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Author:  cheezdoodles [ Wed Sep 11, 2013 1:27 pm ]
Post subject:  She is initating contact less and has to meet her ex

Hey again,



been together for 6months. been going great, but last week i turned a bit AFC. We where at a party together and I was VERY drunk. Told her i loved her (She said it back, but i said it first =/ ). Also asked her if I was the rebound? She im defo not.

Anyways, before me, in february, she broke off a LTR with a guy she had been seeing for 3 yrs. we dont really speak about past relationships, but she has mentioned that she THINKS he cheated on her. anyways she still has some of his stuff that he hasnt picked up, and i know he wanted to meet up and pick it up. (came up during same convo) Tthis has been stressing me out, because im afraid the old feelings will be rekindled.



Also ive noticed that before i usually got a txt every day with some kind of love proclamation, but now her initiation of contact has been going downhill. Which makes me insecure, and often end up saying hi...

how do i handle this? can i speak to her about it? i dont wanna be afc and all wierd, but its eating me up.

Author:  AFCToTheMax [ Wed Sep 11, 2013 2:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: She is initating contact less and has to meet her ex

Quote:
Hey again,



been together for 6months. been going great, but last week i turned a bit AFC. We where at a party together and I was VERY drunk. Told her i loved her (She said it back, but i said it first =/ ). Also asked her if I was the rebound? She im defo not.

Anyways, before me, in february, she broke off a LTR with a guy she had been seeing for 3 yrs. we dont really speak about past relationships, but she has mentioned that she THINKS he cheated on her. anyways she still has some of his stuff that he hasnt picked up, and i know he wanted to meet up and pick it up. (came up during same convo) Tthis has been stressing me out, because im afraid the old feelings will be rekindled.



Also ive noticed that before i usually got a txt every day with some kind of love proclamation, but now her initiation of contact has been going downhill. Which makes me insecure, and often end up saying hi...

how do i handle this? can i speak to her about it? i dont wanna be afc and all wierd, but its eating me up.
I suggest you make yourself busy now. Get busy with other stuff. Meet friends. Talk to them about this. You don't need advice from them, but talking about it helps.
Is it just the texting thing or is it something else ? Like less sex, refuses to have sex with you, meets you less etc. ?
Don't start initiating all the time. Because the reason you do it is that you want to get a certain reaction from her. And if you don't get that reaction, you will become even more insecure. And at some point you won't be able to hold it in you and then you will just tell her. And then it's over. Not immediately but she will loose attraction slowly and this will make you even more insecure. You can see where I'm going with this.
Solution: go out. meet girls. Flirt with them. You don't have to cheat but realize that she is not the only girl in the world.
Also I can tell you that you have self esteem problems and the only person that can sort that out is you. There are good articles all over the internet about this.

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