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Author:  Rough Operator [ Sun Jul 28, 2013 2:05 am ]
Post subject:  On the verge of a high quality girlfriend
Been away from the forum for a while living my life, moving into a new apartment, giving up smoking and all sorts of things to improve my life. I've also met an HB 7.5/8 whom I would very much like to have as my long term girlfriend. She may not physically be a goddess, though she is very cute and pretty, but she seems kind, loyal, compassionate and I connect with her in a wonderful fashion and she makes me feel happy and good about myself in a way no other girl has done previously.

I've had a lot of failed relationships, so I'm not massively experienced with something that seems to have a solid foundation and could really go somewhere, and there are a couple of issues I am having, one is admittedly minor.

We've been seeing each other since the beginning of June, only slept together last tuesday, which is way longer than I am accustomed to waiting, but I always knew that this was for the long haul or nothing. Anyway, I want to go official, and I am 99% sure she does to.

She was texting me tonight and I teased her about getting a cab to mine and she said:

Her: If I was your gf it would be different
Me: Dropping hints huh? :P
Her: Don't worry :)
Me: ???
Her: I'd be yours
Me: I'd like that :)
Her: I would be yours if you ask me... Probably when I'm not tipsy but I'd be your gf maybe if you asked me
Me: I'll bare that in mind, not asking you over a text though, bit lame haha
Her: Exactly, you don't want to be a weirdo :D

So obviously it's looking promising... But my question is, how should I do it? Because she is shy and timid, never makes the first move etc.

I was always told it's best to wait for them to address the "what are we?" subject which she has, but then normally they say that they have to ask you, but clearly she wants me to be an old fashioned gentleman. I am quite a romantic soul, but what should I do? Should I do dinner and flowers, or just ask her when we're hanging around some time? I get the feeling she wants some romantic pomp and a little ceremony instead of me just casually asking her.
Author:  breezy86 [ Sun Jul 28, 2013 9:48 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: On the verge of a high quality girlfriend
Quote:
Her: I would be yours if you ask me... Probably when I'm not tipsy but I'd be your gf maybe if you asked me
This looks like a very subtle shit test!

DO NOT ASK HER- a very beta move....tell her "I want you to be my girlfriend now...aren't you lucky?" with a sly grin...My advice would also be to make her wait, since she has literally demanded it from you...tease her and flirt with her more as well....don't keep things serious

Well done though man...sounds like you found yourself a diamond in the rough...just don't fuck it up by allowing her to cloud your judgement and allowing yourself to become beta with her
Author:  Rough Operator [ Sun Jul 28, 2013 9:59 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: On the verge of a high quality girlfriend
Ah, that's an interesting angle, I didn't think of it like that in the excitement.

Maybe I'll throw her a curve ball and wait a couple of dates before I tell her I want her to be my gf.

I'm not particularly worried about becoming beta with her, she's in the good girl category. I do have inner game issues to work on, but in the past my insecurities and beta-ness have been triggered by behaviour I didn't like such as jealousy games and shit like that, I can't imagine this girl is like that but we'll see.

Perhaps the only insecurity I do feel at the moment is a suspicion at how well it seems to be progressing... My last few mini-relationships were so emotionally unhealthy.
Author:  breezy86 [ Sun Jul 28, 2013 10:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: On the verge of a high quality girlfriend
I hate using the term 'alpha' to be perfectly honest.

Just don't let your guard down..and maintain your manliness . Recognise when she is testing you (and she was here).

Just remember a true alpha is honest, unapologetic, selective and loving and doesn't need any girl to validate himself. He is the man of integrity and that sounds like you man

Respect and good luck!
Author:  neo87 [ Mon Jul 29, 2013 12:28 am ]
Post subject:  Re: On the verge of a high quality girlfriend
Quote:
Been away from the forum for a while living my life, moving into a new apartment, giving up smoking and all sorts of things to improve my life. I've also met an HB 7.5/8 whom I would very much like to have as my long term girlfriend. She may not physically be a goddess, though she is very cute and pretty, but she seems kind, loyal, compassionate and I connect with her in a wonderful fashion and she makes me feel happy and good about myself in a way no other girl has done previously.

I've had a lot of failed relationships, so I'm not massively experienced with something that seems to have a solid foundation and could really go somewhere, and there are a couple of issues I am having, one is admittedly minor.

We've been seeing each other since the beginning of June, only slept together last tuesday, which is way longer than I am accustomed to waiting, but I always knew that this was for the long haul or nothing. Anyway, I want to go official, and I am 99% sure she does to.

She was texting me tonight and I teased her about getting a cab to mine and she said:

Her: If I was your gf it would be different
Me: Dropping hints huh? :P
Her: Don't worry :)
Me: ???
Her: I'd be yours
Me: I'd like that :)
Her: I would be yours if you ask me... Probably when I'm not tipsy but I'd be your gf maybe if you asked me
Me: I'll bare that in mind, not asking you over a text though, bit lame haha
Her: Exactly, you don't want to be a weirdo :D

So obviously it's looking promising... But my question is, how should I do it? Because she is shy and timid, never makes the first move etc.

I was always told it's best to wait for them to address the "what are we?" subject which she has, but then normally they say that they have to ask you, but clearly she wants me to be an old fashioned gentleman. I am quite a romantic soul, but what should I do? Should I do dinner and flowers, or just ask her when we're hanging around some time? I get the feeling she wants some romantic pomp and a little ceremony instead of me just casually asking her.

Dude, just ask her. She wants to be your gf. You want to be her bf. Just be a man and claim her.
Only "interesting" point is that you sound like you have set her up already as the prize. You've waited for sex by her terms. She likes you because you've proven you can wait, although honestly sounds like she is the prize here. You can't half ass stuff. Either be an "alpha" or be "nice relationship guy." She likes you as the "nice relationship guy" so stick with it. Don't try to wait for sex and then act alpha.
Author:  Rough Operator [ Mon Jul 29, 2013 11:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: On the verge of a high quality girlfriend
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Been away from the forum for a while living my life, moving into a new apartment, giving up smoking and all sorts of things to improve my life. I've also met an HB 7.5/8 whom I would very much like to have as my long term girlfriend. She may not physically be a goddess, though she is very cute and pretty, but she seems kind, loyal, compassionate and I connect with her in a wonderful fashion and she makes me feel happy and good about myself in a way no other girl has done previously.

I've had a lot of failed relationships, so I'm not massively experienced with something that seems to have a solid foundation and could really go somewhere, and there are a couple of issues I am having, one is admittedly minor.

We've been seeing each other since the beginning of June, only slept together last tuesday, which is way longer than I am accustomed to waiting, but I always knew that this was for the long haul or nothing. Anyway, I want to go official, and I am 99% sure she does to.

She was texting me tonight and I teased her about getting a cab to mine and she said:

Her: If I was your gf it would be different
Me: Dropping hints huh? :P
Her: Don't worry :)
Me: ???
Her: I'd be yours
Me: I'd like that :)
Her: I would be yours if you ask me... Probably when I'm not tipsy but I'd be your gf maybe if you asked me
Me: I'll bare that in mind, not asking you over a text though, bit lame haha
Her: Exactly, you don't want to be a weirdo :D

So obviously it's looking promising... But my question is, how should I do it? Because she is shy and timid, never makes the first move etc.

I was always told it's best to wait for them to address the "what are we?" subject which she has, but then normally they say that they have to ask you, but clearly she wants me to be an old fashioned gentleman. I am quite a romantic soul, but what should I do? Should I do dinner and flowers, or just ask her when we're hanging around some time? I get the feeling she wants some romantic pomp and a little ceremony instead of me just casually asking her.

Dude, just ask her. She wants to be your gf. You want to be her bf. Just be a man and claim her.
Only "interesting" point is that you sound like you have set her up already as the prize. You've waited for sex by her terms. She likes you because you've proven you can wait, although honestly sounds like she is the prize here. You can't half ass stuff. Either be an "alpha" or be "nice relationship guy." She likes you as the "nice relationship guy" so stick with it. Don't try to wait for sex and then act alpha.
Yeah I hear you, but on the whole waiting for sex thing, I was always escalating. I fingered her the third time we met and I tried to heat things up every time I saw her with an available bed. She told me she was afraid of being messed around, and also she told me she was ill last year with a hormone imbalance and was fitted with a coil to correct this and was just nervous about how her body would react. After she told me this we had sex the next time I saw her.

At first I was like "Shit, she's got sexual hang ups" but the sex has been awesome so far, but she is very timid when it comes to initiating sex which could become annoying eventually, we'll see.

The biggest problem I have with relationships is "being the prize" I just don't think about it and just be myself, in some relationships I've had it's been fine and natural, but in others I've let inner game issues overwhelm me when tested.

I've just been honest with her and not really given a shit about the things I say and do, which seems to be working, but yeah, I am determined to work on my inner game and not let it spoil something else.
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