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| Author: | Ethan Hunt [ Thu Jun 20, 2013 12:44 am ] |
| Post subject: | What Buying A Car Taught Me About Relationships |
I just passed on a great deal to buy a Mercedes CLK that I have dreamed of having for almost a year now. It was a beautiful car, navy blue with light grey interior. It was sporty but in a more mature and elegant way that is just my style. It was also fast, so it would have been a lot of fun and the mechanics told me it was definitely a good buy. Why did I pass all this up when I could have just had it? Allow me to explain. I told the guy I would take the car about a week ago. You would think it would have been a done deal at this point. I would find a buyer for my car, get a loan and wah-lah. But of course it wasn't that simple. This guy was a complete idiot I was buying it from. He would drag me to this bank to sign a bill of sale, then that bank to transfer this or insure that, all while I was taking time off work and spending my gas (which is almost $4 a gallon) to get this done. Four times we met and I expected to walk away with the car but didn't because of some stupid bullshit this guy was making me do. Then today finally we went to the bank. I had the deposit ready to go. I signed all the paperwork, I was just about to walk away with a beautiful Mercedes...except the guy DIDN'T HAVE THE FUCKING TITLE! He said it was coming in the mail on Monday! At this point I thought I should back out, but after all I have put so much effort into this thing, and I'm so close. All I need is the title and it's done... However after I got home I realized how fishy this was. This guy didn't even have permission to sell the car in the first place, because the title was still in his aunt's name. That's breaking the first rule of business: only sell what's yours. I had to cut the deal off. So I texted him and told him it was off, he begged and pleaded and fought me, calling me names and the works. But instead of feeling depressed and hopeless like I had thought, I felt...somehow liberated. In fact, I felt the exact same way I did when I would break up with a bad girlfriend. I thought this car was perfect for me but in fact, it was a 2005, and the Mercedes' had all their electrical issues resolved in 2006, resulting in less trips to the shop. It was also dark navy blue with light grey interior, and I had originally wanted black with beige interior. It also had 107,000 miles on it and I had sworn to myself I wouldn't buy anything with over 100,000 miles on it. Plus, you know that feeling you get when you know that's the car you want and you are instantly in love with it? Yeah, I just never felt that. I had settled for this because I thought it was as good as I was going to find. Because cars like these are too rare, and I'd better take it before it got away. I had settled because it was right there-it was attainable-not because it was the right car for me. I hope you see where I'm going with this by now. This is why guys get into bad relationships with women they don't really connect with. Sure, she might be beautiful, sure you might consider her "rare" and "out of your league" (I always thought Mercedes' were totally out of my league, but hey, I got the loan approved.) And you might feel like if you dump her you will never find another one as good as her, but you're dead wrong. I will find the exact car that I want and I'm perfectly content to wait and save my money until I find it and I can make a smarter purchase, not an emotional one. I feel so much better now that I ended the deal. I hadn't really cared about those details about it before (the little scuff on the fender, the Mercedes badge on the shifter that had faded, etc.) but now I know I would have been unhappy with it and wanted to change it later on. But I wouldn't have been able to afford that, and if you date a girl with the intention of changing her to fit what you want her to be, you are firstly, an asshole, and secondly...that is never going to happen. But now I get to explore again, test drive different cars, explore new options I hadn't originally considered, and I'm going to have a ball. After all, looking for a car (or a girl) is half the fun of getting one. Good luck to you guys, in both your relationships and auto purchases, and remember, there's always going to be a better one. EH |
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| Author: | Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Jun 20, 2013 1:43 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: What Buying A Car Taught Me About Relationships |
Nice metaphor. |
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