'm trying to go with this is if there is anything I have learned from this situation it would be this.

If you don't judge what happens to you as good or bad, you realize that good and bad doesn't exist.
If you break up and she sucks off your 10 best friends you can see that as a bad thing, you lost your girl and your 10 closest friends, or you can see it as a good thing that you now weeded 11 shitty people out of your life..
haha i get your point.. should things turn out so bad, i would definitely try to view it as a positive thing, but though you might be right, i think that i would find it hard to view it as a good thing.. Mostly beacuse i would feel alone loosing so many of my friends... but as a general mindset, i really do approve to view things the best way possible, i believe it is the best way to view any given situation!

So in conclusion, i agree with you! :)
Author:  Sam0101 [ Thu Jan 09, 2014 11:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: When to break-up and when not to
You have to look at it this way. Do you two really love each other? Do you love her? If yes, then I say go for her, but if you're not sure, then I think it's obvious that you're just prolonging the inevitable full on breakup. If you can't decide, it's probably best to just stay apart.
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