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| Author: | musclepua [ Thu Aug 29, 2013 2:24 pm ] |
| Post subject: | should my girlfriend's guy friend be texting her like this? |
So I'm not the type to try and look at my girlfriends messages or anything like that, but we were watching tv and cuddling last night and in my peripheral vision when my girlfriend checked a text, I saw a message that went like this: Guy friend: so did you hump anyone today? My girlfriend : not yet Guy friend: not even your boyfriend? And that's all I saw. Should I be worried that this dude is talking like that to her? |
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| Author: | AFCToTheMax [ Thu Aug 29, 2013 2:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: should my girlfriend's guy friend be texting her like th |
No you shouldn't be worried. The only time you should be worried is when she starts acting distant / cold etc. Not even than, but it's impossible not to get a little worried in that situation if you care about your girlfriend. If she acts normal then this guy probably doesn't mean anything to her. Btw you did check her phone. You can't read a message like this with your peripheral vision. You intentionally looked at her phone to see what is he chatting about. This was a mistake. I recommend you never ever do this. You can tell her to not text when you are watching tv etc. cos that bothers you though, if she does it excessively nothing wrong with that. |
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| Author: | TheFury [ Thu Aug 29, 2013 3:22 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: should my girlfriend's guy friend be texting her like th |
Depends. In general you kinda just have to ignore it even though it is annoying. However, sometimes you can act. I have done it before in an LTR when an ex was blatantly trying to get the girl back and she was receptive in terms of meeting him etc. After one or two times I told her that its bs and disrespectful to be meeting a guy who is blatantly trying to get you back while you are dating me and that you need to decide. She decided and didn't speak to him again while we were dating (which was years) or at least hid it well enough for me not to know/not to be bothered. |
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| Author: | GamesSN [ Thu Aug 29, 2013 3:25 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: should my girlfriend's guy friend be texting her like th |
Should you be worried about what exactly? The fact that he's talking the way he is to your girlfriend or the fact that he said "Did you hump anyone tonight? Not even your boyfriend?" as if to suggest she's fucking/would fuck other people? Honestly, it depends what kind of relationship you have. I wouldn't be cool with a guy texting my gf about sex or anything like that. I wouldn't seek it out and obsess over it but I would say something if it came to my attention there and then(Not brood on it and bring it up at a later period). When i'm in a relationship I just set the ground rules straight off. That's all really. I don't make it a point to go out of my way to see if she's doing the things I don't appreciate or not but I let it be known if something annoys me and give her the take it or leave it attitude. My philosophy at the end of the day is relationships are different to being single, completely different. Both of you have to meet in the middle. If she isn't willing to meet you halfway then just walk away, you will save yourself a lot of trouble in the future! For instance, if there's something that annoys you and she thinks it's fine you should feel comfortable enough saying that X or Y bothers you. You should be keeping in your mind that if someone is doing something and you don't like it then either that person has to change it or you need to break up with her and move on because if she isn't willing to change for a relationship and you're not going be happy with what she does then obviously you two just don't fit. Obviously the ground rules and the things you don't like have to be rational... if you're just paranoid and a controlling boyfriend then you're the problem, not her unless she gets off on pissing guys off and making them that way. |
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| Author: | vhou812 [ Fri Aug 30, 2013 5:00 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: should my girlfriend's guy friend be texting her like th |
I gotta agree, this is hard to see "accidentally." If you snooped, then play it cool and don't do it anymore. Just watch her behavior. If she's hot, she's gonna have guys who are trying to get in her pants. So long as you are fucking her good, and she's getting what she needs, the guy is just an orbitter. NOW, with that said.......the fact that WHAT he said suggests she is fucking other people, and apparently this guy is more in the know than you are....calls for more attention to detail. I'm not telling you to stalk her, but I would be a lot more cognizant of her body language, behavior, etc when I was around. I.E. Does she initiate sex, flirting, fucking with you? Or do you ALWAYS initiate, etc. |
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