PUA Forum :: Kinda friendzoned SPAM, need advice

Meet this girl a while ago and we had attraction and so we sleept together few times.. then she kinda said she wants to be more than friends but I wasn't rdy yet ( broke up with a long relationship few months back ) so I acted uninterested in pursuing that, so we kinda stoped what we were doing and didn't see each other for a month or so, then we started again but just as friends, she told me she wants to be friends.
During this time she keept contacting me quite often and we meet often aswell, but more like friends nothing more, i was acting a bit too available for her, no clue why... anyway fast forward to now, im starting to like her alot, so im thinking what can I do at this point, im kinda friendzoned SPAM, and she already mentioned somewhat that she isn't attracted to me like before, and only thinks of me as a friend ( one with whom she has comfort and trust, but not attraction ). So what would you people think are my best options SPAM?

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Become more distant for awhile. Stop doing the friendzone type behaviors with her. No emotional support to her problems etc. Then next time you want to hang out, suggest a location that will set off alot of stimuli in her, such as a concert or dance club. From there, run game on her like you would on any other girl you're wanting to pick up. But, since you already know her, your push pull, and teasing techniques can be tailored to what works best against her.

Any good advice or articles on how to create attraction/sexual tension? Thats one of the key things I need to really do in this case.

Author:	bbboy [ Sat Jul 06, 2013 9:06 pm ]
Post subject:	Kinda friendzoned SPAM, need advice
Meet this girl a while ago and we had attraction and so we sleept together few times.. then she kinda said she wants to be more than friends but I wasn't rdy yet ( broke up with a long relationship few months back ) so I acted uninterested in pursuing that, so we kinda stoped what we were doing and didn't see each other for a month or so, then we started again but just as friends, she told me she wants to be friends. During this time she keept contacting me quite often and we meet often aswell, but more like friends nothing more, i was acting a bit too available for her, no clue why... anyway fast forward to now, im starting to like her alot, so im thinking what can I do at this point, im kinda friendzoned SPAM, and she already mentioned somewhat that she isn't attracted to me like before, and only thinks of me as a friend ( one with whom she has comfort and trust, but not attraction ). So what would you people think are my best options SPAM?

Author:	P1nkstar [ Sat Jul 06, 2013 9:56 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Kinda friendzoned SPAM, need advice
What you can try is flirt or hook up with a girl, or make sure she sees that another girl likes you. If she's bothered by this, you can use that opening to talk about the fact that you actually want her... If she's not bothered you might actually be friendzoned...

Author:	Neutrino [ Sun Jul 07, 2013 10:11 am ]
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I'd advise not to rush it. So ur liking this chick now that you were just banging for the hell of it? Sounds like she doesn't want to invest her time in someone who dissed her like that. Just take it slow, invite her over to watch a game or do something fun....escalate the hell out of her my friend. Or just go out and do something interactive with her, be yourself and make her smile/laugh, and win her heart back. By the end of the day you spend together, you should definitely at least be back in comfort where you can have the physical contact, but not necessarily sex just yet, that depends on the girl and your overall relationship with her.

Author:	bbboy [ Sun Jul 07, 2013 10:14 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Kinda friendzoned SPAM, need advice
Any good advice or articles on how to create attraction/sexual tension? Thats one of the key things I need to really do in this case.

Author:	UmpteenDee [ Sun Jul 07, 2013 1:41 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Kinda friendzoned SPAM, need advice
Quote: Meet this girl a while ago and we had attraction and so we sleept together few times.. then she kinda said she wants to be more than friends but I wasn't rdy yet ( broke up with a long relationship few months back ) so I acted uninterested in pursuing that, so we kinda stoped what we were doing and didn't see each other for a month or so, then we started again but just as friends, she told me she wants to be friends. During this time she keept contacting me quite often and we meet often aswell, but more like friends nothing more, i was acting a bit too available for her, no clue why... anyway fast forward to now, im starting to like her alot, so im thinking what can I do at this point, im kinda friendzoned SPAM, and she already mentioned somewhat that she isn't attracted to me like before, and only thinks of me as a friend ( one with whom she has comfort and trust, but not attraction ). So what would you people think are my best options SPAM? Become more distant for awhile. Stop doing the friendzone type behaviors with her. No emotional support to her problems etc. Then next time you want to hang out, suggest a location that will set off alot of stimuli in her, such as a concert or dance club. From there, run game on her like you would on any other girl you're wanting to pick up. But, since you already know her, your push pull, and teasing techniques can be tailored to what works best against her.

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Author:	bbboy [ Sun Jul 07, 2013 4:36 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Kinda friendzoned SPAM, need advice
Quote: Quote: Meet this girl a while ago and we had attraction and so we sleept together few times.. then she kinda said she wants to be more than friends but I wasn't rdy yet ( broke up with a long relationship few months back ) so I acted uninterested in pursuing that, so we kinda stoped what we were doing and didn't see each other for a month or so, then we started again but just as friends, she told me she wants to be friends. During this time she keept contacting me quite often and we meet often aswell, but more like friends nothing more, i was acting a bit too available for her, no clue why... anyway fast forward to now, im starting to like her alot, so im thinking what can I do at this point, im kinda friendzoned SPAM, and she already mentioned somewhat that she isn't attracted to me like before, and only thinks of me as a friend ( one with whom she has comfort and trust, but not attraction ). So what would you people think are my best options SPAM? Become more distant for awhile. Stop doing the friendzone type behaviors with her. No emotional support to her problems etc. Then next time you want to hang out, suggest a location that will set off alot of stimuli in her, such as a concert or dance club. From there, run game on her like you would on any other girl you're wanting to pick up. But, since you already know her, your push pull, and teasing techniques can be tailored to what works best against her. and if she asks me why im distant, just say ive been busy?

Author:	Neutrino [ Sun Jul 07, 2013 7:53 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Kinda friendzoned SPAM, need advice
Quote: Any good advice or articles on how to create attraction/sexual tension? Thats one of the key things I need to really do in this case. You can't recreate what's already there. Like I said, you pretty much dissed this chick and its surprising she even still talks to you. When you go out, man up, say you've been super busy, you don't owe her any details. If she asks that's good. The more she's wondering about you the more questions she'll ask, more rapport, closer to a relationship now. See how that works. Don't be needy. But be sure at some point to put your arm around her, touch her in flirty places, depending how comfortable she is, maybe even treat her like a gf. It'll remind her why she may have been into you in the first place. Just don't douche it up too much unless you're just looking to bang.

Author:	vhou812 [ Mon Jul 08, 2013 5:45 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Kinda friendzoned SPAM, need advice
You are in the friend zone because that's what you've communicated you want to her. You don't have to say it, but by acting like it, you get the point across. When she asks you to do friend shit, on terms that you are just friends, and you say yes all the time, you are communicating to her that you want to be friends. Meet and sarge other women. If you are free when she asks you to do something, then do it. If you are not, then tell her you can't because you already have plans. By dating other women, you will display value to her, and she will find that attractive.

Author:	Dr. Jones [ Tue Jul 09, 2013 9:03 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Kinda friendzoned SPAM, need advice
If you agree to do platonic things with her, she'll accept that and string you along and do more platonic things until she forgets she was ever attracted to you in the first place. That's not her fault, since you're agreeing to her terms. So end it. If you want to have more with her, hold out for it. Be too busy to have these asexual meetups. Even if you genuinely have fun doing them, don't let good be the enemy of great. She's gotten addicted to your company and if you deprive her of it, she'll strategize how to get more of it again. She knows you changed your mind and wanted a relationship and will realize her options: do I reconsider a relationship or let him go? I'll tell you this: if you're worth a damn to her, she'll fight to keep you around. In whatever capacity is necessary. In the small chance of her not calling you anymore, well... you rationalized not being with her before. You'll live.

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