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Author:  Emdaet5 [ Fri Nov 01, 2013 6:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Soft nexting an HB 8.5 relationship 6 months
The title pretty much explains it all. Last night I felt shitty and told my girlfriend of six months and that I didn't want to hangout and simply wanted to stay home and rest. Literary an hour after I fell asleep she assumed that I was going to break up with her because I didn't answer her calls.

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Now I started soft nexting her just to see how she would react and so I could think clearly about everything thats going on. This girl has gotten extremely needy. If I don't answer her calls for a whole hour she thinks i'm breaking up with her, I gave her no reason at all that I was going to break up with her, I just didn't feel good.

Some back ground; We're both 17, I was the first one to ever give her an orgasm. Which could explain why she's acting like this. But recently every time we have sex she's been trying to get me to cum inside her, which i don't. And she hasn't been taking her b/c. And she tells me she wants me to get her pregnant.

I'm planning on going the whole 3 days to give myself some time to think and consider what I should do. Is there a chance if I tell this girl she's being to needy that she'll stop? I would love to keep her around if she wasn't so pressing.
I'm following the soft next explained by Wolfwoodd, so i'm gonna wait 3 days then text her acting like nothing happened to see how she reacts. And I plan on keep you guys posted on how it goes to get some insight.

Btw; I'm writing this on my lunch break so it was done in like 10 minutes, so please excuse if there is any mistakes in this post. Also I would love to hear if anyone has been in the situation before and what happened.
Author:  Stephen B. [ Fri Nov 01, 2013 7:02 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Soft nexting an HB 8.5 relationship 6 months
If you soft next this girl, I bet it will start even greater paranoia and she will try to dump you, or do something stupid.

Nevertheless, I'd give my right hand for a girlfriend like this. You practically own her in every possible way, you just have to reassure her to keep her from going insane, which is actually the fun and easy part.
Author:  neo87 [ Fri Nov 01, 2013 9:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Soft nexting an HB 8.5 relationship 6 months
Dump. She wants you to get her pregnant and eventually she will get that (even if she starts stealing your discarded condoms). If you want a kid at 17 or 18, continue
Author:  n2thevoid [ Sat Nov 02, 2013 8:56 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Soft nexting an HB 8.5 relationship 6 months
Why not have a talk to her about this, and the two of you need space to have a healthier relationship (always a good frame) rather than getting bad advice from the shmucks here?

Her attachment fear is activated, it's not funny you two need to talk if you want to have a relationship with her still.
Author:  Rough Operator [ Sat Nov 02, 2013 12:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Soft nexting an HB 8.5 relationship 6 months
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Why not have a talk to her about this, and the two of you need space to have a healthier relationship (always a good frame) rather than getting bad advice from the shmucks here?

Her attachment fear is activated, it's not funny you two need to talk if you want to have a relationship with her still.
There is nothing to be achieved by belittling the opinions of others on this forum. The whole point of this is to gain insight from different people with a wide range of experience, there is very rarely a black and white correct answer.
Author:  neo87 [ Sat Nov 02, 2013 3:26 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Soft nexting an HB 8.5 relationship 6 months
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Why not have a talk to her about this, and the two of you need space to have a healthier relationship (always a good frame) rather than getting bad advice from the shmucks here?

Her attachment fear is activated, it's not funny you two need to talk if you want to have a relationship with her still.
I stick by my advice. OP's gf is young, wants a kid by him and playing with her birth control to get one. Communication is fine, but everytime he sleeps with a chick like this he is risking her either manipulating him to cum inside her, lying about her bc or stealing his condoms to pregnate herself. Once you know a girl is trying to get pregnant by you, you walk away. You can risk getting cheated on and hurt in the future to make things work. But you don't risk getting a baby. Run dude or risk fucking up the next 18 years of your life to make things work.
Author:  Stephen B. [ Sat Nov 02, 2013 3:29 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Soft nexting an HB 8.5 relationship 6 months
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This statement tells us way more about yourself than you probably realized when writing it.

Yes, whatever.

I didn't see the context of the events in the story OP wrote. He said his GF got sick paranoid, and he would next her or stop talking to her for days. Thats not how its done. Worrying should be a girl/woman's business. If you can't reassure her, then you won't and shouldn't keep her. What do you do if girl is afraid to loose you? You either know its how female mind works if she falls hard for you, and use this situation, its basically in your control, you are being dominant, or you fuck with her mind and destroy her if you are sadist.

Its interesting that all over the place, guys whine if girl is aloof, too confident, separately outgoing, doesn't contact often, but on the other hand they whine if girls are clingy/needy/girly. Well, you won't get perfect equilibrium, *ever*.

Thats why this talk is pointless.
Author:  Emdaet5 [ Sat Nov 02, 2013 8:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Soft nexting an HB 8.5 relationship 6 months
Sense I said I would keep you guys posted, I told her I needed some space and some time think about what I really wanted. She accepted, and we agreed that we would take the weekend away from each other.
I actually agree on Neo on this one, from certain things I've read once a girl wants you to conceive there child subconsciously no matter what they'll want to get pregnant. So I'm going to take my space and then tell her exactly how I feel and letting her know my biggest problem is having a kid and seeing if that'll change anything. (while keeping tabs on her b/c she just leaves it lying around) If not I'll have to dump like neo said.

@Stephan I would agree with you on certain things, her thoughts are actually probably completely out of her control she's fell so hard for me. And my intention isn't to hurt her at all, and I've done my best not too. But i have to keep my future in perspective too.
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