TL;DR warning: Just skip down to the last paragraph if you just want the bottom line
Hey guys. This is my first post here and though it isn't the introduction forum, I feel that I should probably preface this by confessing I have never been successful with women. I suffered from a lot of limiting beliefs, nice guy syndrome, confidence/inner game issues, etc. So I sort of resigned myself and approached life with an attitude of sexual mortification for the longest time; I'm practically the equivalent of an 18 year old on training wheels when it comes to romantic relationships. Well, that's probably a bit exaggerated, but I'm still learning the finer nuances of dealing with women's indirect bullshit. These past few months I've totally immersed myself in some of the works of prominent PUAs—This whole female psychology subject is like crack to me. What I have absorbed and applied has absolutely worked wonders and so I pretty much meditate on the Art of Attraction day and night.
Anyways the girl I'm with now is someone who I have been with for nearly a year. We both care deeply for one another and are very seriously involved. The problem is that it is extremely difficult to find the opportunity to have sex—She will usually find some bullshit excuse not to do it. Anything from "it's still light outside" to "I'm tired." I'm not sure if the "last minute resistance" term applies here given she is a serious long term girlfriend, but that's what it is in principle. I've been averaging twice a month and this shit has got to change.
Here are special circumstances that complicate things further:
1. She moved 2 hours away with her parents. She also has no car. This obviously limits how often we can see each other due to work/school scheduling and monetary restraints and by extension severely limits how often we can have sex. I generally make the drive twice a week. Period-week is an automatic disqualifier.
2. She lives with her parents. Her mom is ALWAYS home and her dad is usually there too. It ain't happening there.
3. She has a lot of sexual baggage; this makes the ice that much thinner.
4. When we do have sex it's usually in the car
My car has the convenience of front seats that go all the way down and the sex is actually pretty damn good usually though, the occasional beach night, etc. I don't like it either but what else can I do as it stands?? I'm not buying a room every single time. Naturally this gives her more LMR material to work with.5. Sometimes she'll even tease me. She'll even start feeling my cock through my pants, begin to give me head (won't finish,) or pull out her tits. When I try to escalate it to sex, she LMR me. Shit pisses me off so much, but I don't show it.
6. Check this one out. We broke up a couple months ago and when we got back together she said that the only time she could "feel" how much I loved her was when we had sex, that it was so intimate. That took me by surprise because I told her and showed her that I loved her so much in so many ways—and it was sincere. The last time we had sex, however, I was... a little kinkier. Although I commanded her to look into my eyes as she orgasmed (which she said she really liked) she said that she felt like she was "just a pussy to [me]" some times. I don't know if that was a test or what, but that's absolute bullshit and she should know it. She even confessed that when she thought about it logically that she knew it wasn't the case.
I value this relationship too much to just throw it away.
Because she usually resists my advances whether I bring it up directly (I don't do that anymore) or try to warm her up a little (she often pulls away, guards her body with her arms, and tells me to stop in a high pitched, girly, screaming tone. I'm not discerning enough yet to know if I should keep it up or really stop as her guard tightens when I do.) I don't know if it's a token anti-slut defense or what. I know for a FACT she wants it but she makes it so fucking hard to get it. I feel that as a man, it's my duty to lead in all things including when we have sex, but I don't want to be the asshole who pushes for it especially knowing about her past baggage. I would really appreciate any techniques, pointers, etc. for bypassing her shields and generally the best ways to approach sexual initiation.