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Well, contacting her continually definitely won't win her back, and No Contact might enable you to. So there's your option.

Go NC and assume she will not contact you. A month down the line you will feel much better, take it from me, I did it recently.

Either you get over her, or she comes back and you can decide if you want her, win-win in my book.

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Thanks for the reply, man. Yeah, I'm going NC for good now. She's out of town for the next week-and-a-half. I have a feeling she'll contact me when she gets back. I just have a difficult time trusting girls after breaks. I know how girls "go crazy" after breakups, and I couldn't imagine getting back with a girl who did something with another dude during a break. It would be hard for me to trust her if she said she didn't do anything.

And let me put this in perspective; no matter how much you miss her, it gets better.

Two weeks after the break up I stumbled across a photo of her and a friend with a guy and it tore me apart an made me cry, not ashamed to admit that because I had a lot of feelings for her.

I stayed strong, blocked her and all her friends from all social networks and a month later I was back to normal and genuinely baffled about how cut up I was.

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I know what you mean. I read this post once by an MPUA, which said if a girl shows too much interest in any "friend" of hers, regardless of how much she says he's "just a friend", there most likely are some kind of feelings. That's what happened with this girl. She texted this dude every day, a "family friend" of hers, and then went Black Friday shopping with him, his younger siblings, and her younger siblings as well. She "forgot" to tell me about it until two days later. That's why I kept cheating on her--because I felt that sooner or later she would. The thing is, she's only had one sexual partner before me, and she's only kissed eight guys so I may be wrong. But as you said, the decent ones can turn out to be rotten too.

I guess I'm not even tripping about her per se. She's a 7 at best, when she's all dressed up. But she was hypersexual, and I'll miss that. The biggest reason I'm tripping is because I'm in somewhat of a drought for the minute without her. I have other girls, but I'm not interested in any of them. And I don't have many friends at the moment so the only gaming I'll be able to do is solo.

Author:	valleyplaya [ Fri Dec 27, 2013 12:38 am ]
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Okay, so I was seeing this girl for the past five months, and she recently told me she didn't want to be with me anymore because she felt like we fought too much. For the first two months, I maintained a nonchalant persona, one in which I felt like I was in control. But about two months into the relationship, she took an all-girls trip to Vegas and did not invite me. Needless to say, I got pretty pissed about it, and when she came back I found myself with a load of trust issues. We started going through each other's phones. There were a few guys I had issues with her talking to, and there were a few girls she had issues with me talking to as well. (She had trust issues with me because she thought I was a player and that I was doing stuff behind her back, which I was. I hooked up with 19 different girls during the five months with her, but none of them meant anything like she did.) After about two months of checking each other's phones, she told me she no longer liked me as much and that she did not want to pursue a relationship with me. This really hurt. I tried talking to her to tell her that our fights weren't that bad or that frequent. And I sent a few texts after we stopped seeing each other in person. I know, really AFC. It's been five days since we've seen each other now. She replied to one of my texts yesterday, but I have not read it/replied. I know it's best to forget about her and start gaming other girls, but I still really miss her. And I don't have many friends so it's hard to go out and game other chicas. (Solo game feels awkward to me.) Do you think going NC will prompt her to contact me? Even if I don't want to take her back, it will boost my ego a lot if she begged me to get back with her. One final note: one of the reasons I had trust issues with her is because she cheated on her ex-boyfriend (who was her only relationship before me) of three years during a break. During the break from him, she took a trip to Vegas with her friends and ended up hooking up with a guy there, but did not go all the way. Not hard to imagine why I dislike her Vegas trips! Thanks for the advice, guys!

Author:	Rough Operator [ Fri Dec 27, 2013 1:14 am ]
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Well, contacting her continually definitely won't win her back, and No Contact might enable you to. So there's your option. Go NC and assume she will not contact you. A month down the line you will feel much better, take it from me, I did it recently. Either you get over her, or she comes back and you can decide if you want her, win-win in my book.

Author:	valleyplaya [ Fri Dec 27, 2013 1:20 am ]
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Quote: Well, contacting her continually definitely won't win her back, and No Contact might enable you to. So there's your option. Go NC and assume she will not contact you. A month down the line you will feel much better, take it from me, I did it recently. Either you get over her, or she comes back and you can decide if you want her, win-win in my book. Thanks for the reply, man. Yeah, I'm going NC for good now. She's out of town for the next week-and-a-half. I have a feeling she'll contact me when she gets back. I just have a difficult time trusting girls after breaks. I know how girls "go crazy" after breakups, and I couldn't imagine getting back with a girl who did something with another dude during a break. It would be hard for me to trust her if she said she didn't do anything.

Author:	Rough Operator [ Fri Dec 27, 2013 2:08 am ]
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Quote: Quote: Well, contacting her continually definitely won't win her back, and No Contact might enable you to. So there's your option. Go NC and assume she will not contact you. A month down the line you will feel much better, take it from me, I did it recently. Either you get over her, or she comes back and you can decide if you want her, win-win in my book. Thanks for the reply, man. Yeah, I'm going NC for good now. She's out of town for the next week-and-a-half. I have a feeling she'll contact me when she gets back. I just have a difficult time trusting girls after breaks. I know how girls "go crazy" after breakups, and I couldn't imagine getting back with a girl who did something with another dude during a break. It would be hard for me to trust her if she said she didn't do anything. To be brutally honest my friend, she probably did do something. I was with this girl, didn't sleep with her for two months, she seemed like real relationship material. I had a few trust issues about a guy friend of hers she hung out with from time to time. The sex eased off until ultimately she blew our arguments out of proportion and eventually ended it. This "LDR material" girl who seemed so innocent, cheated on me and is now with that guy I had a hunch about it.

Author:	Rough Operator [ Fri Dec 27, 2013 2:10 am ]
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And let me put this in perspective; no matter how much you miss her, it gets better. Two weeks after the break up I stumbled across a photo of her and a friend with a guy and it tore me apart an made me cry, not ashamed to admit that because I had a lot of feelings for her. I stayed strong, blocked her and all her friends from all social networks and a month later I was back to normal and genuinely baffled about how cut up I was.

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Author:	valleyplaya [ Fri Dec 27, 2013 2:24 am ]
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Quote: And let me put this in perspective; no matter how much you miss her, it gets better. Two weeks after the break up I stumbled across a photo of her and a friend with a guy and it tore me apart an made me cry, not ashamed to admit that because I had a lot of feelings for her. I stayed strong, blocked her and all her friends from all social networks and a month later I was back to normal and genuinely baffled about how cut up I was. I know what you mean. I read this post once by an MPUA, which said if a girl shows too much interest in any "friend" of hers, regardless of how much she says he's "just a friend", there most likely are some kind of feelings. That's what happened with this girl. She texted this dude every day, a "family friend" of hers, and then went Black Friday shopping with him, his younger siblings, and her younger siblings as well. She "forgot" to tell me about it until two days later. That's why I kept cheating on her--because I felt that sooner or later she would. The thing is, she's only had one sexual partner before me, and she's only kissed eight guys so I may be wrong. But as you said, the decent ones can turn out to be rotten too. I guess I'm not even tripping about her per se. She's a 7 at best, when she's all dressed up. But she was hypersexual, and I'll miss that. The biggest reason I'm tripping is because I'm in somewhat of a drought for the minute without her. I have other girls, but I'm not interested in any of them. And I don't have many friends at the moment so the only gaming I'll be able to do is solo.

Author:	Rough Operator [ Mon Dec 30, 2013 2:36 am ]
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Quote: Quote: And let me put this in perspective; no matter how much you miss her, it gets better. Two weeks after the break up I stumbled across a photo of her and a friend with a guy and it tore me apart an made me cry, not ashamed to admit that because I had a lot of feelings for her. I stayed strong, blocked her and all her friends from all social networks and a month later I was back to normal and genuinely baffled about how cut up I was. I know what you mean. I read this post once by an MPUA, which said if a girl shows too much interest in any "friend" of hers, regardless of how much she says he's "just a friend", there most likely are some kind of feelings. That's what happened with this girl. She texted this dude every day, a "family friend" of hers, and then went Black Friday shopping with him, his younger siblings, and her younger siblings as well. She "forgot" to tell me about it until two days later. That's why I kept cheating on her--because I felt that sooner or later she would. The thing is, she's only had one sexual partner before me, and she's only kissed eight guys so I may be wrong. But as you said, the decent ones can turn out to be rotten too. I guess I'm not even tripping about her per se. She's a 7 at best, when she's all dressed up. But she was hypersexual, and I'll miss that. The biggest reason I'm tripping is because I'm in somewhat of a drought for the minute without her. I have other girls, but I'm not interested in any of them. And I don't have many friends at the moment so the only gaming I'll be able to do is solo. Girls are painfully naive about their male friends at the best of times, it's one of the most frustrating aspects of women in my experience. Go out and date those girls, get interested in them and you'll feel better.

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