So , I've been living together with my girlfriend for 4 months and before that we were in a relationship for 3 months.
So i know her 7 months total.
In the beginning our sex live was amazing, even then I already noticed a higher drive in me but now the difference has become to big. She want's it 2-3 times a week while I want it 2-3 times a day, Which is pretty high.
I feel that we need to have sex more often because I want to get better, more experienced and of course because I like it a lot
She is my first sexual partner.Ok so the problem is that she says she doesn't even understand herself, she says that she is sexually atracted to me but she doesn't feel like having sex and then she starts crying saying it feels like an obligation ( ok maybe I pushed her to much a few months ago but once I noticed what I did wrong I immediatly adjusted myself) And I say but do you like to have sex ? And she says yes I do but ... it's just hard to really get her in the mood that often.
It's also a bit of a negative spiral cause I've started to think things like: she being not attracted to me, me being bad in bed , Etc. And with a low self esteem it's even more impossible to unleash her sexual beast that I know is inside.
Now I think I just got to work on my weak point, it's hard for me to last long in bed, especially when I've been building up so much steam. I ussually last about 10-15 minutes with little breaks in movement. But I think I HAVE to do it hard and long , cause when I let myself go her arousal goes through the roof but I have to stop after 5-10 seconds because I'm already there.
But it's hard to do if you only have sex every 3-4 days.
So that's an overview of what's going on it's hard to be really specific cause it seems like what is really going on is shrouded in fog to us.
Sincerely,
MS
) without sex or masturbation. Now this might sound insane to you, but I HARNESS my sex drive because it motivates me to do other things that are non-related to sex (ie goals of mine, going out more, being a better person, being creative, ect). **This is VERY attractive to girls and will help you pull many of them and or keep your current relationship.