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| Author: | ganon [ Sun Jun 30, 2013 7:10 am ] |
| Post subject: | "I'm tired" |
TL;DR how to handle a girl who gives the "I'm tired" line, either in immediate response or on the next day/date. Just got this from the girlfriend, for the first time ever. (I've never gotten any excuses like this before, not even LMR the first time we banged, and gotten sex and/or blowjobs every time we've seen each other except the first date.) I just shrugged and hopped up to go to the computer, trying to seem casual and not butthurt (I was a little though and it may've showed, mostly just b/c "I'm tired" is so utterly cliche, and conventional wisdom says it's usually BS, so it's emasculating to finally hear it myself.) She said "we can have sex in the morning, you can go do whatever now." Didn't sound patronizing (but I felt patronized). FWIW the tiredness was genuine.How should I react, and handle this? Is it nothing and I should ignore it? Am I overreacting even by making this post? Should I plow ahead and caveman her (she'd give in f I did, I think; but I thought that would seem 'desperate')? Should I do a 'delayed freeze out' where I'm cool to her tomorrow and in the immediate future; act like my interest in her as dipped; make her initiate sex next time, etc? Or should I do her in the morning and act like nothing happened? My gut says the most Game-y, PUA-recommended, and alpha way would be to not act like it fazed me at all, and just do what I feel like going forward (have sex when I want to next)...but OTOH I'm worried about "losing face" / "letting ti stand" / allowing a new normal where it's OK for her to be resistant. I have the instinct to somehow 'punish' her for her bad behavior (likely in a way that does not seem deliberate, like being cool and a little distant to her in the near future.) Also, more generally, she will do whatever I want in bed and always has (plenty of swallowing, anal, BDSM, etc.) and she's passionate and orgasms during sex, but I would like to somehow get her to do more 'initiating' of it and act more sexual/passionate even when we're not going at it. I'd like to 'make her prove she wants it'. |
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| Author: | Pizza Man [ Sun Jun 30, 2013 7:31 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: "I'm tired" |
My GF pulled a similar line recently, only way more hostile. It was "why can't you just lay here with me." I obviously got offended because she was putting the blame on me. I calmly told her that I am a man, have urges, think she is sexy and want to have sex with her, etc. I told her to be up front and not try to deflect the blame to me, which she did, instead I told her to tell me she is too tired, or isn't in the mood. I'm a man, but a reasonable one, if my girl is too tired or not in the mood I can handle it. I called her my "cuddle buddy" for like an hour, then we had sex but, I wasn't expecting it. I'd rather just her be up front with me. Possibly just me but, if my girl tells me she isn't in the mood or is too tired I can respect that. |
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| Author: | Monsignor Crisanto [ Sun Jun 30, 2013 7:34 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: "I'm tired" |
You're over thinking this. Let her sleep. If it's not a shit test, she'll be stroking your cock in an hour or two after some rest. If she didn't initiate any action it's simply girlie speake that means, "You're a lousy fuck." It's a subtle hint that you should work on improving your bedroom skills. 
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