You've already fucked this up Mr. Fantasy Land.

You posted this in relationships, and it should be moved, that's how mind fucked you are.

This dream girl is the girl you think you wanna spend the rest of your life with. shes super beautiful and sweet. when ever your around her you get butterflies and wanna hold her so close to you and just listen to her heart beat sync with yours. In your mind this girl you will grow to love almost instantly.

It just doesn't work that way.

Even if she won’t admit it, she likely knows that you see far too much potential in them and are not seeing her in reality.

You have hit your flush handle.

She IS NOT SPECIAL! There is a million more just like or better.

I doubt you will get much advice here as this post is against the subforum rules (i.e. "Posts about how to get a girlfriend will result in a ban."). You should repost this in general.

ps: sorry about that, I'm new here

Hey guys,

Here's the whole situation... There's this girl I met already a year ago at someguys house. Just came in to grab a slice of pizza, didn't really notice her at all, but she did notice me. To cut it short, she was interested but i didn't make a move of any sort at the time.

Just when i was about to, she got back with her ex. Which triggered somekind of obsession from me towards her. I don't know, i'm kind of fucked up guys...It's as if my interest in her peaked after she chose him over me?!

A year passed, but she was always somewhere in the back of my mind, even though I hadn't seen or spoke to her. And just recently, I learned she definitely broke up with her ex for good about 2 months ago. I thought this was my sign so I went ahead and began to speak to her again over Fb.

She was glad i did, she said! She told me she wanted to write to me several times but never did because of the way things ended. Anyways, we chatted over Fb and by text a couple of times, and had one date since then which went pretty well even though i didn't kiss her at the end.

I'd like your advices here guys, I'm clearly in a case of oneitis here... I'd really like this to work out between her and I, I mean she's great in every way and I feel like we connect. But I'm always the one who text first and ask about her...I know I'm the guy so its part of my job, but I'm afraid she'll feel like its not ''a challenge'' anymore so she loses interest or something like that...

What would you? and any idea for a second date? i live in a small town, so there's not much to do
thanks for the help guys