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| Author: | CharlosCarlies [ Thu Nov 28, 2013 7:03 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Always feeling stuck in the "in-between" phase... |
Was debating where to ask this, but figured you guys would give better feedback given you've all been through the process before. Besides cold approaching, this is easily my biggest sticking point which I've gathered comes from unresolved inner game issues (working on it). I'm usually pretty good at getting a girl attracted, closing quickly, and getting her fairly heavily invested in contacting me/wanting to hang out...but I always seem to get stuck as soon as things seem to be heading towards a relationship. (by that I mean she's shown the qualities I'm looking for, we're hanging out 2-3x a week, she's texting me everyday and mentioning things we should do in the future together, etc). I fall into a trap of wondering if I'm showing too much interest, which in turn might be making me show too little? All I know is that I'm definitely thinking too much which is rarely ever good for your game! Take this girl I'm talking to now: She texted me this morning: "Happy thanksgiving!" (she initiates first most of the time even if the topic is sorta mundane). I was at the gym so responded a bit later and she responds with "Lol that's awesome! well I hope you have a great day". I hate using such a specific example, but it sums up my insecurity at this point perfectly. I'm thinking: "Is she wanting me to keep a convo going w/o her sounding needy? Are we texting too much and she's trying to back off? Is she just being polite? Etc." Stupid I know, but any tips you guys can give for how to just chill out during this stage would be really helpful! |
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| Author: | CharlosCarlies [ Thu Nov 28, 2013 7:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Always feeling stuck in the "in-between" phase... |
Oh and I do have a nasty habit of cutting out other interested girls around this time, so I'm forcing myself to go out w/ a girl I sorta blew off last week. Good idea? |
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| Author: | Rough Operator [ Fri Nov 29, 2013 1:28 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Always feeling stuck in the "in-between" phase... |
Quote: Oh and I do have a nasty habit of cutting out other interested girls around this time, so I'm forcing myself to go out w/ a girl I sorta blew off last week. Good idea?
Until you've had the "we should be exclusive" talk, I recommend dating multiple women.
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| Author: | CharlosCarlies [ Fri Nov 29, 2013 3:00 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Always feeling stuck in the "in-between" phase... |
Funny how so often we know what we should do, but just don't do it! Thanks RO. |
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| Author: | RealMe [ Tue Dec 03, 2013 5:23 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Always feeling stuck in the "in-between" phase... |
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Stupid I know, but any tips you guys can give for how to just chill out during this stage would be really helpful!
I think 1 text a day is enough provided its good quality and that she sends more texts.During this stage, all should be heading towards sex ASAP. If you don't have sex after a month of knowing each other, in my mind you are doing something wrong. |
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| Author: | CharlosCarlies [ Tue Dec 03, 2013 3:41 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Always feeling stuck in the "in-between" phase... |
Cool, a text or two just seems natural based off our current dynamic. I'll usually be the one to end the convo (on a high if possible), and if she re-initiates, which she usually does, I'll just go with it. FWIW, we've had sex several times already. First couple of times were not my best effort, but fortunately I was more comfortable the last time and she definitely enjoyed the difference. Amazing how much more interested they become once you give them good (or even decent) sex! |
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